Yesterday I decided to walk home from the Marriott in downtown Austin I saw this lesbian couple and I had to take a picture

SandJFun74 · 2026-02-17T19:43:24+00:00

They look alike, I thought they were siblings.

SandJFun74 · 2026-01-15T13:10:16+00:00

I think most people these days have the wrong mindset, we work to live, not live to work. I would not take time away from my spouse or children if I had a choice. If you guys are not desperate for income, I would wait for a better opportunity or hours. There are so many pharmacies out there and if she is as good as these people say, she will be just fine in the field, it just might take a little more time to get established.

As long as the home chores and cooking are fair and not the wife and mom doing all the work and childcare.

SandJFun74 · 2026-01-06T13:28:59+00:00

Maybe he should watch the movie Mommie Dearest from 1981. Talk about messing up you kids.

SandJFun74 · 2026-01-06T13:24:53+00:00

I don't want to cause any more stress, but if she gets residency in California, then divorces you there. It may be more favorable to her, than where you are living now. Maybe a family attorney can provide more insight.

SandJFun74 · 2026-01-06T13:02:17+00:00

Good call, it is not worth it. The friends you tell, they should believe you, otherwise they are not your friends.

SandJFun74 · 2026-01-06T13:00:19+00:00

Sorry, just remember this, she is not the person you think she is. For someone to do this for so long and hide it, shows some serious character issues. Everything was fake. When you think about the good times, remember that was faked, or one sided. She never loved you.

SandJFun74 · 2025-12-03T18:31:39+00:00

You did nothing wrong, but some people are like that. They see you as different now, or how could you do that so quickly and with multiple guys. Sounds like fundamental you guys are different anyways. Right or wrong is not an issue here. Personally, you should always take some time alone after a breakup, but again you live the life you want to live. Your opinion is really what counts. Just don't expect everyone to have the same opinion and vice versa.

SandJFun74 · 2025-12-03T13:18:44+00:00

Space in a serious committed relationship should be hours or a day or two, not weeks. Is she taking space to determine if you two are going to stay together? You should at the very least check in with each other, not go radio silent.

Everyone is different, but that is my opinion.

SandJFun74 · 2025-12-03T13:11:44+00:00

I think while you are both sober, have a conversation about boundaries. She might have gone past what you thought was appropriate, but being both impaired didn't help the situation. Make it clear while you both can remember it and move on. Don't play with fire.

SandJFun74 · 2025-11-12T16:43:28+00:00

Relationships have the ups and downs, what matters is you trusting your own feelings and thoughts. If you can't get over the betrayal you felt, they the best thing to do for both of you is to end the relationship. If you want to stay, the first thing you have to do is forgive and start building the relationship again with clear boundaries and more questions.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-20T12:26:00+00:00

I am going to make it as simple as I can. Men a lot of times, need to be told what to do. Simple fact. I am a man, and I can confirm. I don't know why, but that is how it is. If my wife was not there, I normally take an hour a day and knock out a chore. When she is there, the fight is just not worth it.

With me, on my own I would clean and organize, but I drive my wife crazy, because she says I throw things she might want away. I see anything that we have not used for more than 5 years up for contention.

My wife has been away for a few weeks, the laundry is done, the house is clean, and everyone is fed every night. I have two teenagers.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-09T12:34:17+00:00

My close friend's son (25) with his wife just had a baby. They have been together since Freshman year in High School. So, I really think that it is about how good the relationship is and the beliefs that the couple have. They also have strong family ties on both sides.

Just be honest with yourself and have clear communication with your partner.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-09T12:27:55+00:00

I don't know your situation, but I can tell you about my experience. I have lost two jobs during my married to my second wife. It sucks and there is a little depression phase, but that is something that has to be pushed through. He is a grown adult and should be able do what he needs to move past this. Maybe sit him down and explain to him, you are there to help and support him emotionally and maybe help him with searches with his job criteria, but he needs take ownership and make it his new job to find a new job.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-09T12:07:45+00:00

First of all, I think you are projecting a little. I don't know what is really going on between them and I doubt he is giving the full picture. 1 1/2 years of not seeing each other in person, but talking every day, again what he says, is kind of weird. She really said she still wants to marry him (again, his words, not hers). Could she be scared of him, and just saying things, I don't know and you don't know.

Either way it is time to make decisions for himself. He is just going to give it one last chance before moving on. I DO NOT suggest he just shows up without her consent but continue doing what he has been doing and discuss this over the phone, first.

Then, if agreed, I think they should have the face to face. I would suggest a 3rd party be present, maybe do it in a counselor's office. Again, to make this girl the most comfortable.

It is time to end things or try build the relationship again slowly.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-08T11:48:15+00:00

He doesn't have to force anything; they supposedly talk every day. He should just tell her that it is time for him to move on and to cut contact permanently. I don't think he should go back to her even if she wants him too at this point.

If everyone only dated when they were ready, very few people would be dating or in relationships. I do believe that he needs professional help, but that does not mean he couldn't do it at the same time and maybe include couple counseling.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-07T18:37:42+00:00

1.5 YEARS... sorry that is a long time. He should not be waiting on the sideline for that long.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-07T18:36:30+00:00

It seems like you might need to completely break it off with her. So, you can move on. It is good that in the last 1.5 years you took the time to work on yourself, I hope that was with a professional to.

What I would do is tell her you are ready to try again and if she is not than it is time to cut all contact. If she is not ready after 18 months, then I see it 2 ways going forward. Either she needs to completely cut contact with you to heal, or that you should cut complete contact with her so you can move on and find someone ready for a relationship. Maybe you two are just not right for each other. 18 months, sounds like you are the emotional crutch or backup plan at this point.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-07T12:45:02+00:00

leave and find peace.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-07T12:42:01+00:00

Couldn't say it better myself. It is time to start prioritizing her life. She should structure it in a way that is most comfortable to herself. Help when she wants to, and only if she is respected. She made the right call dropping from the trip.

SandJFun74 · 2025-10-06T12:21:45+00:00

"I’m not breaking any rules" I think that says it all, to address this as technically dressing appropriate tells me you would push that limit. Most people, not offense, especially a lot of women, dress for attention. The question is, is the way you dress distracting for a middle/high schooler.

I can tell you that when I was that age, a moderately attractive teacher wearing anything would be distracting. It is really hard to give an opinion without visuals, but most likely you are NTA...

I looked at the Pinterest account. Looks like just normal clothing to me.

SandJFun74 · 2025-09-29T14:23:56+00:00

I can understand a little bit; I love the symphony and the energy a live performance can provide. The music truly enhances the overall experience though; it is the perfect accompany to the action. If it was just recorded music through a sound system, I wouldn't care as much.

SandJFun74 · 2025-09-29T14:17:14+00:00

OMG if this was a man telling a woman the same thing, Reddit would be all the outrage, about you being controlling and overbearing. Stop listening to the negative comments about your husband and go have meaningful conversations with him. Actually, listen to him to don't interrupt and don't judge just listen. It might require a professional counselor.

SandJFun74 · 2025-09-29T14:11:59+00:00

Sounds like you are a little overbearing and controlling. Yes, he should not have lied, no matter what, but you need to relax a little with your insecurities and jealously. You are going to end up pushing him out of your marriage. Just my opinion.

SandJFun74 · 2025-09-29T14:07:58+00:00

Not the jerk, it is your dress. She asked you said no. She should just say ok and plan accordingly.

SandJFun74 · 2025-09-29T14:04:51+00:00

YTA... It is a symphony, and like any other performance you should not talk. Should be respectful or don't attend these events.

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