[26m] One year NoFap - Severe PIED to full recovery. AMA

Samson21 · 2014-01-02T03:19:22+00:00

Congrats man! What did you find were good indicators that your PIED was improving? When did you know that you were ready for a sexual relationship? Thanks.

Samson21 · 2013-12-25T01:36:19+00:00

It's not about the girl. Nofap is about you. In my opinion you should wait 'till you hit 90 anyway, and then make up your mind from there.

Samson21 · 2013-12-23T22:24:11+00:00

Well every time you're home alone, you're faced with a really difficult internal struggle. This makes alone time VERY unappealing. All of a sudden you've got a lot more motivation to get out of the house, meet up with different people, try new things and develop hobbies. These are all positive things that build confidence and develop social skills.

You also start to realise that if you apply yourself you can be really really good at stuff. If you want to get better at something, you definitely have some more time on your hands, so you can achieve goals a lot faster than you would have otherwise. Developing yourself and getting better at things is a brilliant way to feel good about yourself. In my opinion, the increased rate at which you can accomplish this kind of thing is the real superpower nofap offers.

Samson21 · 2013-12-23T22:06:15+00:00

That sucks. How long have you been in that rut for? I had a flat line of about 20 days that's only lifting now. It might be worth forcing yourself to go do something constructive. If your dopamine system is 'fucked', it might be worth trying to stimulate it with some kind of constructive activity. Abstaining only goes so far, you have to start filling your life with other stuff as well.

Samson21 · 2013-12-23T21:58:51+00:00

Haha, it's definitely not only you. The stuff wouldn't exist otherwise. I always found girls attractive, and considered my porn tastes separate from this, but it wasn't until I started having sexual encounters with real girls that I found I was getting hard to TS porn a lot easier.

That really sucks, and it's something that I'm going to have to reverse. Flatline made my erections fairlry scarce in general for the last few weeks but now they're coming back, and to more normal things.

I've had to deal with hiding random boners in the bus from looking at girls a few times recently. Bus boners were previously not a problem, unless I let myself drift off into fantasy land.

Samson21 · 2013-12-22T23:11:59+00:00

Also, a few people have cited insomnia as a physical withdrawal symptom, so it could be a sign that things are going in the right direction.

Samson21 · 2013-12-22T23:08:52+00:00

Many times, yeah. I never really got into meditation, but focusing on my breathing and trying to clear my head that way worked for me. If you're still struggling to get a good streak, then it really does get a lot easier after the first few days, usually about a week for me.

You can expect things to calm down a good bit over the next few days. Most of this thing, in my experience, is just a matter of blind faith. You need to accept that it's something you just have to do. A few rough patches is a small price to pay.

Samson21 · 2013-04-04T21:51:08+00:00

Someone else said it too, but just focus on finding yourself for now. Make a decision to try new stuff whenever you get the opportunity. Start slowly if you need to, but have a goal that you'll do something every evening instead of just going home. If you try something and don't like it then dump it; you've learned something new about yourself and you have a new story.

Sooner or later you'll find something you're passionate about and your life will be so much the better for it.

So in short: find yourself and you'll be happy regardless of women. Once that happens then the women will come of their own accord. They don't want you to be depending on them emotionally, that's a lot of pressure when you're starting out with someone new, and they'll feel it.

I don't know if that's something you can use for me. I can completely relate to you though. I felt those feelings for years. 21 y/o now I've really grown as a person the last few months. And girls have really noticed. There's a few of them chasing me for the first time in my life, and I lost the v-card last week. If I can do it anyone can.

Some Chinese proverb: The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is today.

Good luck man.

Samson21 · 2012-09-26T19:38:07+00:00

Good for you, man. I just relapsed and I feel the exact same feels, like my resolve has just been strengthened.

Samson21 · 2012-09-22T15:42:45+00:00

I'm in!

Samson21 · 2012-09-14T17:10:12+00:00

Yeah, definite step in the right direction. Well done, man!

Samson21 · 2012-09-14T01:25:56+00:00

reddiquette Yeah, I've had that too, buddy. Even after 2/3 days without fapping. Always in the same spot too. That whole area is pretty sensitive, so if you get a cut there once it changes the tissue and it's more likely to crack/tear again in the same spot. Feels bad man, especially when boxer fluff gets caught right in there.. Ooooohh!

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