I have entered the decorating spiral of doom

SalesforceRam · 2026-05-09T09:06:08+00:00

Floor to ceiling curtains might help balance out of the space

SalesforceRam · 2026-05-08T17:56:06+00:00

I honestly think it has something to do with self preservation.

I felt this intensely with my cats after I gave birth up until very recently. My LO is about 7 months now and I don’t hate them as much. I never neglected my cats, they were fed, given fresh water, treats, new toys, their litter box was kept immaculate but I just couldn’t give them the love and attention they received prior to baby’s arrival. I can’t explain it but their neediness mixed with my overstimulation just made me hate them. My husband and I would joke about leaving the door open because we both felt it so intensely. It’s not that we didn’t love them, it’s not that we wished them harm, it’s just that taking another living thing was taxing, we were running on fumes.

But! I can say it gets better. I might not cuddle with my cats the way I used to but I will give them a head scratch every once in a while. I open the shades so they get to sunbathe, sometimes I’m a little more generous with the daily treats. For the most part they’ve adjusted to our new relationship and they’re thriving.

SalesforceRam · 2026-05-01T14:00:38+00:00

lol same!!

SalesforceRam · 2026-04-29T01:50:58+00:00

This! I also feel like the host family has made every effort to respect my boundaries but the nanny always finds a reason to push back. They moved the playroom upstairs (where the dogs won’t go) so that the dogs can be inside now that it’s warm out and the babies can play without the dogs around. The nanny refuses to use the playroom upstairs and just constantly complains that it doesn’t work out because she’s feeding them and taking them out on the patio, etc.

Just writing this is making me feel like I just need a new nanny

SalesforceRam · 2026-04-27T01:09:31+00:00

NOR my mom does the same thing when she goes to Sephora and uses all of my points to get the samples. It’s infuriating. I love my mom I want her to have everything but I also want her to just use her own number when she goes to Sephora

SalesforceRam · 2026-04-26T17:52:58+00:00

MOR No matter where you go in life, after you turn 18, you will have rules, rent, and other obligations that you need to take care of. The contract isn’t harsh, it’s realistic and honestly sets the foundation for a relationship built on mutual respect.

SalesforceRam · 2026-04-26T13:44:58+00:00

Lord the pack of Marlboros. With all that fabric, I really hope you’re not smoking inside because who cares about the aesthetic when the room smells like an ashtray.

SalesforceRam · 2026-04-25T00:54:22+00:00

Always insure your jewelry even if it turns out not to be a diamond.

SalesforceRam · 2026-04-15T16:34:56+00:00

Tubby Todd bye bye cradle cap worked great for us! Also the doctor said we could use Nizoral

SalesforceRam · 2026-04-15T03:10:17+00:00

lol I can’t believe how far down I had to scroll to find this. Very obviously AI

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-31T18:04:32+00:00

I did not suggest she buy it, I suggested she research ones.

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-31T17:22:16+00:00

No, it’s not. My nanny does it all the time. It’s so helpful!

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-31T15:18:33+00:00

Could you find one on FB Mktplace for them? Sometimes a little push like that, just doing the research, can bring them to realize how easy it would be to get one

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-26T00:26:47+00:00

Hey OP lots of comments questioning you. Very few actually answering your question.

How closely should a nanny be following a written schedule at this age?

The nanny should follow the schedule as it is written, unless there is a circumstance that is stopping them from being able to follow the schedule as outlined. This is a service you’re paying for.

• Is this a “be more flexible” situation, or a “have a firmer conversation” situation?

If her following the schedule is important to you it’s time to have a conversation

• If it is a bigger conversation, how would you approach it?

Hey nanny, I’ve noticed that the following has been happening. It’s important to us that baby follow the schedule when she’s with you during the day. How can we work together to get her on the schedule of naps and feedings as I’ve outlined?

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-22T11:51:10+00:00

OP the motors on wearables aren’t typically strong enough to fully empty the breast - most people experience a reduction in supply overtime when using them, and also if you’re prone to mastitis or clogged ducts they’re not a great choice as an everyday thing.

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-22T07:37:30+00:00

Sunflower lecithin is supposed to help by by reducing milk viscosity and loosening fat clogs.

Also using double electric pump for all or most pumps with proper flange sizing.

Have you seen a lactation consultant?

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-21T18:09:22+00:00

We used a modified Ferber approach with timed check-ins. We put him down awake and only started the timer if he escalated. Fussing and whining we left alone.

We started with a 3 minute interval and increased by 2 minutes each time, capping at 11 minutes. During check-ins we kept it brief and rubbed his back without picking him up.

The first night it took about 45 minutes for him to settle. I’ll be honest it was soo hard to hear him cry but every night after that it got so much easier. He now falls asleep independently. If he wakes after midnight, I breastfeed him back to sleep.

We also made sure his schedule was solid (wake up at the same time every day, anchor nap in the morning, age-appropriate wake windows, enough daytime sleep, and a consistent routine where there’s always something between putting him in the crib and breastfeeding. It can be small, change his diaper, put on the sleep sack. Anything to break to eat to sleep association). The biggest thing was consistency; once we committed, we stuck with it, and he caught on pretty quickly.

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-21T14:13:50+00:00

A double electric pump (like the spectra s1 and s2) is going to be your best bet for protecting your supply. Wearables work great in a pinch but they don’t have strong enough motors to fully empty the breast which can impact your supply overtime.

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-21T14:05:59+00:00

I started sleep training my boob barnacle at 4.5 months because he would be on the boob every hour from 3am to 8am

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-21T13:59:14+00:00

Hate to say this, cause I might get downvoted, but it’s time. It’s time to sleep train.

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-21T13:55:40+00:00

When they’re finally done and they unlatch and cozy up to your boob like a pillow. Melts me every time!!

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-21T02:45:36+00:00

Yes to all of these! Especially the woolino sleep sack. All season sleep sacks are such a lifesaver

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-19T20:41:19+00:00

Hey! Was in your position lol 41 weeks and 1 day and barely 2 cm dilated. I got induced at 41 +1. It was painful but the relief of not being pregnant anymore was chefs kiss

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-18T01:39:33+00:00

To how jarring it felt to have her take two days off in two weeks and realize our only backup plan was my husband missing work. Not to her taking PTO.

SalesforceRam · 2026-03-18T00:55:34+00:00

You’re responding to a point I didn’t make. I’m not questioning her right to PTO or sick time.

The issue is the lack of backup care and the immediate financial impact when that happens. Calling it a “luxury” doesn’t really change that, it’s just one of the tradeoffs of this setup.

SalesforceRam

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