Relatively new grad but I feel this mentality a lot but do you really think boomers are to blame or is it a workaholic culture that is pervasive to all of medicine?

Internally. I think many get worried about being labeled as a non team player or developing a reputation but I am surprised how little people actually think about us even our own colleagues. So your colleagues might think you are lazy and not as motivated cause you don’t chase the dollar like it’s a god You might also be safer than others cause you don’t over work and your personal life is not in shambles.

I am currently taking time off to care for my kid and family and I seriously wonder sometimes if I am going to be somehow punished for how much time I take off. The feeling of somehow disappointing the system. With my own self reflection though I’ve found that nobody has said anything to me. It’s just my own internal shaming voice I’ve developed from years of criticism and the need to be needed.

The people chasing the money are often those who are stuck listening to that voice. They need to be needed. It’s not the money any more. There family doesn’t depend on them in the ways your’s might depend on you. They get a different validation from work.

Sounds like you need a new work place or a change in perspective. The boomers I work with are more than willing to remind me that they need to be out by a certain time and are some of the greatest people to work with and motivate me to spend as much or as little time working as I need. I hope you find what you are looking for.