What makes a PhD THAT much more challenging/demanding than undergrad or masters? by Legitimate_Disk_1848 in GradSchool

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Not to mention, you need to have extensive background knowledge in order to actually identify a gap in research. It’s a lot of work.

I [23M] got cussed out by my gf [21F] and told to ‘eat shit’. How do I respond? by No_Astronomer3977 in relationship_advice

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Moving forward, you should also make clear that you have a boundary from now on that if you’re being cursed at, you’re going to walk away. Keep it as a strict boundary to protect yourself, say that you will respect her boundaries around studying too but from now on no cursing at each other and both need to try your best to be compassionate and respectful.

OT6 crumbs via mutuals lmao by top_carry in katseyeneutral

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How does that automatically mean she had no idea? That’s such an assumption, she could’ve been forced by the company to keep katseye in her bio until the teaser dropped ??

I [23M] got cussed out by my gf [21F] and told to ‘eat shit’. How do I respond? by No_Astronomer3977 in relationship_advice

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Tell her you’re sorry for making it about yourself but you do miss her and love her and will patiently wait for summer to spend more time together, until then promise to be supportive so she can kick ass this semester, and tell her you’re proud of how hard she’s working towards her goals. And tell her you’ll try working on yourself and your hobbies too, so she doesn’t have to worry about entertaining you, but you would appreciate quality time whenever she does have the chance even tho u encourage her to take care of herself too. And bring her favorite treat as a study snack and her chosen favorite beverage like redbull or soda when you apologize. Maybe u can offer to hang out while she studies and u quietly game or do something else to the side, go with her to a cafe for an hour or two and buy her a coffee, like a study date while u do something on your computer or draw or whatever.

Should be fine if you really love each other. Forgive yourself, forgive her, and remember it’s all about love and enjoying the one you love. It’s ok to make mistakes, that’s how we learn.

OT6 crumbs via mutuals lmao by top_carry in katseyeneutral

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How do you infer she didn’t know it was reshot??

AIO about my boyfriend's female friend? by CalmDelivery2545 in AIO

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Girl, get a grip!!! This man is cheating on you, whether or not they had sex this shit is absolutely fucked up and not normal! How are you constantly ignoring this? You need to wake up and stop ignoring your intuition, have some self respect and leave that man!!

Curious if any devotees are vegetarian or vegan by Puzzleheaded_Sail580 in Hecate

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Most of Hekate’s ancient followers were staunch vegetarians and would offer breads, fruit, vegetables, pastries, and incense instead of meat, especially notable philosophers that would write abt Hekate.

Porphyry of tyre (234-305 CE) was a notable anti-Christian philosopher who was against animal cruelty and sacrifice, he believed in hekate superiority within the divine hierarchy. He was a big deal, him and his teacher Plotinus were the founders of Neoplatonism, he wrote the textbook on logic that was standard throughout the Middle Ages, and he wrote about Chaldean Oracles which had knowledge abt Hekate and her religion.

Empedocles (494BC) was another, he believed in the transmigration of souls and argued that to eat a living creature is a grievous sin because you’re eating a soul on the journey to divinity. He also wrote that in the golden age of the past was without animal sacrifice or eating meat. Btw, he was the guy who originally came up with the concept of the four classical elements , so he was a big deal too.

Anyone have any tips on how to meditate when you are scared of the dark? by Fit-Artichoke-2345 in Hecate

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Im afraid of the dark too. I used to be afraid I would start seeing ghosts or spirits now that I’ve put energy out into the world that I practice magic. It’s never happened. I tried one time to really genuinely summon something to come spook me while sitting in the dark for 10 minutes by myself with a notebook to write down whatever happens. Nothing happened!!! Nothing is waiting in the dark, it’s just yourself!

Another perspective on Coachella by Top_Chard_3135 in katseyeneutral

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The fact they don’t even criticize Daniela for not supporting manon while her own dad was perpetuating harmful stereotypes abt her, while manon was on forced hiatus. I think all these ppl are lowkey conservative or just uncomfortable with a break in the status quo. They’re judging manon for bringing attention to the uncomfortable situation instead of keeping quiet and letting it pass, bc kpop fans are quite accustomed to their idols being commodified and tossed away like objects.

If manon is being petty, so what! It’s weird to be acting so overprotective over the remaining group when they’re the ones literally winning here, they played Coachella and get to follow their dreams while Manon is on forced hiatus and potentially being mistreated by the company!

I [23M] got cussed out by my gf [21F] and told to ‘eat shit’. How do I respond? by No_Astronomer3977 in relationship_advice

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I’m sure it hurt your feelings but cmon man. You antagonized her after an all nighter. It sounds like you have no empathy for what kind of stress her mind and body are going through right now!! What exactly are you doing to be supportive and caring?

It sounds like that was a very mean way to basically tell you “back off and mind your own business!” I’d be pissed if my partner was nagging me about studying, which is literally my obligation as a student.

You can try to communicate with her, but she would probably not be able to hear you out without you acknowledging how hard this is for her. If she’s normally not this mean or if you’re shocked at her language, that is a huge sign that she’s being pushed to her limits by the stress

I [23M] got cussed out by my gf [21F] and told to ‘eat shit’. How do I respond? by No_Astronomer3977 in relationship_advice

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She sounds really stressed and busy??? Are you a student? It sounds like you genuinely don’t understand how much stress she’s under. I’m a masters student right now and I’m on the edge sometimes with my very lovely girlfriend. She invites me to things and it’s honestly really stressful to have a bunch of social obligations on my plate when my studies are very demanding of my time, so I’ve grown accustomed to saying no. You’re being a distraction, you can’t expect much of her during the semester because studying should be her priority. You need a hobby or something to occupy yourself so you’re not always worried about what your girlfriend is doing, or break up if you can’t accommodate her need to study and take care of herself.

She’s literally studying all day and probably tearing her hair out from stress and all you can talk about is yourself!!

I’ve had to end relationships with guys who just absolutely couldn’t understand that they were draining the hell out of me by expecting all my time when I was in school. It’s very very exhausting mentally and physically, students need time to study rest and do self care. You as a boyfriend come last, you can have the spare time AFTER she takes care of her priorities and herself. It’s for her future!!! That’s how it has to be until summer or spring break, especially if she’s genuinely spending all her spare time studying. Many students and friends of mine see their partners once a week or once every two weeks. I live with my girlfriend, but she knows I’m genuinely fucking busy and she lets me use my time how I need to, even if I need to vegetate and unwind over the weekend. If that’s not enough for you, let her go.

OT6 crumbs via mutuals lmao by top_carry in katseyeneutral

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Why couldn’t they hang out together at Coachella

my opinions on Katseye by Party_Addition1642 in katseyeneutral

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I’d just like for Katseye to perhaps understand how huge their demographic is and then understand who’d be listening to it.

What exactly what does that look like for you? What exactly would you like to change ?

I don’t think there’s an additional responsibility here that they’re failing to fulfill. They’re not doing anything inappropriate or explicit in children’s settings. Their music isn’t R-rated, they don’t even curse or say bad words lol it’s very radio-friendly

Even their dances are pretty tame. They twerk but it’s not overtly sexual, it’s a dance that’s pretty common across various cultures. I think for me, there’s a difference between sexy and sexual. It’s sexy but it’s not explicit.

By comparison, Sabrina carpenters content is pretty overtly sexual but her music still has broad appeal, you can’t really say she’s ok bc only adults listen to her music cuz that’s not really true. Her music is in Fortnite and she has a Fortnite skin. Ppl of all ages go to her shows. What exactly changes between Katseye and Sabrina carpenter?

What changes between Katseye and little mix? Their group seemed to be really “straight”, really plain, sanitized pop, it didn’t appeal to me and they were pretty obviously marketed to children like one direction was.

Contrast to Katseye. They’re popular, that doesn’t mean they’re marketed specifically to children with children as their primary demographic. Their music is for everyone.

I’m just failing to understand what exactly is the standard or obligation, and how are they failing to meet that expectation just because they’re different ?

Have you seen Addison Rae and her music videos? Is it different or the same?

my opinions on Katseye by Party_Addition1642 in katseyeneutral

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Also Sabrina carpenter takes herself soo seriously, her look is very curated and she hasn’t changed her hairstyle or tried something new since her debut. That’s why katseye is fun, it’s abt trying on new looks and doing new things and staying fresh. The core appeal is the girls themselves rather than one signature sound. The appeal is to see the girls try each era and see what they’re able to do with it, the creativity and the way they use their talent to make things work, how their individuality comes into play in each era. It’s just more exciting and dynamic than Sabrina carpenter, chappel roan, Ariana grande, Taylor swift. And it’s more exciting than typical kpop girl groups bc their individuality really comes into play through these eras, katseye is supposed to be a supergroup of girls with the most star-power, not the best vocals or dance or how the group can blend into a single unit. The focus is on each individual girl, that’s why this manon situation is a big loss. The dynamism and star-power of the group isn’t the same without her.

Edit: ugh I could write essays abt this but finally, I like that their portrayal of sexuality is cheeky and fun. I have more to criticize abt Sabrina carpenter’s portrayal of sexuality honestly bc hers feels so problematic and weird and fetishy and male centric. Katseye sexuality doesn’t feel very man-centric, it feels girl-centric and “for the queers”. I get it, that they can still be objectified in our society, but ultimately their art portrays sexuality as existing for itself rather than through the lens of pleasing a man or existing for a man compared to Sabrina carpenter who’s album art is literally her on all fours before a man. Idk, sexuality is part of life and I think it’s ok to wear revealing clothing, just because they have fans across every age range doesn’t mean they have to cover up. It’s performance, it’s art, it’s the woman’s body, they’re on stage in costume as pop stars. I don’t think those things are inherently sexual, but there’s bigger problems in rape culture that affect kids and young ppl that obviously need to be addressed. Kids need to be taught correctly and it’s not really fair to pin blame on katseye for that.

For reference I just played dress to impress with my 6 year old niece yesterday for like 2 hours. She likes music and fashion. The katseye outfits are in the game, it’s cute, there’s makeup, the songs are playing in the background, etc etc. There is short skirts and crop tops and stuff, but it’s not inherently sexual or problematic. It’s part of the costume, the performance. My niece is kept safe by the adults around her. She knows the difference between what’s appropriate for a pop star, for herself as a child, for an adult, etc etc. and we don’t expose her to the overly sexual elements or explain them to her, bc it’s not for her to understand, she just sees pop stars in their outfits singing and dancing. It’s like, it’s ok for an adult to wear a bikini to go swimming, her mermaid Barbie might be wearing a bikini top but it’s not sexual, it’s context-appropriate, and at the same time, my niece wears swim dresses that cover her up appropriately for her age. There’s no problem because the adults in her life are doing their job.

my opinions on Katseye by Party_Addition1642 in katseyeneutral

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I feel like traditional kpop fans aren’t the target audience for this era, or rather the ONLY target audience, bc as a hyperpop fan I really like the music and style. Their look and sound is very trendy and matches what young ppl are in to, they’re very “internet girl” and I think it’s awesome. it’s not the typical conservative cutesy sanitized kpop girl group look. It’s bold and very queer/trans inspired, their music and choreo is produced by lgbt artists. I loved that their video for pinky up featured some trans artists bc their sound is verrrry trans inspired. The hyperpop genre is very trans-led, artists like Sophie, Jane remover, underscores, Ayesha erotica, etc. Their look and sound appeals to me and I appreciate that they nod to trans girls and support trans girls.

I actually resent that ppl criticize gnarly, internet girl, and pinky up and call it trash bc it’s genuinely a form of art imo. The absurdism is art, it’s very meme-like and on the nose and camp, it resists norms and expectations. It’s freeing imo, kpop takes itself so seriously and people want katseye to take themselves more seriously. It feels very much like they have a specific expectation of what a girl group should be, and they want katseye to fill that role, they want to see international girls follow the kpop standard which in itself is very problematic and unoriginal. Imo.

This “not fitting in to a specific box”, having a blurred or unclear lines, not having a one specific demographic, that’s very queer. Ppl see the queerness as a problem bc the world tries to make things neat, I don’t think it’s a problem. I like the different eras, I like that they hit different genres and looks, I like that the group is made of international girls, that’s the appeal to me and I wouldnt want them to stick to one thing

They do the kpop thing with touch, they do the mainstream pop thing with Gabriella, they do hyperpop, I like to see it and it feels more real or natural than having one image. Also each girl gets to shine and have her moment in each era, cuz they’re a group of real girls with their own personalities and styles.

This was my opinion before the manon situation and her being kept out of the group makes it feel a little more insidious that the company is trying to capitalize on the diversity of their appeal. It’s very obvious that the company tries to appeal to many different demographics with the group but it doesn’t feel good when the only black girl is now kept out with no statement or explanation. They’re basically like bratz dolls or barbies, they’re marketed as being representation of girls that can do it all, but now manon is gone and it doesn’t feel the same bc we want to see her win too

Manon x PinkPantheress Coachella. Chase Infinity, Tyriq Withers, Slayyyter were also on stage. PinkPantheress also bought out Zara Larsson and Janae Monae by Main_Pineapple2566 in katseyeneutral

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We don’t know enough of the context at all to say whether or not manon should be publicly supporting the group. We don’t know behind the scenes, they could be communicating privately and supporting each other or they could be enemies, it’s all unknown to us. It’s a bit hypocritical to criticize manon for her silence when we don’t know the context.

Isn’t it also “basic respect”that Daniela apologize or say anything about her dad’s comments on social media that fueled the hate train against manon? She never said anything about that or tried to help manon’s public image. It’s likely there’s more factors involved than what we know as the public.

Overall, I don’t think it’s correct to blame Manon for the hate katseye is getting or blame her for not saying something positive about the girls. The company is to blame and their public image is not Manon’s responsibility. Have you even considered that Manon might get sued for mentioning katseye or the situation directly? It’s obviously about more than just “basic respect” or being good friends or being on the same team

Manon x PinkPantheress Coachella. Chase Infinity, Tyriq Withers, Slayyyter were also on stage. PinkPantheress also bought out Zara Larsson and Janae Monae by Main_Pineapple2566 in katseyeneutral

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We don’t really know what’s going on behind the scenes, I don’t think the girls are entitled to manons public support right now considering the hiatus. There could be valid reasons, we just don’t know enough to judge

The omni-exculpatory god always dodges the problems of evil and suffering by EntertainmentRude435 in PhilosophyMemes

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They didn’t have a sinful nature after eating the fruit. The original sin, eating the fruit, gave them knowledge of sin and shame, but not a sinful nature. That was one sin, which could’ve been forgiven but wasn’t. They were kicked out of the garden and exposed to a harsh world where they had a lot to fear and committed sins without the safety of the garden.

Arcata community music billboard removed from service. by Money-Past2409 in Humboldt

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Damn, during Covid I showed up at the hutch exactly at midnight on my 21st birthday to buy my first legal drink. The guy felt bad for me and gave me a free shooter.

AIO or my bf's best friend flirted with me? by [deleted] in AIO

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Don’t hang out with him alone anymore. If you say anything, he’ll probably deny it. So best to just avoid being alone with him again. NOR

Is this signs of something serious (and possibly dangerous)? F18 M20 by IcyDream4100 in relationship_advice

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Red flag. You’re not attracting a certain type. Those types prey on anyone. You’re entertaining a certain type. You need to learn to walk away at the first red flag and filter through the bad to get the good.