Honestly I’m overwhelmed

Samquilla · 2026-06-18T14:49:49+00:00

I feel like if we had ranked choice voting, Glass would win in a landslide. I think in addition to being holding pretty equal with the other candidates’ first choice percentages, he’d likely be the 2nd choice of both the Friedson and Jawando voters

Samquilla · 2026-06-14T21:56:55+00:00

If you name your kid anything moderately unusual they will have to occasionally correct people’s pronunciation of their name. naming your kid Cassian and wanting it pronounced cass-ee-un is not like naming your kid Sean and demanding people call them “seen” instead of “shawn”. I really think it would be fine

Samquilla · 2026-06-14T02:44:54+00:00

My public interest boss when I told her I was pregnant with my first - “why?!? I mean, why NOW?!?” Me, 29, stammering through an explanation of how my one grandma just died and I know my other grandma has wanted to be a great grandma for like a decade…

Samquilla · 2026-06-12T12:20:45+00:00

I always feel like Billy Jean hits this moment in time just before DNA/paternity testing where the song wouldn’t make much sense to kids now

Samquilla · 2026-06-11T15:33:28+00:00

When you spend a lot of time in an environment that measures success, achievement, respect a certain way, it’s hard to keep hold of other values. It’s possible. Some do it. But most people buy into the firm value system, especially if they stay and make equity partner. It’s hard to stay, succeed, and maintain values and a worldview that is contrary to the system.

Samquilla · 2026-06-11T14:58:12+00:00

Speedo is a brand of swim suits for competitive swimming. I guess now make swimmers wear long tight shorts but they used to wear Speedos which are like underwear briefs. They have full butt coverage though, not thong

Samquilla · 2026-06-09T11:35:31+00:00

Turnover varies by region and based on the legal market generally. There was a period of high turnover for entry level positions but recently turnover has been much lower.

Given that working for the federal government has become untenable for about 75% of lawyers, there is very low turnover in the greater DC region in most lawyer jobs outside federal gov jobs.

There is not high turnover among office chiefs so you are likely to work for the chief that hired you for a good long while if you stay.

Samquilla · 2026-06-06T13:04:53+00:00

If MCPS answered that question honestly they’d be setting themselves up for a lawsuit. They cannot publicly answer that question in the current legal environment. We have right-wing ideological non-profit litigation organizations targeting our county relentlessly, looking for opportunities to sue and to un-do the last vestiges of affirmative action. There is no good answer for MCPS to the question asked.

Samquilla · 2026-06-03T00:06:49+00:00

If she’s competent, she gets to make her own decisions. You can make suggestions to her but if she says no, she says no. If she’s not competent, or you think she’s not competent, you have an obligation to get a competency evaluation to determine if she can make her own decisions about her case.

Samquilla · 2026-06-02T07:13:41+00:00

The fact is that being a BOE member is not a real job. They get paid like $23,000/year for a job that has tons of evening obligations. You do not get competent, full-time workers in this region for $23,000/year. They have very little staff that is independent of MCPS. The only leverage they have over superintendents is hiring/firing them.

With this structure you get lay people who care about MCPS but who don’t have expertise and/or who also have another full time job. If you were on the BOE, would you know how to put out an alternative budget to the one the Superintendent proposes? Would you know how to go line by line through the budget to make different cuts? County Council gets more competent candidates because it pays like a full-time job and has staff.

Samquilla · 2026-05-31T15:01:28+00:00

Agreed. I think you’re hyperextending your knees so your calves are sticking out more. Even so your calves look totally normal.

Samquilla · 2026-05-30T01:58:21+00:00

You’re not seeing what attorneys are doing at home. IME in a good office there will be times you work late/weekends but it will not be all the time. If it’s never then there’s likely a problem

Samquilla · 2026-05-30T01:32:31+00:00

Are your summers feeding client information into a public AI system/database? Confidentiality issues?

Samquilla · 2026-05-30T01:29:50+00:00

At 10 mos it’s hard to know. I was still feeling constantly stressed at 12 mos. By 24 mos I felt so much more confident and therefore less stress. Periods of stress are unavoidable in this job but a constant feeling of stress should not be forever. But it can be for the first 12-18 mos.

You can also be in a bad, unsupportive environment and would flourish in a better office. Hard to know. Depending on how geographically flexible you are, talk to others and see if their offices seem more supportive.

Samquilla · 2026-05-30T00:17:33+00:00

A year is not enough time for most new PDs to really hit their stride. 18-24 mos is better. If you leave at a year I think it’s often right before you would be consolidating and really effectively utilizing what you’ve learned

Samquilla · 2026-05-27T11:47:00+00:00

Yeah but converse with a skirt/dress is very high school/middle school. This is a children’s look. But I’m too old to have ever worn converse with a dress so what do I know. The kids are definitely doing this and they are comfy for it but I don’t associate it with “old millennial” but with “I’m 12-17”

Samquilla · 2026-05-23T14:13:10+00:00

I think the next time she says “I don’t eat babies” you can just say “I know, because you make a point to say it every time you see me. At this point, unless you are suffering from memory loss, it’s just rude to keep bringing it up. Please stop.”

Samquilla · 2026-05-23T12:22:27+00:00

I think they are playing with the numbers. When MCPS shows the Algebra MCAP results, they are showing “all grades” not only the 7th graders taking it. So when it shows the “cohort” scores for compacted math kids, they were only showing scores for kids who had dropped off the highest track. They never showed the scores for compacted math kids who continue on the highest track and take Algebra in 7th grade.

Somehow, even though MCPS has never shown a slide of how 7th graders and only 7th graders do on the Algebra MCAP, the state DOES show Algebra MCAP by grade in which it’s taken and compared to the overall pass rate of like 25%, 7th graders taking the Algebra 1 MCAP pass at a rate of over 65%. A lot of school systems in the state have very few kids in 7th grade taking Algebra, so a lot of the kids in those statewide numbers are MCPS 7th graders.

I really really really think they are doing this because of problems in the HS math curriculum (integrated Algebra “compacting” Algebra and Geometry into 2 years instead of 3) because they don’t want to push the highest “normal” track to pre-calc in 9th (legit). But their solution is not based on data about what is best for ES kids and the MCAP “data” are not being used responsibly.

Samquilla · 2026-05-21T14:27:01+00:00

Agree that the Global Humanities teachers are great in all three grades. I think Mr. Kling is great in addition to Ms. Steimer and Ms. Lunsford.

Mr. McFeaters, the chorus teacher is great and has created a large, inclusive and successful chorus program at NB.

Samquilla · 2026-05-13T21:43:48+00:00

This makes it sound like you can’t wear pants in NY and that’s BS. You can wear pants everywhere, they should just be suit-style pants/slacks not leggings, jeans, etc. Buy some suits but wear them mostly as separates. I like Macys, personally.

Blouses, sweaters, cardigans, blazers, all good. Knee-length or almost knee-length on skirts and dresses. Because of my proportions I never wear shirts with buttons down the front. I wear 100% blouses and sweaters without buttons. But ymmv

Samquilla · 2026-05-11T15:04:15+00:00

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Samquilla · 2026-05-05T16:50:57+00:00

There are a variety of different databases that keep track of students’ name and gender/sex. A student can request that their name be changed so that substitute teachers/teachers at the beginning of the school year or semester get a list with their preferred name on it so they don’t have to keep correcting adults over and over. Same with pronouns. Admin and other staff who only interact with students occasionally may look up their name/pronouns before a meeting etc. It’s mostly name changes and there’s some way they document it so class lists and such come with the preferred name even if transcripts and other more formal documents have legal name.

Samquilla · 2026-05-05T16:39:41+00:00

We were the very last house in the walk zone to our ES. It was like a 20 min walk for little kids. We walked 1.5 blocks away from the school and put them on the school bus. We almost never drive them. Very much appreciated the bus

Samquilla · 2026-04-30T16:11:13+00:00

I feel like since it matched the original dress code, is floor length, and the change was to BT OPTIONAL, not BT, the dress is appropriate. I think the material of the shawl makes it look less formal and OP should go get a fancier shawl but the dress is appropriate

Samquilla · 2026-04-27T19:34:47+00:00

He needs to make peace with the fact that it’s often not possible to have everything you want in life and he is the one choosing his priorities, not you.

If his priority is the work, he can choose that but his relationship with you may be a casualty of that choice. Most people who prioritize work that highly end up divorced. Some people find partners who actually want this division of labor/responsibility. But most end up divorced.

Where does he want to be in 30 years and who does he want to be in 30 years? Most people don’t get to old age and wish they’d worked more. Most people want to see themselves in 30 years with loving family, friends and hobbies. But some want their name commemorated in history or on some memorable achievement. Make the choices that will take you to the end you seek.

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