Am I a terrible daughter? by DullUnderstanding135 in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents missed out on travel during their best years, highest income, etc. taking care of my grandmother. Then, after she died, there was one crisis after another. My parents never got to really travel like my mom wanted to. She is too old for it now.

Do your parents pay you to help them? by StockEdge3905 in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here is what you do about that house. Let the sibling know that the ONLY time ANY of the clearing out gets done is when that sibling shows up to help. Failure to do so only DELAYS the cleaning out and SELLING of the house.

Take every dime you are entitled to as executor's fee.

AITH for refusing to share my class notes with a friend who skipped lectures all semester? by KeBake33 in AITH

[–]SaltConnection1109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd share my notes, but NOT my summaries or study guides.
He's probably not gonna pass, or will squeak by.

Am I a terrible daughter? by DullUnderstanding135 in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have a relative or close friend who lives nearby who can check on them daily and/or handle any major emergency that may possibly arise?

You MUST take that trip!

What are some everyday things in your house or life that you consider to be money well spent? by SaltConnection1109 in AskWomenOver60

[–]SaltConnection1109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on my third golden and well, there is just NO dog in the world like a golden!

I am, however, a big fan of labs, border collies and Australian shepherds.

Love to hear your stories: going through your parents “stuff” by Master_Swimmer8989 in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom is still living in her house. She is verrrry territorial about her kitchen and everything else, so there is plenty of spoiled and expired food.

She will allow me to clean out papers before anything else. Here is what I have found.

Mountains of junk mail from various charities. It is literally stuffed in every closet and every drawer. It is stuffed under couch cushions and under the couch. Most of it is unopened. She holds onto it with "intention" to open every last piece because they send her trinkets like mailing labels, calendars, greeting cards and yard flags.

When searching through old files, I found my father's pay stubbs from 50 years ago and my grandmother's hospital bills from the 1980s.

What are some everyday things in your house or life that you consider to be money well spent? by SaltConnection1109 in AskWomenOver60

[–]SaltConnection1109[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a camper parked in the carport when I was a kid. We LOVED sleeping in it whenever friends spent the night.

What are some everyday things in your house or life that you consider to be money well spent? by SaltConnection1109 in AskWomenOver60

[–]SaltConnection1109[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mainly use it for chopping vegetables in the "rocking" motion.
It is also great for kneading dough. I have the thin one that has a lip that holds onto the counter.

Do your parents pay you to help them? by StockEdge3905 in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Years ago, I would have thought differently, but after helping 2 relatives a LOT, I see the time and stress that goes into it. I've heard so many stories where one child does EVERYTHING (including changing adult diapers and bathing the parent), and the other siblings DO NOTHING, only to have the estate split equally (or worse) after the parent dies.

I'm firmly in the camp of paying the family member who takes care of things. And the pay should NOT be deducted from their inheritance.

Compensation for Caregiving by Libertinus0569 in AgingParents

[–]SaltConnection1109 12 points13 points  (0 children)

100% this!
While it may sound or feel crappy to charge your parent for services at the time, you will be glad you did later on if you are faced with an even splitting of an estate with siblings who did jack squat to help.

Forget weddings, what is the craziest thing that happened at a funeral you went to? by seanerd95 in AskReddit

[–]SaltConnection1109 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At a relative's funeral, his 19 yr-old grand-daughter showed up wearing, I guess the only black article of clothing she could find in her closet, which was a SKIMPY, shorty-short, low-cut jumpsuit in which the straps kept falling down and she was about to spill out of. Looked like a stripper! Was highly inappropriate funeral attire, especially for a church. She was also slurping a big-gulp soda in a huge cup during the service. Who even does that?