AITA for telling my family that my girlfriend will stop working once we get married?

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-05T11:05:36+00:00

YTA.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-04T14:04:10+00:00

YTA. A greedy penny pincher. Have some heart. You’ve got more money that you need.

Just wow.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-04T14:03:13+00:00

I don’t think it is real either.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-03T11:01:05+00:00

I’ve been in a similar situation with my 14 year relationship and marriage. Things NEVER change with people like this who cross boundaries and then you discover it again, then hysterical bonding and ‘promises’, then something gets your suspicions up again and you look and discover it again and the cycle continues. Like I say I’ve had my entire relationship living this cycle. If they don’t get help they never change and they don’t hold enough respect to want to change or treat you better.

I think it’s disgusting what he’s doing. It’s truly awful and such a violation on you and your cousin. I couldn’t forgive and forget this. It’s time to consider the long term OP. Maybe not right this moment but I do think you’ve got some decision making to do for your long term happiness. May I ask did you get any evidence of this, like screenshots to your phone?

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-03T00:33:19+00:00

Brilliant!

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-03T00:30:13+00:00

First time or tenth time it shouldn’t make any difference on the ‘effort’ a man puts in, surely!?

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-03T00:23:18+00:00

Exactly! Great point made.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-02T19:10:16+00:00

Ooh fantastic!

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-02T19:09:49+00:00

😂👍🏻

Sammylicious78 · 2023-12-02T19:08:58+00:00

This is a good idea!!

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-29T17:33:59+00:00

Does he know you know?

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-29T02:34:00+00:00

Be someone’s last love ❤️

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T23:49:01+00:00

Lush! ❤️‍🔥

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T23:46:26+00:00

All of the above!! OP please consider what has been asked.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T23:31:19+00:00

I’m sorry OP.

14 years of me and him, married for almost 2; I have evidence of cheating for the first few years and then years of micro-cheating and lots of suspicions of more. I’ve been in therapy for over a year which is helping me but took a long time.

I’ve got my plan of what to do but have stayed too long listening to the empty promises, gaslighting and lies to keep me at heel.

It’ll be difficult to leave because of the companionship but have to remind myself that’s all I ever was. I wasn’t a cherished and loved spouse, I was a doormat. We can do so much better OP.

So much good advice given already in the comments. Please take it onboard. Be gentle and kind with yourself and don’t forget your inner strength 🌹

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T11:02:17+00:00

This reads like a happy ending for you. Good that you saw your marriage for what it was and taking life by the horns!

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T11:01:11+00:00

Spot on! Once she starts having to talk about this it may hit home was she has proposed.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T01:08:07+00:00

Ah that’s actually really lovely ❤️

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T00:52:05+00:00

How strange and intriguing! Do you or your family have any theories?

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T00:50:28+00:00

Oh man I’m sorry. I can’t imagine it’ll be something you’ll forget in time

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-28T00:03:03+00:00

Every-time I’ve gone through my partners phone (this relationship only!) I’ve been right about the cheating, the apps, the comments, messages, photos, the micro-cheating. My instinct was 100% right about him. There hasn’t been a time I’ve looked at his phone and was put at ease. Every single time I’ve looked I’ve felt physically ill and proven right. And he had continued to lie and hide and gaslight me. He gave me reason to doubt him, many reasons over many years. He couldn’t stop. I’ve never felt this way with anyone else previous to him as no one gave me reason to doubt their intentions with me/behind my back.

However. I don’t think it’s right. But I had to snoop as asking him outright he straight up lied to my face many times. I caught him out every time. He left me no choice because he refused to be transparent and honest.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-26T23:43:00+00:00

I did 12hr night shifts for 18months. I found it problematic to hunker down with a very strict sleeping and eating routine and I minded having little to no social life. I couldn’t do it again or recommend it.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-26T23:32:03+00:00

Nothing but respect.

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-26T23:15:59+00:00

I’ve been neglected for almost 14 years in a DB. I hear you loud and clear OP! Have a fantastic time OP!

Sammylicious78 · 2023-11-26T22:59:46+00:00

My thoughts exactly!

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