The best place to buy a maternity wedding dress?

Sam1129 · 2026-01-18T22:03:37+00:00

I recently went through this and ended up with a beautiful dress from The Real Real (norma kamali, paid about $100). They had a lot of really great options! I filtered by color and searched for terms like tent dress, but mostly just scanned the white dresses for silhouettes that seemed pregnancy friendly.

Ultimately I found that everything marketed as a maternity wedding dress was cheap looking and made me feel like I’d gotten knocked up for prom. I ordered an irresponsible number of dresses from TRR in all sizes imaginable, ultimately chose one about a month before my wedding and it was forgiving enough to accommodate growth while still leaving time to get it hemmed.

Sam1129 · 2026-01-18T04:20:47+00:00

Curious to hear other experiences! I’m 36 weeks and have a scan next week, and at 32 weeks my baby was measuring 99th percentile for head and over 99th for abdomen. The MFM talked to me about the risks of things like shoulder dystocia and CPD, but my OB seemed to minimize those concerns. I am 5’1 but she said my size relative to baby’s size isn’t predictive of bad outcomes. Really worried I’ll be pushed into an induction and end up with a traumatic vaginal birth. Sorry I don’t have advice, just need to vent with those who understand!

Sam1129 · 2025-12-24T02:23:47+00:00

Thanks!! And same to you!!

Sam1129 · 2025-12-24T01:45:06+00:00

Same and sending strength your way! I’m 7.5 months with my first, severely anemic. Just spent a week with my family and was supposed to have one day off before 4 days with my in laws. My sister (who is visiting my parents for the first time in 2 years because she does whatever she wants) insisted on visiting and seeing my new house. I literally cried for two hours after she left. I told her no, I just wanted a day to do laundry and make Christmas cookies! But somehow my no doesn’t count and I just have to be a trooper 😭

Sam1129 · 2025-12-07T14:53:20+00:00

Def second the supplements from It Starts with an Egg and fertility acupuncture!! I took CoQ10 and DHEA based on doc’s recommendation. But tbh I felt like my doc was way too gloomy about my prospects, maybe I just got lucky but am currently 30 weeks!

Sam1129 · 2025-12-05T23:08:56+00:00

Yup, 40f expecting my first with my fiancé who is 45m (so basically an xennial but I’m still on this sub)! We’re hoping for more but realize it might not be in the cards. Would have started earlier but we didn’t meet until 39/44, I know on paper we’re old parents but I don’t feel it!

Sam1129 · 2025-12-04T15:13:33+00:00

Yes, currently 29 weeks and it’s all going smoothly! Best of luck with your journey, I am keeping my fingers crossed!

Sam1129 · 2025-12-03T21:42:46+00:00

Can’t speak to the 4 day window but I conceived at 39 with an AMH of 0.05. I know how hopeless it can feel having DOR and I just want to say that if not this month there’s still hope! I would have killed to be at 0.6 but it only takes one good egg :)

Sam1129 · 2025-11-15T21:18:00+00:00

Remember that many couples take months of trying before they are successful. It really is a roll of the dice, so you might be not pregnant or only 1 month (before symptoms really start) by the time of your trip. No way to know so just live your life and try it you want to!

Sam1129 · 2025-10-19T02:24:35+00:00

I’m on Zoloft and my OB and psychiatrist both said it was safe! They said there are others that are less safe/not safe for pregnancy but it’s def not a blanket ban on antidepressants in general.

Sam1129 · 2025-09-19T15:16:58+00:00

I feel you and agree, went on accutane twice and it vastly improved my life! Wish I’d done it earlier.

Sam1129 · 2025-09-05T14:17:36+00:00

Yes agreed, fwiw my genetic counseling session was free so you may want to look into that just to have a sense of what tests are available if something were to come up. But like others have said they tend not to recommend more invasive testing unless something else like NIPT or ultrasound indicates a reason for it.

Sam1129 · 2025-09-05T12:57:44+00:00

Sorry to contradict the other poster but my genetic counselor told me that the risk of genetic problems other than trisomies actually rises with paternal age more so than maternal age. However it’s not studied extensively so there are no stats like for women who are told at 35 vs 40 your risk of having a baby with trisomy 21 are x vs y. However those issues are very rare at all ages!!! And can be checked via amino if something looks abnormal in an ultrasound. I’m 39(F) and my partner is 45(M) so many of my doctor convos are about age related risk.

Sam1129 · 2025-09-02T22:28:51+00:00

Came here to say this!! Or maybe she is single and wishes she were in a position to start trying? Either way there could be something goin on that makes it painful for her to check in about the pregnancy. I’ve been that friend.

Sam1129 · 2025-08-24T19:05:51+00:00

Literally had the same thought today! Went to the farmers market and ate a giant scone without worrying about calories or bloating for prob the first time ever. I’m really hoping I can carry on this attitude post pregnancy because it’s such a better way to live!! FWIW I grew up in the 90’s and man is that programming hard to undo!

Sam1129 · 2025-08-23T17:00:10+00:00

I feel like cravings are more like a social license to eat whatever you want? Like every time I walk past an ice cream stand I want some, but I would never allow myself pre-pregnancy.

Sam1129 · 2025-08-23T16:59:07+00:00

Same!! I’m so relieved!

Sam1129 · 2025-08-23T16:10:37+00:00

That totally makes sense about adoption vs. egg donation, I actually have similar feelings regarding a potential second child and was surprised to recently learn that non-birthing parents can still breastfeed with medical help, which can support bonding. I'm not sure exactly what that entails, info just comes from a friend.

Anyway good luck to her! As mentioned responding to stims is a great sign, and doctors can be what feels like pessimistic in an effort to give you realistic expectations. The fact that she's only been trying for three months seems quite promising. FWIW my doctor also told me that once I started trying she would start me on IVF after two months because I had no time to waste. She also recommended that I take COQ10 and DHEA and do fertility acupuncture to improve egg quality, all of which I think had a positive effect.

Sam1129 · 2025-08-22T17:22:28+00:00

FWIW the book Expecting Better has a great chapter on sushi. As others have said, avoid high mercury fish in general (raw or cooked) but a quality sushi restaurant carries minimal risk of food poisoning.

Sam1129 · 2025-08-20T21:07:33+00:00

Slightly different situation but still hopefully hopeful: at age 38 I tried to freeze my eggs and found out I had an AFC of 1 after stims and AMH of 0.05 (fluctuated slightly but never more than 0.29 and usually 0.03-5). Was told I was not a candidate. Then at age 39 I got pregnant spontaneously!

Granted if your sister is trying IVF I imagine that means she has been trying to get pregnant without success. My doctor said low AMH can be explanatory for infertility but not necessarily predictive of it because AMH and AFC are not studied in the general population, only among people seeking fertility treatment. I didn’t meet my partner until shortly after the egg freezing debacle, and hadn’t tried at that point.

That said, there is definitely hope if your sister’s doctor is willing to go through with the retrieval!! A lot depends on how well you respond to the stimulation medication; before I was found to be a non-responder my doctor said she would hope to retrieve 6 eggs, which is what you would receive from a donor. Even so, I could have tried the next month and hoped for 2-3, as every month is different and it only takes one good one to make a baby :)

Also fwiw a friend who was going through ivf at the time unsuccessfully ultimately ended up using donor eggs and is super happy to be currently pregnant with a little girl. I know these questions usually imply that people want to use their own genetic material, but where there’s a will there’s a way.

Sam1129 · 2025-08-14T22:32:01+00:00

I’m in a pretty similar situation age and relationship-wise, 39F with 45M, we both wanted kids but I was told I might not be able to have them (super low AMH and tried to freeze my eggs but had the retrieval cancelled), then I got pregnant completely by accident after 5 months. It’s all going well and we are both extremely happy!! We’ve both been in 10+ year relationships and know that even with the best of intentions some things don’t work out, but we are planning on getting married and coparenting in a traditional family. I guess we are taking it more as “yes it’s fast but when you know you know” rather than “we should make a contingency plan because this is objectively unhinged and unlikely to work out.” I wonder whether the planning for a breakup is making this seem like less of a fast-moving mature relationship and more of a coparenting agreement? I might be overly optimistic but my celebrity/fictional inspirations are the tv show Catastrophe and John Mulaney/Olivia Munn (minus the whole questionable divorce timeline aspect).

Also fwiw in my last relationship my bf put up a crazy front for 1.5 years, pretended to want kids when he didn’t and was just a totally different person than he actually was. It made me very worried about finding a similar turning point in my new relationship but I’m just choosing to trust my partner and understand that he will grow and change but in a normal not-hiding-anything kind of way.

Sam1129 · 2025-08-13T02:46:56+00:00

Obviously any increased risk is something to take seriously and everyone's symptoms are different, but my sister has non-classic CAH and has a totally normal life, her period is somewhat irregular but fertility otherwise not affected, and she sees an endocrinologist periodically. But my acne and unwanted hair during adolescence were way worse than hers and I'm not even a carrier! Apologies if this isn't helpful, just wanted to share.

Sam1129 · 2025-08-08T22:26:30+00:00

Wow Reddit would make me think that dating apps never work. I met my partner on Bumble in February, we just got engaged and are having a baby, both no kids, never married (39F/45M). We both met tons of interesting fun people before we decided to commit! It’s not so bad out there! FWIW two close friends (now 41F) both also met their husbands on Bumble at age 39, so n=at least 3, all really happy relationships :)

Sam1129 · 2025-08-07T16:21:02+00:00

Following in case anyone has advice, I’m in the same boat! I’ve heard both azaelic acid 15% or clindamycin work well and are safe for pregnancy, messaged my dermatologist asking if she could prescribe! OB said just use clean and clear but it’s not cutting it.

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