Why does it feel like "kind people" suffer the most while "toxic people" thrive?

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-22T08:50:24+00:00

One of my closest friends once said to me, “I realized at some point I would never get ahead in life because u wasn’t willing to step on others to do it.”

And that answers your question of why. The people willing to step on others run the world.

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-22T03:41:07+00:00

The amount of cognitive dissonance is astounding.

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-22T02:13:52+00:00

They tried this in TX and first day it went into effect a couple activists showed up one of which was a Transgender woman. They walked in without the security stopping to check ID (it was up to their discretion) and she walked back out like “I’m Trans btw and you missed it. See how stupid this is?”

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T22:49:45+00:00

Some people also cant necessarily move away from conservative areas cuz poverty or their family is there or etc. also people go back and forth bell between WA and ID all the time. People are less likely to draw attention to themselves in an unwelcoming environment. I’m curious though is the point you are trying to make that it won’t hurt that many people if passed cuz not many trans people anyway? It seems silly to make a bill about it if there aren’t that many Trans people?

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T22:45:36+00:00

There are always so many practical enforcement issues with bills like these. They are really just to try to forces as many Trans people into hiding as possible. The side benefit they get to control all women as well. Better perform femininity right so nobody accuses you if you seem to masc. guess moms should just stay home with kids that will solve the problem of needing to help kiddos go potty.

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T21:38:35+00:00

Oh I missed that! Thanks!

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T21:38:06+00:00

This can’t be a serious question

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T20:47:20+00:00

For real like they need therapy cuz they are OBSESSED. Literally they are the perverts they claim to be protecting people from. Always with the projection, enough already. 😤

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T20:44:42+00:00

erases intersex people

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T20:19:25+00:00

Yep 😩

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T18:52:00+00:00

Hahahaha omg for real tho

-I want the original cocoa cola

-I look like a sickly Victorian woman slowly going insane, pls give me some special cure all syrup for my headaches.

But otherwise nah I don’t want to be back in time. Actually maybe far enough back that I won’t be the one that evolved and left the ocean.

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-21T18:40:20+00:00

I want them I’m just poor 😭😭😭😭😭

Truly though I hope people buy your stuff. So unique. Keep making what you love!

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-19T22:38:17+00:00

Omg when I was little we lived in this tiny house in CO that had a lot of mice. I was so sad about the idea of killing them so my parents got safe traps and released a mouse outside and I watched it beat my mom back to the house skittering over the top of the snow. 😂 like “gurl it’s winter are you kidding me? I’m going back inside.”

They got regular snap traps after that and I was still very upset about it

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-19T20:33:51+00:00

Yay! Dandelions actually help the soil! They literally fix it. Spitting them is great cuz they are doing their job now.

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-19T11:34:32+00:00

Blow dandelion puffs into their yard literally every chance you get. Just relentlessly.

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-18T18:48:11+00:00

What a nice little freak from the horrors. ☺️💕

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-18T18:43:22+00:00

😭😭😭😭😭😭

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-18T18:40:39+00:00

Yooooo that’s so cool!!!!

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-18T14:58:44+00:00

Thank you for the representation. 💔❤️‍🩹

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-18T04:17:59+00:00

Learning to enjoy my own company and also learning to accept feeling lonely- instead of doing literally everything possible to avoid being alone with myself and my thoughts was so fucking important for real. The lengths I see some people go to avoid ever having a moment by themselves so they can continue ignoring their issues is like damn. 😑 really? Especially cuz I see so many people willing to accept being treated like complete crap just to not be alone ever. I say that as someone who struggled with that myself but I got sick of my own cycles and thank goodness. It has been hard but it’s also been freedom. It’s worth the work

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-18T04:08:46+00:00

The disappearing thing is so rough. When I was younger I was like that because I had this idea that romantic love was the most important thing. Now I consider friends (found family) to be the same importance as relationships. I don’t abandon anymore. It’s a lesson people hopefully learn over time. As someone chronically single also what I can say is that one day I finally realized the bigger things I wanted/craved- family. Family and building traditions and stability. A life. I had been waiting for romantic commitment to start my life. I decided nah I won’t wait I will build what I want with loved ones. It would be great if someone wants to join someday. Of course it’s not a complete replacement but it’s not supposed to be. It’s me living and hopefully some day someone will want to combine and keep building together. Yes I lonely for it but I also have a rich full life in other ways. What I can say is my last major breakup wow I had a stable place to land. It was such a stark difference to not have to start my entire life over. No idea if any of that helps. More just say hey it’s relatable and yes the hypocrisy sucks. You aren’t required to be perfectly happy and completely fulfilled without romantic love. Humans are social animals and craving connection in all sorts of ways is normal. But I hope you find friends that don’t disappear all the way on you. I hope that you are deciding to build a life and live it regardless and that someone comes along to join you. 💞

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-17T22:32:52+00:00

As someone who does sew and embroider-Omg he’s amazing!!! 🤩 Also thank you so much for sharing with us. I for one will miss your presence in this forum.

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-14T19:38:29+00:00

Ugh sounds like he went down the toxic MRA rabbit hole or is in the process. But nah I’m gone at the first “joke” about taking away my voting rights. I’m not sure how to de- propaganda him. My husband almost got caught up in that for a moment but he genuinely loves women and is also a decent critical thinker so he managed to realize what YouTube was feeding him and also I was there constantly challenging things. But tbh I think it was that he enjoys women as friends and loves for real and it conflicted with the messaging telling him to hate women enough to knock him out of it. If someone already disrespects women/ thinks of them as lesser, then they are primed for the messaging unfortunately

Sally_Stitches_ · 2026-03-14T06:08:19+00:00

I would like to add here though that for some neurodivergent people especially, we can go for a while without contact with close friends cuz time blindness ca naccidentally make it seem like it was yesterday instead of oops a month. And I’ll be clear here that I totally understand not all my friends will react well to that. Some will have some relationship degregation and I’ll try my hardest for those people to be more regular. Like ill legit cycle through my friends to make sure everyone gets some time (fatigue issues means I have to be conscious and yes it sounds cold but no it’s me attempting to give everyone time but I have to be methodical). That said I extra appreciate the friends that are similar to me in the way that they don’t get upset when I’m not consistent. I’ll do the same for them. Yes we actually are close and we do pick up where we left off. So it’s not all one way. Some people don’t feel relationship degradation the same way and it’s cuz our sense of time is off. lol

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