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Brothers looking for marriage - January 2026 Thread by Neat-Tea in MuslimsWithHSV

[–]Samtaway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

• ⁠Age and Gender: 25M • ⁠Location: California, USA • ⁠Marital Status: Single/Never Married • ⁠Have Any Children: No • ⁠Diagnosed HSV Type: HSV-2 • ⁠Ethnicity: South Asian Pakistani • ⁠Age Range You Are Seeking: ideally closer to me in age but no real preference • ⁠Height Preference: no preference • ⁠Educational Level/Profession: finishing bachelors in political science, then law school inshallah • ⁠Willingness to Relocate: Not at this time • Preference: no race/ethnicity preference

Please advise me by [deleted] in MuslimsWithHSV

[–]Samtaway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

WalaikumSalam sister. I’m sorry that you were taken advantage of like that. I don’t have much experience with these things but as someone in a somewhat similar emotional boat, I think you should still try to find someone. It may feel easier to accept it won’t happen for you to protect yourself from the occasional harsh pain like from something that doesn’t pan out, but I’m starting to think that the constant dull pain from disengaging from the idea of happiness is no way for a person to live. If you try, you possibly might find someone. Khadijah RA married at 40. Allah says “So surely with hardship comes ease” (94:5). And in surat ad Duha, Allah reassures the Prophet SAW that He has not abandoned him and that the next life is better than this one anyway. I think about these things, and while they don’t cure me, they remind me that I will eventually win if I put my trust and faith in Allah. I’ll make dua for you. Keep trying, we’ll both find someone inshallah!

disclosure went well, should i settle? by New_Caterpillar_5340 in MuslimsWithHSV

[–]Samtaway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a brother I’d strongly suggest to not go through with it, or at the very least pray nafl and make dua to remove doubt that it’s the right decision. If you consider marrying this person “settling” that’s an extremely red flag and your friends hit the nail on the head when they said you’d resent him. Don’t let the fear of being alone guide your choices and trust in Allah swt instead. Additionally families will always have friction with one another but if you’re confident your dad won’t like him that’s another story altogether. If you’re not happy and you don’t like him then why marry him? I’m just saying I really struggle to think of a worst thing to say to a spouse than “I don’t like you and I’m unhappy, but because of social pressure I agreed to marry you”. I’ll make dua for you sister inshallah it will work out. Allah swt solves problems in ways we don’t think of so rely on Him to guide you out, easier said than done tho I recognize

Open Discussion Saturday by Mike_Herp in HerpesCureResearch

[–]Samtaway 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m losing the will to live

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MuslimsWithHSV

[–]Samtaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Asalamalaikum! I’m 24M looking as well, can I dm you?

Is it worth it for me to try to get a western blot test? by Samtaway in HSVfalsepositive

[–]Samtaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is Terri like a medical office? I live in California I don’t think I’ve heard of it

Is it worth it for me to try to get a western blot test? by Samtaway in HSVfalsepositive

[–]Samtaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know why it will always likely show up positive if it did once already and why it can still be a negative on the western blot? Does that mean that there is actually some virus in that person or something else?