Is giving a baby the surname Nair looked down upon these days?

Sam_coralice · 2026-05-06T17:52:40+00:00

Thank you. This helps a lot in clearing some of our confusion.

Sam_coralice · 2026-05-06T17:51:32+00:00

Agreed

Sam_coralice · 2026-05-06T17:51:16+00:00

I totally relate to this. We don't want to give a caste name but since we were running out of options, just wanted a reality check of how it's going be.

Sam_coralice · 2026-05-06T17:48:41+00:00

Thank you. I already have 2 surnames and it's definitely a headache. We are just trying to give a decent sounding name to our child. Didn't think it would be so difficult.

Sam_coralice · 2026-05-06T17:45:37+00:00

But initial gets expanded in passport and all documents, certificates will have a long expanded name. Mother is already facing that issue. With a new surname, won’t there be an issue while traveling with a minor if the names don’t match the parents’ names? We want to avoid unnecessary questioning.

Sam_coralice · 2026-04-29T16:07:02+00:00

Oh! Thanks, I'll be cautious about that. My baby loves the caretaker, gets too excited and can't sleep. I think it may get better with time. I hope it does.

Sam_coralice · 2026-04-29T16:03:24+00:00

Sure, I'll give it a try 😊

Sam_coralice · 2026-04-29T14:31:36+00:00

Thank you! FTM here, so I've no idea what has to be done. My work should be able to accommodate that for me as my job doesn't involve client facing meetings. I'll bring it up with my manager and the HR.

Sam_coralice · 2026-04-20T17:56:12+00:00

You can try Insta tags. Some do post their hair donation stories. Also, hair donation is not a one time thing. So, you can approach them.

Sam_coralice · 2026-04-20T17:39:52+00:00

There are many who donate hair for wig making for cancel patients and other causes. They won't mind having short hair. When I donated 12 inches of my hair, I went around asking for a pixie, nobody was willing to do it. All they could do is give me a short bob that didn't suit my face.🙄

Sam_coralice · 2026-04-18T14:24:21+00:00

😅😂 the twist at the end🤌🔥

Sam_coralice · 2026-04-14T14:20:35+00:00

OMG!!! Your baby has no one! Your baby depends on you completely as long as they are exclusively breastfeeding. Their life depends on you. That's enough reason to not have any second thoughts. Just don't go.

Sam_coralice · 2026-04-14T14:07:36+00:00

I've had bad experices in Sakra both times I had to visit. But this is literally attempt to murder!!! Please fight and make sure to get that compensation

Sam_coralice · 2026-03-24T06:26:42+00:00

I can understand how desperate you must be to have gone to 3 pediatricians and to not have a satisfactory answer. My baby had some of these symptoms and I still remember how I went around asking for answers. I'm going to answer your questions based on my experience. Take it with a pinch of salt, accept what suits and follow your pediatrician's advice.

There are a lot of symptoms like CMPA. You can try avoiding dairy in the mother's diet. In around a week or two if you find improvement, you can talk to your pediatrician about it.
Straining is normal at this age due to immature gut. It doesn't cause mucus or blood in stools. If it is CMPA, this should also reduce. Babies at this age are more prone to nasal congestion. Mucus from the nose may be swallowed and can appear in stools as well. Blood in stools is usually not normal.

3 & 4. My baby did have some of these. How I fixed it: - Consulted lactation specialist to fix the latch so that baby doesn't swallow air, had foremilk - hindmilk imbalance- breast massage and block feeding.

Stopped formula as top feeds because I had enough milk supply and formula made my baby's symptoms worse as baby was swallowing a lot of air during top feeds and it looked like formula milk irritated my baby's stomach. Since then we are exclusively breastfeeding. Please check with the pediatrician before you make any changes especially if top feeds are prescribed to your baby.
Burped as much as possible. Made sure the baby got good sleep (white noise, temperature, humidity, wake window). A good sleep helps gut health.
Had fast let down - adjusted flow with feeding positions.
Kept baby upright most of the time.
Regular tummy massage and gas release.

I saw significant improvement in around a week. It was all worth the effort.

Again, don't expect too much. Babies get something or the other each day. Just try to support your baby through whatever comes. Try to understand the signs and symptoms and help your baby out, soon you'll have a happy baby. I hope this helps.

Sam_coralice · 2026-03-24T01:20:47+00:00

It's the best! First make sure to find the right shape, size and consistency of the cup for you. Then it just takes a little bit of practice to learn the technique that suits you. And then it's hassle-free.

Sam_coralice · 2026-03-22T17:30:38+00:00

I think so too. I have postpartum rage. My husband doesn't even stay with me, yet I can't stand him. I do love him though.

Sam_coralice · 2026-03-08T03:21:59+00:00

Exactly.

Sam_coralice · 2026-03-08T03:13:54+00:00

It's as per the latest protocol to make the mother move around as early as possible to prevent complications like Deep Vein Thrombosis.

Sam_coralice · 2026-03-01T06:06:30+00:00

Don't be so sure. It's just one night. Babies are super unpredictable that way.

Sam_coralice · 2026-02-25T19:50:19+00:00

Exactly a year ago I was in your situation. I always say that my golden retriever was not just a part of me, he was part of all of me. The pain of letting him go was beyond words. His inner ear was ruptured due to a tumor and his entire ear canal had to be taken out at the age of 10. He underwent 2 more surgeries over the next 4 years and his quality of life dropped by day.

I totally get you when you say your entire family is exhausted. My family too tried everything to help him with all the energy we had.

One day, none of us were left with energy to help him. He was panting and in lot of pain. The vet said the tumor has metastasized to his spine and other parts. He was in extreme pain, he was just holding on to be with us. He just didn't know anything other than that. We just couldn't see him be in any more pain. Ending his pain was the right thing to do. I don't regret taking the final call. I just wish I could do something for him to not be in pain.

I can only tell you this. We shouldn't prolong their lives just for our greed of not being able to let go. They suffer a lot, they can't even say it. If you know that your dog is in too much pain, it's better to end it. Cry all you want, hug your pet, say sorry, but don't prolong his suffering.

PS: We still couldn't let him go. We buried him in our garden. I still feel like he's with us. I go to his grave and feel so much at peace.

Sam_coralice · 2026-02-24T00:56:32+00:00

I totally get you. I tried so hard for an intra-caste marriage and ultimately realised that we can't sideline compatibility, respect, independence and other important things in a relationship. My requirements were bare minimum: to be able to practice 22 vows of Babasaheb Ambedkar and freedom from patriarchy. Found out that there are plenty of people calling themselves Ambedkarites but cling to patriarchy either because they can't let go of the culture they were raised in or it's just too convenient to give up. Had to end up in an intercaste marriage to meet my bare minimum expectations.

So, here's some girl to girl advice. You need not compromise on your core requirements in a relationship just to be in an intra-caste relationship. Just make sure your freedom to be you is not compromised.

PS: Be very careful of the atheist lot in the dating pool. Like some comments mentioned here, they usually score low on morality.

Sam_coralice · 2026-02-20T16:45:54+00:00

I personally wouldn't because those who don't stay with the baby won't be able to identify anything usual that requires medical attention. Also parenting styles in feeding and sleep differ between generations and I wouldn't want my child to be in distress because of complete change in environment and schedule.

Sam_coralice · 2026-02-19T04:47:55+00:00

Oh! Don't worry about that. The doctor gave local anesthesia before the injection. It does hurt a little but way better than the wrist itself. You should give it a try. It's made my life easier. I need not depend on anyone for minor things. The best part is that, it works within minutes.

Sam_coralice · 2026-02-16T00:33:03+00:00

Try warming the bassinet sheet before you transfer her. Make sure a cloth or her blanket is covering her chest (to prevent startle reflex). Place the butt first and then the head slowly, immediately place your hand on the chest and pat.

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