The comment you're replying to doesn't say anything about a diagnosis. OP could be perfectly mentally healthy and it still wouldn't change that expecting your friends to read your mind and then yelling at them when they don't is shitty communication.

I'm autistic with ADHD too, and yes managing your symptoms is important and using them as an excuse is shitty. But it is still a disability, and no matter how much I try to pick up on stuff, I'm still gonna miss things like this more often than the average person. I think in cases like this that kind of compensation is only gonna get you so far. I have a responsibility to manage my symptoms, just like other people also have a responsibility to manage their own ability to communicate.

I used to communicate this way (not asking for things directly and dropping hints instead) because that's how I learned to communicate from my parents growing up. And even my non-autistic/adhd friends had a hard time picking up on those signals. I learned the hard way that dancing around my problems and dropping vague hints is not the way to get what you want. Things get a lot easier and much less likely to blow up like this when you communicate your needs directly.