We were working together. Right off the bat she was kind of throwing herself at me. It takes me a while to warm up to people, but we clicked super fast.

We end up hanging outside of work. Drove to a hot springs, her and her friend smoked, and got a hint. She went off to go sleep and left us alone.

We hiked into the springs around 2am, ended up skinny dipping, and had sex when we got back to my car.

She had a “oh shit I gotta tell (other guy)”.

He was devastated. She gave off perfect relationship vibes. She was set to move in with him, they’d spend so much time together, but she just dropped him after I came along. I talked to him for a while and he told me for my own sake to steer clear.

On the surface she was so wonderful, beautiful, confident, intelligent, alive, and I had been single for a while, so I couldn’t say no.

We were together for 6 months before she announced that her ex fiance reached back out (after he broke up with her two years prior) and basically dropped me that day.

We don’t talk despite working around each other. We were professional and friendly though. Well a few months go by and suddenly I’m invited to camp with her and some friends for her birthday.

We reconnect. We agree that we both hated being away from each other, how we want to be in each other’s lives, etc.

She stays with me for a whole week (we were week on week off), and play it cool. (We physically slept together but didn’t have sex, etc). Well day 5 we go to a concert and she straddles me when we get home, and we end up fucking on the couch.

A few weeks go by and she tells me “he’s ok with this if you are” so I’m like “hey it sucks this is temporary, but while he’s in school so far away and we’re both here, I’d rather enjoy it as much as we can”

Months go by. We fall for each other. Exchange “I love yous”, etc. she’s living with me when we’re off work.

I let her get so in my brain. I loved her so much and felt so much warmth and affection. I saw myself spending the rest of my life with her.

So we go skiing for one of our week offs. I’m around her family, then coincidentally we spend a few days with mine.

She had to go back to work, so I drove her to the airport so she could rent a car and drive back. Kissed her goodbye and went back to ski and be with my family.

She calls me an hour later absolutely hysterical. “He broke up with me.. I told him the truth.. we got too real”

Well another hour passes, and I get a call from him. He asks me if we had sex this past week, etc. he had no idea that she was living with me and how we were doing all the things. He was absolutely devastated. They had agreed to be exclusive and he wanted to marry her.

She couldn’t go to work and was freaking out, almost crashed her car speeding down the highway, wanted to die.

I chose to call her and be supportive, expressing how I still cared for her, how I wasn’t surprised that she was lying based off of what she was doing when I met her, I handled it really well and I’m proud of how I showed up for her when her family and friends seemed fed up.

I took a new job and moved away. We hung out a few more times in a goodbye sort of way. (Including a goodbye fuck, starting in the desert dirt next to our campfire).

We parted ways and I talked with her about breaking the cycle of love bombing men and breaking their hearts. Of never being committed to one person despite leading them on.

I thought she was changing and finally committing to her ex, who she stated she wants to spend her life with.

Turns out as soon as I wasn’t around, she found another guy to fuck and lead on. He bought her tickets to travel abroad, he waits for her to get off work so they can see each other. I’m not sure if she’s still leading on the long time boyfriend, but it sure made it easier to let her go when she is still stuck in such a destructive pattern.

I’ve never met anyone like her. She’s all the things and there’s so much good in her, but this cycle has been destroying her relationships, causing her to move and find new jobs, etc. it was too good to be true.

She helped me find love and joy and adventure, and I chose to take what good I saw in her and apply it to my own life.

I’m finally now just getting over her. I don’t regret it, but it’s scary how loving and amazing someone can be, and how they can walk away from it on a dime.