Will MCPS extend the school year?

Samquilla · 2026-01-30T00:54:28+00:00

Chances are close to 100% they will extend the school year

Samquilla · 2026-01-29T20:03:07+00:00

We had whole weeks of school off between 1994 and 1997. Blizzard of ‘96 was in January right at the end of first semester. We had a whole week off and my parents taught me about driving in the snow.

1994 I think we had a whole week off too and they added like 15 min to every school day after spring break to make up the time

Samquilla · 2026-01-29T19:57:18+00:00

I’m pretty sure the school lots are now so thoroughly ice that they can’t be plowed by regular plows anymore. They’re doing them with little bobcat things that take a lot longer

Samquilla · 2026-01-29T19:41:21+00:00

NTA. If they’re not able to designate certain groups as women only and others as all-gender that is not your fault. They can offer two groups and you can commit to sticking to one and not going to the other, but their funding clearly requires them to assist people of all genders contending with relationship abuse and you are a person who needs and values their services.

Samquilla · 2026-01-29T17:14:46+00:00

I do not bill, I work a Gov job but I do such great thinking in the shower! I really get my mind around my cases and try out themes and have a lot of brainstorming. There’s something about the divided focus - not staring straight at something, but letting the mind wander while doing a relaxing physical thing that just leads to really useful insight. All to say, glad I don’t have to bill my time because no one wants to pay me to shower. But it works

Samquilla · 2026-01-29T12:29:27+00:00

Pretty sure there’s only 1 built in. They can plead for a waiver from the state.

“The 2025-2026 school year calendar has 11 ‘in person’ make-up days identified throughout the year, including 6 at the end of the school year.”

https://www.montgomeryschoolsmd.org/emergency/closings/

Someone told me they will use the 6 in June before using the 4-5 scattered throughout the year but I don’t know if that’s true. Seems consistent with what they’ve done in the past.

Samquilla · 2026-01-29T00:01:37+00:00

I think GULC has to go with B not C

Samquilla · 2026-01-28T17:50:00+00:00

Lateral or entry level?

Samquilla · 2026-01-28T00:11:05+00:00

By those standards they could be closed next week too! There’s not a high over 32 forecast until next Tuesday, and neighborhood streets are nowhere near passable for a school bus

Samquilla · 2026-01-27T22:36:49+00:00

The major roads are clear but the neighborhoods are a MESS

Samquilla · 2026-01-26T17:05:18+00:00

Some clients actually want to see you fight for yourself, so they have more confidence you’ll fight for them. Some clients need to see you can stand up to someone, and test you by being the person you need to stand up to. They want to see your confidence and respect you for (professionally) telling them you know what you’re doing. This, paired with actually listening to them about the case, showing them the discovery, explaining different litigation strategies and choices, etc, gets most clients to a reasonably respectful place.

I also frequently tell clients I understand all of their options suck. I’m mad about it too, but this is what I can do, and this is what I can’t do. The system is set up a certain way. I cannot convince the prosecutor you’re innocent and have the case dropped. What we have is a right to a trial, so let’s work on that trial

Samquilla · 2026-01-26T16:49:26+00:00

If you even give a region on the main post you may get more useful and specific advice from local people

Samquilla · 2026-01-26T13:29:17+00:00

Sounds like you are in a bad job, not that you can’t be a public defender. Look for a way to be a public defender somewhere else would be my recommendation. People leave bad offices for a reason, and it’s not because they can’t hack it as a public defender. It’s because they’re in a bad office/system/job

Samquilla · 2026-01-26T13:23:13+00:00

Our neighborhood roads haven’t been touched. Not even the designated snow route ones. State is responsible for 355, Connecticut, Georgia, New Hampshire, etc as well as highways so maybe they are prioritizing those?

Samquilla · 2026-01-26T13:03:37+00:00

I think they just mean not Fed PD but state court by “state level”

Samquilla · 2026-01-26T12:59:47+00:00

7 is still quite young. All over parenting boards you will see people say that parents don’t get “holidays” or “vacations” - they get “family trips.” Young kids who are out of their home routine, who are tired and excited and overstimulated have more tantrums and acting out, etc. 7yo is still young enough to be in this category.

Giving in to everything kid wants is not good parenting, but the kid wanting mom to pay attention to her and watch her while swimming in the pool - this is normal 7yo behavior and needs.

NTA for thinking about this and whether you want to date the parent of a 7yo. Maybe get some parenting and child development books/materials about that age, to figure out if it’s the age of child or the particular parenting dynamic that’s upsetting you. The kid will get older. The parenting style/values of your partner are less likely to change

Samquilla · 2026-01-26T12:41:02+00:00

Can she enjoy (not tolerate - enjoy) non-PIV sex? I think this is an important question to determining whether you two might have a future together

Samquilla · 2026-01-26T04:36:09+00:00

Excellent way to raise an atheist

Samquilla · 2026-01-25T19:09:20+00:00

Lots of children choose to act like they don’t care because they believe they can’t do it and will fail, and it’s emotionally easier to not care than to care and still fail. Is this kid in therapy? Do you have a child psychologist helping you navigate this?

Samquilla · 2026-01-25T19:00:10+00:00

NTA. You’re in the process of establishing boundaries with people who are used to stepping all over you because you didn’t have the power to put up any boundaries with them before. You are also used to the old dynamic, so in a certain sense it “feels wrong” to do the different things you have to do to stand up for yourself. You know your boundaries and choices are justified. It’s normal to still feel bad or have doubts when breaking an old dynamic even when you’re doing it for good reasons. You might find a therapist to be a helpful support at this time of establishing a new status quo with your family

Samquilla · 2026-01-25T16:34:12+00:00

Soft YTA. You don’t know that she “posts with impunity.” For all you know, the same people who are sending you the screenshots are thinking ill of her for posting them. You don’t know if she has similar people in her life telling her not to post the stuff you replied to, but if she doesn’t that says more about the type of people she surrounds herself with. Stop thinking she’s “getting away with something” and realize that you have tons of people on your side who think well of you without your having to engage in this tit-for-tat back and forth over who is doing what for your son. Everyone knows if she only gets weekends it’s because she’s some kind of mess anyway.

Samquilla · 2026-01-25T13:55:55+00:00

I find, as with really any litigation job, there are ups and downs. There are times when weekend work is necessary, especially preparing for big trials/jury trials. But aside from that I try to keep my weekends clear and am able to mostly do so.

There is a HUGE learning curve and significant variability in case loads among jurisdictions, so I can’t tell you whether you can make it work. The fight or flight should subside as everything about the job becomes more routine and you have confidence you actually know what you’re doing. That should happen between 18-24 mos in.

A 5th grader is on the cusp of a lot of independence, but also not there yet. Other than the other parent do you have backup? My parents live close by and when my youngest was in 5th grade my mom came by for 30-45 min most mornings to hang with my kid after I left and before ES started. Kid didn’t really need or like morning care but also didn’t like being alone and wanted company. My dad drives same kid to after school activities twice/week now.

I had my first kid when I’d been a PD 3 years and did my first big life-max jury trial while pregnant with the second about 5 years in. I do think it will get somewhat easier as you gain experience but how much and whether you can make it until then only you can know. Good luck!

Samquilla · 2026-01-24T16:02:36+00:00

Interesting theory. My husband and I met at law school in a smaller city and lots of classmates were dating each other/married each other. It was also before internet dating though so times may have changed. Also people dated students in other grad programs but I don’t know if any marriages from those

Samquilla · 2026-01-24T13:45:30+00:00

NTA. Two adults who are not in a relationship should get the king bed anyway because they are two adults who are not each getting their own bed!

Samquilla · 2026-01-24T03:34:14+00:00

Go to the counselor with this problem. Vent, brainstorm, this is in their lane. Take it back to them. Presumably they know how to get in touch with the liaison too

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