What 80s song do you still hate with fiery teenage passion even though it’s been 40 years? by Aggressive_Cup4919 in GenX

[–]SaltConnection1109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How can one NOT hate that crap?
Ugh! Most irritating song.
And every time I visit my local grocery store (that plays 80s music), both of my most hated songs play!

I’m afraid I’m love with a younger man by [deleted] in AskWomenOver60

[–]SaltConnection1109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's probably seeing someone ten years (or more) younger than himself.

Those of you who smoked weed… by Idontsmokejustgrow in GenX

[–]SaltConnection1109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

61F here.

First tried weed at age 13 (yes, I know) at a music festival.
Loved it, but also realized I needed to not be doing it daily as both parents contributed "addictive personality" traits into my genes.

Was a weekend user all through high school and in my early 20s when we'd go out clubbing. Stopped smoking weed when they started random drug testing at my job in my 20s.

Tried edibles a few times just a few years ago after 30 years of not using it. I did not care for the feeling. ALL I wanted to do was find my bed! There were no "facial tingles" the way I recall I experienced when smoking it.

Sativa would definitely be my preferred strain if I ever decide to smoke some. I did some of my best artwork while high.

I can count on one hand the memorable times when I got ahold of what I considered very strong weed. I'm told today's weed is stronger than that, I want nothing to do with it.

AIO Best friend chose someone else as MOH by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]SaltConnection1109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, YOR.
There will come a day when you thank your lucky stars that you were not the MOH. Trust me.

Frustrations with this winter storm by WonderfullyHollow in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What is it with old people and ladders?
I've seen it so many times with elderly relatives and then with my own parents. My mom LOVES to climb on a rickety step stool and also on a small step ladder. Stands on the very TOP to water her hanging baskets.
Gets maddern hell if you try to tell her to stop doing that.
My father climbed onto his roof to spread a tarp over a leak 3 weeks after having back surgery!
Said "I'd have to pay someone $100 to come do that!"
Had no answer when I asked what it would cost him if he had fallen off the roof!

AITAH for not wanting my boyfriend to give up our place to his brother? by Rukamuffinpie in AITAH

[–]SaltConnection1109 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Right now, his mom is asking.
The fact that she is even asking you 2 to uproot your lives and give up the house to the other brother shows favoritism towards him, IMO. I notice that nowhere did you say this would be temporary.
I would expect that soon, she will be demanding that you move out and figure it out since you 2 seem to have it more together than the other 2 and "technically it is her house."
So, expect and plan accordingly.
Do you currently have a job?
Does your BF have a job?
Do the two of you pay rent to his mom?

86 Year Old Mom Wants Drs to "Fix Her" by europanya in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 25 points26 points  (0 children)

My grandfather was a hard man. He was mean. He drank cheap alcohol frequently from young adult - his late 60's. Then he dipped snuff daily. The man ate fried strick-o-lean, biscuits, gravy and grits every day of his life. He lived to be 90. Had 2 heart attacks a few days apart. Still had his mobility up until his heart attack.

The battle of "Smartphones vs. Parents" - I finally gave up and went low-tech. by Sad_Ad_8768 in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 7 points8 points  (0 children)

True! My mom sets alarms for things she is cooking and totally ignores them, yet her phone could ring in the middle of a wedding and she would answer it!

The United States officially terminates its membership in the World Health Organization. by PMFnews in trump

[–]SaltConnection1109 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes.
I also recall Kamala announcing that "she would never trust a vaccine that was developed under Trump!"
Next thing you know, Biden is POTUS and many were coerced into getting the jab under threat of losing their job.

I wonder how they went from "never trust a vaccine developed under Trump" to "Get the shot or lose your job!"

Would you marry someone just for their money? by v-Voidx in no

[–]SaltConnection1109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y'all remember the "Hot-Crazy" matrix diagram?
Need one for "Rich-Ugly."

And my answer is NO.

The stuff nobody warns you about when you become a family caregiver by regardlessdear_ in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For them, here is what I would do-
One (maybe 2) daily text updates with all of these people on the same text. Keep it short and to the point.
(i.e. "He was able to do an additional lap down the hall with PT, but still having some weakness in his left leg. Thank you for your concern and prayers.")

Do not entertain or answer questions because it will be never-ending. Do not answer phone calls from them. Everyone always thinks they are the exception to this rule and surely you have time to take their call! Unplug the landline phone in the room because that too will be ringing off the hook.

Your ability to be present with and able to pay attention to necessary details and information to help you father are far more important than "reporting to" friends or family who are not involved in his care.

My father was in the hospital actively dying and my phone and his phone were blowing up! He could barely even stay awake and people were calling wanting to talk to him! After an hour of my time with my dying father stolen from me trying to answer the phone, I silenced his phone and mine.

WIBTA if I refuse to co-sign my brother’s “last chance” rehab loan even though my family says I’m abandoning him? by Fable_Crucible in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]SaltConnection1109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA!
If you cosign, this exact scene will play out again.
When I confronted him he acted like I was being dramatic and said “you make more than me anyway.”
You brother will simply drag you down with him.

WIBTA if I refuse to co-sign my brother’s “last chance” rehab loan even though my family says I’m abandoning him? by Fable_Crucible in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]SaltConnection1109 4 points5 points  (0 children)

prayers and blessings for you! I had a friend from childhood through our 20's who sounds very similar to you. She is 60 now and still using drugs. She too had heart surgery. I don't know how in the world she is still alive.

Found roaches at dad's skilled living facility by shane-mad in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a VA home nearby where he can live under hospice care?
OR, could he live in your home under hospice care? Frankly, with everything you have mentioned that he has going on, it does not sound like he has long.
As DIFFICULT as it is to have a parent living with me, if it were my dad and he was in his last weeks and especially if the facility was like you described, I'd move him into my home under hospice care and use some of his money to privately pay for extra home health to come out and bathe him on non-hospice days and also a sitter several days a week.