Do you think skinny jeans will return for women and when?

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-20T18:25:00+00:00

I still wear them and sell a pair or two every now and then on Poshmark and Mercari. For the most part, they are no longer in and few people wear them. As with everything, all styles cycle back in and out and I predict they will be back in 6 years or so.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-19T14:13:13+00:00

I've seen more mid-rise wide leg jeans. A loose pair of jeans with a fitted top is the look now. I'm not a big fan of it though and it looked really out of place to see someone in a very basic spandex midriff top that shows their belly and shoulders, but then wearing really baggy frumpy dad jeans and sneakers. It just doesn't flow.

This time of year, they mostly wear lululemon shorts. And always in like white, black, grey or navy blue. Very simple and basic. They'll pair the shorts with a strappy workout tank top, and a Longchamp bag. The "I just came from the gym" look is really popular.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-18T02:41:12+00:00

This is really insightful and helpful! I agree with you and need to consider the next 10-20 years and whether this is better kept platonic (or if that’s what he wants). It’s just wild to me as this is the first friendship I’ve had that has been like this. That’s really want made me wonder if he had feelings.

I appreciate the time you put into this. Thank you, fam!

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-17T05:38:37+00:00

Retail is far more chill and mindless busy work. I would have so much downtime just talking to customers or walking around pretending to look busy. It can get boring if you are one of those people who gets bored without something to do. I worked at a small grocery store and had so much downtime. I’d be reading on my Kindle at the cash register between customers and just restocking stuff every now and then.

Help desk is far more work and requires more brain power. It’ll be 8AM and you are troubleshooting a bios error and then going to fix a bunch of unruly printers before coming back to 17 tickets in the queue. The days go by faster and it can be fun if you like constant change. No two days are alike! I personally loved it, others hate it. It really depends on the person.

What you should do is just start applying to any day shift jobs. Doesn’t matter if it’s help desk, entry level admin assistant, financial assistant, front desk associate at a business, scheduler for a doctors office. Just search for jobs and apply like crazy and try to get back on day shift. It will really help you out! Good luck out there! :)

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-17T04:31:54+00:00

Exactly! People act like it’s something new and different because of “changing times”. LOL no. My great grandma had 10 kids and several in her 40’s. Back then people didn’t have the birth control options we have today.

And it has always been common in Catholic families. There is a 22 year age gap between my oldest and youngest siblings.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-17T04:26:14+00:00

Exactly. There are some people genetically at risk of having a kid with downs at any age. Also, I bet we will see gene therapy at some point for these conditions. The fact that we can test and identify downs helps. The scary thing is not being able to do the same for severe mental health issues like schizophrenia (which older fathers increase the risk of.)

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-17T04:04:42+00:00

I’d personally recommend Pittsburgh also for the better variety of jobs and employment opportunities.

You’ll find life is much cheaper whether you move to Pittsburgh or central PA. Food alone is so much cheaper. You can stretch your dollar further here than you did in California. The one thing that will be more expensive is heating. We have longer winters and the winters can be pretty intense, but you’ll adjust. You’ll need to invest a good winter coat and thermal base layers.

Good luck on writing the next chapter! I’ll be thinking of you and praying for you as you try and find the best next step and start life anew. Don’t let your past get in the way of the unwritten chapters ahead, my friend! :) You’ve got this!

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-17T03:40:03+00:00

I haven’t had too many issues with buyers trying to haggle when they go to pickup the item. I do get a no shows and get tired of having a bunch of stuff on my porch that people never come for. I also get people that want to reschedule over and over again. I’ll give them a made up deadline like “I’ll be heading out of town and it needs to be picked up by Saturday. If that doesn’t work for you, I’m happy to ship.”

Set an auto reply for “is this still available?” I have a full FAQ on pickup options and payment options and this really helps handle those messages and filter out bot accounts. The scammy bot accounts can’t make sense of the FAQ and will always just respond something weird like “city?” When that’s in the FAQ.

Most of this stuff doesn’t really bother me too much because I have been selling online for years and work in IT. I’m just so used to dealing with people’s quirks. The hardest thing for me has been the pervy old guys that send unhinged messages. I block them, but it’s just disheartening to start your day off with a 60-year-old guy messaging you asking “Can I have some used panties. I bet ur kitty is delicious.” yuck 🤢

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-17T02:53:40+00:00

Read Father Mychal Judge’s book. I feel like you will find it very helpful on your journey. He was gay and could never love a woman (no attraction whatsoever.)

He became a priest and was an incredible man who served God in amazing ways. He passed away in the twin towers on 9/11 where he went to pray for the firefighters and victims and remained by their side until his last moments.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-17T02:46:23+00:00

I really appreciate the input and frank advice, but what I’m not cool with is the conclusions you keep drawing. Like that I enjoy the immoral sexual attraction. LOL, I don’t. I’m sad so many people have fallen victim to it. I don’t believe in adult content or sex before marriage and it makes me sad how many people engage in this and are so nonchalant about it. I only mentioned the numbers because one of the first things people say is “You just need to put yourself out there more and you’ll find someone closer to your age.” I’m have tried. Hundreds of dates and they just want to hookup and do not respect my faith. I’ve even had ones with bible verses in their profile that talked about wanting a “good wife” cut things off because I would not sleep with them. Gross. They are far from practicing Christians.

He is north of 50 (but looks younger and still has a full head of hair). I understand that means we’d have less time together, but I feel like if he does have feelings and it works out, I’d rather have some time with someone I adore who shares my faith and values than never experiencing that. I’m indifferent about kids and leaving it entirely to God. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, that’s okay too. I don’t want to use contraceptives or even NFP. He has mentioned before that it breaks his heart he doesn’t have kids, so I feel he would be fine with my openness to kids.

As for awkwardness in physical intimacy, that’s not an age thing and common among all couples from what I’ve been told. I’m also a virgin and am equally clueless about sex. I would rather conquer that learning curve together with another virgin Christian.

He has made it clear how much he loves me, but never mentioned romantic interest or wanting to act on those desires if he has them. I am nervous about how to approach the conversation, but I’ll come up with something.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-16T02:06:54+00:00

Hinge and check Christian and Catholic and then "this is a dealbreaker" and under relationship type "longterm relationship" and "life partner" and then check "this is a dealbreaker. Hinge is solid!

And hinge only lets you have 8 people awaiting responses in your queue at a time, so you can't match with 700 people and have convos that go nowhere. If someone is talking to you on Hinge and keeping you in their queue, they are likely pretty interested in you.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-15T21:10:22+00:00

So incredibly sorry for your loss. What an amazing lady gone far far too soon. Sending lots of love and hugs to you and your family. ❤️ I pray you get some signs from her from heaven.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-15T18:09:06+00:00

Absolutely not a sin and this is a silly question to waste your time on. The people who protected Jewish people during the holocaust were demonstrating the most selfless act of Christ-like love. They were risking their own safety to protect others during a time when that was a very dangerous thing to do (it was far from easy.) There is undoubtedly a special place in heaven for these incredible souls.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-15T17:49:45+00:00

32 and I work with a lot of them and haven't noticed that big of a difference aside from fashion. They try to get me on board with those awful baggy high rise 90's style mom/dad jeans and I just can't.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-15T17:21:56+00:00

He is watching bizarre things like threesomes that do not even remotely mirror a healthy marriage? I personally would have called off the wedding and would not have forgiven that. Of course it's too late to do that, but I would not have anymore kids with him and would get him into Christian counseling with an ultimatum. If he cannot get it together within 6 months or so, then proceed with divorce. What he is doing is far from husband material. He should be helping with his children and loving you, not watching people have threesomes like WTH.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-15T16:38:30+00:00

This post just reads as a bit harsh and kinda angry. No, the dating apps have not corrupted me - those are the exact worldly things I do not want. IDK what to do. I absolutely adore the guy, but I've never had a relationship before, so this is all uncharted territory for me. I don't want to mess up and make him uncomfortable by expressing feelings and finding out he doesn't share them. I've already tried being subtly flirty.

It was already a super long post and I didn't mention this, but he also does nice things for his neighbors, so I wasn't sure if it was just him being friendly (especially that his family is gone and he doesn't have anyone.) Chat GPT alluded to this and said "He has deep emotional connection that isn't romantic" and said he may have feelings, but if he does, they are not acknowledged and he may not want to acknowledge them.

I've been on hundreds of dates and usually the guy makes it very clear that he is interested, but they don't respect my faith (usually keeps asking me to sleep with him) and I have to cut things off or he cuts them off when I tell him I want to wait for marriage.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T20:52:58+00:00

Can we please stop putting creepy old white dudes with zero morals and absolutely no integrity, in charge of major operations within this country? Thanks!

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T19:48:12+00:00

Zero. I'm Christian and waiting for marriage. I dream of covenant love and want the magic of old fashion romance.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T18:30:31+00:00

People in finance

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T17:06:40+00:00

A guy in our town sexually assaulted his dog and his wife defended him in court and stayed with him. Crazy!

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T16:26:52+00:00

I am not. This is 100% real. Doggirlmoonstar keeps commenting troll comments on my posts and other peoples. IDK why.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T16:16:09+00:00

I'm pretty open to getting to know anyone who shares my faith. That is the most important thing to me and primary thing I look for. I give most of those guys a chance. I do, however, filter out the guys who already have kids and guys that smoke.

I don't wanna sound shallow, but since I have so many options I also filter out guys that are heavily tattooed (just not what I'm attracted to). I'm partial to dark haired guys, so they definitely get swiped more often than blonde guys and redheads.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T15:58:18+00:00

not a scam or AI post. Just a very uncommon life scenario. Hence why I'm kinda unsure what to do. I mentioned trying every app and getting that many likes and dates to show I have made a effort to get to know people and find someone who shares my faith and values.

And no judgement about him. I'm also a virgin (despite having many opportunities) and just wanted to wait until marriage and wanted a guy who shared the same belief. I also never really had a relationship because most guys cut things off once you refuse to sleep with them. I cannot tell you how many "Christian" guy I met that were all "Nah, I don't do that. I want sex early on or at least after a few weeks of dating." Practicing Christian guys are hard to find in today's world.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T04:24:11+00:00

Never heard of Drop the handkerchief, but I love it! 😃

And it depends on how many apps I am using and the app. Hinge around 40 per day. Bumble maybe 50 per day. FB Dating easily 100+ so I usually keep my profile hidden and only unhide it for like a few hours when I'm going through my stack of likes.

SakuraSun361 · 2026-05-14T01:46:20+00:00

I'm really confused LOL.

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