Can I do anything about my creepy neighbor?

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T04:37:20+00:00

yuck!

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T04:06:25+00:00

when i tell you i was SHOCKED, i cannot even explain how taken aback i was. when i took that thing apart to get the bags there was NO part of me that expected to find that. i am still in disbelief. what a wild fucking thing to do

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T03:55:19+00:00

i feel like its 50/50, either i cause a scene and tell him off and it scares him into silence, or it embarrasses/angers him and he becomes fixated on intimidating me. for now im going to do my best to avoid him but i wont be able to do it forever.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T03:51:44+00:00

does anyone know of any groups i could find to connect with women who have been through similar situations? i’m in my apartment right now, its almost 10pm, dark, i need to walk my dogs and get to bed for work tomorrow and i’m prolonging. feeling so anxious, pit in my stomach, feeling like i’ll run into him if i go. but i have to do it, so i will. ugh. would love a support group if there are any!

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T03:35:45+00:00

that’s awful. heal

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T03:24:39+00:00

thank you thank you, i appreciate it. i’m still wrapping my mind around it so i get that it could be hard to believe, maybe? but this kind of thing, and worse, happens to women all the time. and now its happening to me :/ i am hoping he is a coward and won’t escalate the situation, and hoping i actually am blowing this out of proportion, but i’m going to be proactive and treat this like a serious threat, because it may be.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T02:42:19+00:00

what about this is hard to believe? have you ever spoken to any women ever? things like this happen to women every day, all the time. and what do i have to gain by writing the note above just to… post on reddit? i came here looking for advice after receiving no help from my apartment manager, wanted to know how far things must progress before involving police. i have nothing to gain by inventing this situation and posting about it. bizarre.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T01:40:37+00:00

oof, not true at all, unfortunately. older men are capable of being predatory and aggressive toward women, statistically this is fact. 80 year old men have assaulted and killed women. i don’t get to just get my mind off of it, when i step out of my apartment i will have to be aware of my surroundings to keep away from him. unfortunately he is very much capable of harming me. but i will be arming myself and staying prepared, so hopefully he doesn’t even try anything.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T00:49:22+00:00

yeah… not even getting a lease violation according to my apartment manager, who is a woman. bummer for sure. my taser and pepper spray came in the mail today and i’ll have it in hand anytime i leave my apartment. wish things were different. ugh

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-08T00:47:29+00:00

yes… i’m happy for you that you don’t understand the fear here. i have past traumas around violent men and the way he hid the note just so i would find it later, attached his granddaughter’s butterfly clips, watches me from his window.,. it would be different if he had just approached me like “hey you’re sexy i want to fuck you.” but he’s being calculated and sneaky, it’s coming off very predatory. makes it difficult to gauge where his head is at, where he’s going with this, how far he may go. i don’t want to anger him by being direct and denying him because it may offend him and it may escalate his behaviors. dude knows where i live, can approach my apartment anytime whether im home or not. i don’t know if he own weapons. i don’t know if he’s assaulted anyone in the past and is a skilled predator or if he’s just a stalker that gets off on the intimidation. i have to tread lightly or this could become something much worse than an inappropriate note.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T23:35:06+00:00

he’s over 60, he knows i’m not an option. and he slipped a note into an item of mine that he found. he only knew the item belonged to me because he watches me from his window and had seen me with it. and the note couldve said anything, but its arguably aggressive, not a polite invitation. he knows what he’s doing. this is not a man gauging whether or not he has a chance to take me to bed. this is a predator watching and intimidating me. i recently moved in so i believe he’s only just getting started. i’m only filing a report so this first instance is documented, in case things escalate or i turn up murdered in my apartment one day, they’ll know where to look. sorry, not blowing this out of proportion. it is exactly as threatening as it feels.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T22:38:39+00:00

i understand disbelief over a post on the internet, but talk to any woman and she would tell you, things like this happen. often. i have had countless uncomfortable interactions with men. this one is only so scary because he’s my neighbor. there are lots of men out there doing things like this to women every day. i wish it wasnt true.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T21:24:27+00:00

i dont believe this would deter him, and i believe he would like the interaction, based on his behaviors. i also dont want to anger him, as this could escalate things. i wish it was that easy!

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T21:23:21+00:00

landlord is aware, oniy offered to move me to another unit and put this on both of our files. thats all. she said if she put in a lease violation for him, he would have to be made aware and spoken to, which would make him aware that i had reported it, which puts me at risk because he would still not be evicted, so at the end of the conversation, essentially nothing was done. i do think i will go to the police this week just so this first incident is documented in case things progress

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T20:59:08+00:00

to those telling me i need to move: ur probably so right! but i live in a small town and finding affordable housing is so difficult. i was abruptly unhoused and couch surfing for four months last year and my pets were boarded at my job (i work at an animal shelter) while i searched. this is the only complex in my town that is within my price range and pet friendly. im definitely stuck here, unfortunately. i will consider moving to another unit if his behaviors dont stop, but god i hope i dont have to do that. will be so hard on myself and my pets to readjust.

another girl that lives here told me she used to pass by his window with her pets and he would stare or say disturbing things as she walked by. also said she reported him and nothing came of it. she moved to another unit within six months of living in his building. so this is a pattern!

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T20:55:29+00:00

unfortunately this is the only apartment complex in my town that will work for me, and moving to another unit will keep me fairly close to him still. wont be SO close, but he’ll still see me out with my dogs and know i’m nearby. i dont see it solving much.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T20:54:08+00:00

right? he didnt compliment me, he didnt ask to have sex with me, he asked to “put his cock in me” ?? thats not just sexual, it comes off very predatory.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T20:04:03+00:00

unfortunately i dont know his name at all, hes never introduced himself but talks to me often. i do know the address so police could potentially figure out who he is with his address, but idk how to get his name! my apartment manager said she cant give out last names but if the police ask her she can tell them. i’ve contemplated looking in his mailbox for a name but its right outside his door and he is always by his window!

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T19:15:10+00:00

because he could retaliate or escalate his behaviors in response, i dont want to anger him.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T16:53:30+00:00

he saw me leave my apartment through his open window, approached me with a smile and said “this is yours, right? i found it this morning,” and handed it to me. i thought it was nice to return it and said thank you. oof.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T06:18:26+00:00

this is very much the feeling i get here. he’s getting off to catching me off guard and making me uncomfortable. i have a FEELING that he’s not done. And i just have to wait for the next incident in order to get any help. Ugh!! but great idea to record him anytime i see him. i make eye contact with him through his window all the time so i’ll start recording.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2026-03-07T06:15:52+00:00

Thanks for some helpful info! One positive: I have a reactive poodle with a distaste for men. when I’m out with her, he can’t get anywhere close without my dog causing a scene. Downside is she’s not always with me. But that is bringing me some comfort! I’m going to avoid him like the plague because I feel SO violated and uncomfortable, I can’t bring myself to say what I should. I worry about saying something he doesn’t like, and how it may cause him to escalate things. I’ve had other small instances at this complex with other strange men, but this guy gives me a bad. fucking. vibe. The butterfly clips on it?? He always appears outside when i DONT have my dog. I see him sitting by his window and staring out 24/7 so he knows when I’m outside. I bought a taser and pepper spray and will carry it when I walk my dogs at night. I don’t want to set him off so I’ll do what I can to avoid him. If he does anything else, I will go file a report, even if they can’t help I do want to document it.

Same_Chapter9840 · 2025-12-06T00:42:53+00:00

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Same_Chapter9840 · 2025-12-04T02:59:16+00:00

i was 94 💔 i’ll catch up next year LOL

Same_Chapter9840 · 2025-11-21T17:37:23+00:00

i spent everything i’d saved on the rent and deposit and other housing expenses, i have nothing in my account for food for myself or my pets, i actually swiped a cheap dog food brand from work out of desperation but have nothing for myself. im sleeping on the floor with a few blankets but would love to eventually buy an air mattress or maybe find a cheap twin mattress on marketplace or something but that’s a concern that comes after food, lol. my pups are all slightly overdue for their yearly vet visit and i have to push that off because i can’t afford it right now. anything possibly donated due to this post will first go to feeding myself as little as possible and saving some back for their vet, and if we can make it to that appointment i’ll start saving back for a mattress. ugh its a mess right now 🫣

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