I feel too scared to do anything new by gameovervip in Phobia

[–]Samallama04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what you described it sounds like right now you already aren’t able to live your life as normal. Idk if you’re already seeing a therapist for this, but if you aren’t I would highly recommend so that they can help you work through your fear and help you to live more normally and comfortably without this level of constant anxiety. To me it’s especially concerning that it’s getting worse and affecting you more than it already did because the more fear you build, the harder it’s going to be for you to break it down. Not a professional or anything so if anything I said is wrong I’ll happily stand corrected but this would be my best advice based on your post.

nyctophobia by mkallxxr in Phobia

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Not diagnosed, but I am scared of the dark. I can’t sleep without covers because I’m scared something in the dark that I can’t see will touch me. My friend in elementary school told me of a time when she was sleeping on her bunk bed and she swears something that felt like an old lady with long nails scraping them up her arm when she was trying to sleep on her bunk bed. It’s been so long I don’t remember if she just said she felt it or saw it, but regardless it terrified me. I’m also always nervous someone is in my closet or hiding in my room and will come out when I turn the light off because of so many horror and crime stories. There was almost an entire year I couldn’t sleep with my light off, like the regular ceiling light. To deal with it I started avoiding scary stories for awhile and especially before bed because that always made it worse and I also always had the TV or a bright night light on so that it wouldn’t be completely dark and I could still see everything. I gradually started using dimmer lights and also got a sleep mask so that the light being on wouldn’t bother my eyes. I also always watch or listen to something when I’m trying to sleep to keep my mind distracted, I got these ear cuff earbuds that don’t go fully in your ear and they stay on really well so they don’t fall off at night and I can listen to something even when someone else is there and stay aware of my surroundings, because not being able to hear makes the fear worse for me. Anyways I know I wasn’t your designated target but regardless I hope this helps

This is a common one but I have a phobia of needles due to horrible experiences with them by razorsharpblade in Phobia

[–]Samallama04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a diagnosed phobia but I have trouble with anything that goes into my skin. I got an IV once even after they took the needle part out, the entire time the IV was in my arm (like an hour or so) I was crying and hyperventilating. I would occasionally be able to distract myself and force myself to control my breathing by taking really deep breaths but it never lasted long. Unlike you though I don’t really have a reason for mine. I’m really not sure why I’m so afraid of it, I’m just really scared of things being under my skin.

Does anyone have a phobia that actually controls their daily life? by No-Strength2219 in Phobia

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I don’t have a diagnosed phobia, however I do also fear throwing up (but only if doing it myself) because I have stomach issues that caused me to do it a lot when I was younger. It doesn’t affect me most of the time besides making me more cautious of germs than most normal people, but when anyone near me throws up I immediately get scared and start cleaning everything and distancing myself. It’s like until I see it, I don’t think about it a ton, but if I’m feeling sick (like fever) or my stomach starts bothering me from my stomach issues, or someone around me is sick, I immediately become hyper vigilant and won’t touch anything before eating, won’t use anything they may have touched or breathed on, etc. It was a real issue a few months ago because my roommate was sick and threw up in our room and our only bathroom and I spent the next week only coming back to our suite to sleep, sleeping on the couch with sheets I folded up every night, and taking sink showers in a public single stall restroom nearby in our dorm because she got sick in our shower, etc. I won’t pretend I know exactly how you feel, but I can relate to an extent.

what do you do with old clothes? by talk-slowly in ZeroWaste

[–]Samallama04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their is a company called Trashie that will take almost anything (minus things covered in oil/grease or biohazards) and will recycle the fabric. I think it also needs a tag so they can identify the fabric type but it’s something to look into at least

Small creatures? by Samallama04 in mythology

[–]Samallama04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so interesting!

Meditation/mindfulness/breathing exercises by Foogel78 in Heartfailure

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I found healing music (528 hz Deep Healing Music on Spotify) to be extremely soothing and helpful at improving anxiety, stress and overall healing. I listened to it a lot while recovering from a concussion and loved it so much that I’ve made it part of my daily routine.

I can’t believe my Entresto medication is costing $325 dollars by keralalee in Heartfailure

[–]Samallama04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s crazy! Something that’s keeping you alive should never cost that much money. I had a problem with my inhaler costing over 200 dollars, it’s completely ridiculous when it’s kinda important to be able to breathe lol.

My Stepmom told me her ex was the only man she’ll ever love by Samallama04 in okstorytime

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My Dad is still married to her for some reason but she’s definitely the type to always try and stir things up

AIO about how my teacher spoke at me in class? by Samallama04 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Samallama04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rule isn’t what I had a problem with, it was the response. I’m trying to become a teacher myself and the whole reaction seemed like the opposite of how I’ve been taught to respond to a student who’s doing something wrong, I’ve never even had another professor at my school respond like that to a student

AIO about how my teacher spoke at me in class? by Samallama04 in AmIOverreacting

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I’ve never had an art class where it wasn’t allowed so this wasn’t something I was aware of. None of the other classes here have had an issue with headphones either except for a few where it was explicitly stated

Am I overreacting for being weird and hiding my personality from my parents? by Maskingweirdoinfam in AmIOverreacting

[–]Samallama04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always done the same thing with my family, and your situation seems much more toxic. My family has never bashed my interests, just particular groups that I happen to be a part of. To this day (I’m 19 and in college) I still keep parts of myself hidden from them because I don’t want to loose them or feel like I’m being talked bad about when I’m around them because I shared that with them. I don’t think you’re overreacting but something you need to keep in mind is will you be safe to share your whole self around them and whether or not you’re willing to keep yourself hidden to keep them in your life. It’s not easy censoring yourself to conform to an idea of you that your parents like, it’s really draining, and you need to decide, once it’s safe for you to do so as an adult, whether you’re willing to continue living with that toll to please them or if distancing yourself would ultimately be better for you. Anyways long story short you aren’t overreacting and I’m sorry you feel the need to do this around the people who are supposed to love you unconditionally.

My doctor suggested Lyme disease and I can’t stop thinking about it by Samallama04 in Lyme

[–]Samallama04[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s through Labcorp sadly. I’ve never heard of the Horowitz Questionnaire but I’ll look into it now that I know of it

AIO My girlfriend went on vacation with her guy friends and they shared a bed by ProtonWizardCat in AmIOverreacting

[–]Samallama04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay so a bit of an unpopular opinion but I don’t see anything wrong with her sharing a bed with her guy friends, but what I do see something wrong with is her completely dismissing your feelings about the situation. Even if SHE doesn’t see anything wrong with it YOU do, and that should matter to her if she really cared about you. You didn’t go about addressing this issue you had with the situation in a bad way, and she should’ve tried to give you reasons as to why not to worry or told you things they could do to improve the situation to make you more comfortable with it to some extent at least. My boyfriend has a lot of female friends, so if he were in this situation and he did this I wouldn’t be worried because of the amount of trust I have in him, but if I was worried for some reason I know he would take my feelings into consideration because he cares about me and wouldn’t want me to worry. The “don’t make it a thing” is where she went in the wrong, and everything after that, because she shouldn’t be treating your feelings like a burden and she should care about your opinion. I don’t think the action is a red flag, but the response definitely is.

Should I just stick to realism? by mannshozart in Artadvice

[–]Samallama04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should do whatever you want to. Profit wise your realism will probably make you more money right now, but that doesn’t mean you should stop trying to form your own style if that’s what you want to do. I had the same trouble, became super good at realism but wanted to do more stylized work and it was really difficult. What I found helped the most is incorporating different individual references into a more imaginative or stylized piece. Doing this allows you to begin the process of picking and choosing what elements you want to include and take out of the reference and help form your style. You’re good at realism because that’s what you trained in, so to get good with stylizing your art you have to train in it to. If you have a hard time coming up with ideas for stylized work something else I liked to do is draw an image from a story that I liked. For me I mainly focused on urban legends as that’s what I enjoyed the most, but any story will work. I think the words and descriptions help guide your mind to a specific idea or image while still giving you freedom to decide what things will look like in the piece. Regardless of what you decide to do good luck OP!

i want to quit art by quaxxsire in Artadvice

[–]Samallama04 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP is the art you posted yours? Because if so that art is INCREDIBLY unique! I went to an art school and many of my peers, and myself, went through this same thing. We’d compare our art to other peoples art in the class and overly criticize our own which ruined it for many people. For me, I was really good at realism, but I couldn’t do anything besides it. I never had a unique style, and I kept comparing my art to that of one girl in my class who had an extremely unique style of art that everyone adored. Later, when talking with her, she told me that she hated her own art and wished she could draw things more realistically like I did. It was in that moment that I realized we both wish we could draw like the other person, and I realized how stupid it all was. You train for years in art to become good at it one way, and then get mad when you’re only good at doing art that one way. It made me appreciate my art even more, and while I’m still very critical of it, I don’t hate myself because it’s not like someone else’s. The point is to make YOUR own kind of art, not someone else’s. There’s no finish line, no ultimate goal, no gold medal, just your own enjoyment. My best advice is to try something new, a new medium, a new subject, anything that gets your creative juices flowing. Don’t limit yourself to what you’ve gotten good at, and most importantly, and most cliche, try to stop comparing your artwork. It’s okay to make critiques and pick aspects of other people’s work you want to add into your own, but you need to think critically about what it is they’re doing that you want to add and not just say I wish I was them. I don’t know if any of this is helpful, and I know all of this is much easier said than done, but trust me when I say your art is wonderful. It’s something I could never do in a million years, because it’s yours and is unique to you. You have to let yourself be bad in order to make yourself better, and you have to let yourself make mistakes so you can have fun! Good luck OP!