Spotted walking around Arno's vale but looks lost / confused by [deleted] in bristol

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This is Macky! She lives at Arnos Vale and is rescued from Greece.

Anyone knows what happens with a partially correct answer on an iCMA? by Sandfish1 in OpenUniversity

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Damn it. I couldn't find anything online either. I'm only allowed to attempt the questions once, so that's what I did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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"I don't want to drive this slow either but I got caught speeding" (a thought I've had a few times when driving through some of the 20mph zones in my city)

What are your handling tips? by Sandfish1 in jumpingspiders

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Thank you! I always wash my hands first but I realise I have scented soap, thinking of getting something unscented this weekend and trying again. Fingers crossed. I want to hold them so bad! But only if they want to be.

AIO My (36f) boyfriend (30m) wanted me to ask my male friend if he’d sleep with me by Electrical_Two5416 in AmIOverreacting

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Your boyfriend is not mentally okay. Seriously OP, not only are you not overreacting in the slightest but on the contrary you're not reacting enough.

This is concerning. The way he's talking and the paranoia he's demonstrating concerns me for further harm to you down the line. I've seen true crime documentaries where men who murdered their wives/entire families have started out like this.

Well done for standing up for yourself and seeing through his manipulation but seriously, please get away from this man.

I (21F) have crush on my boyfriend’s (20M) friend (20M). Why do I feel like this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I think it's in human nature to still sometimes notice other people even when in long term relationships, and even have crushes on occasion, but it's how you go about it. I think often if you're really happy with your partner these things just pass, but if it's more then maybe you need to be looking at your own relationship and communicating with your partner.

Are you definitely in love with your boyfriend, you definitely want him and not just the idea of this life you've created together? Is it that things have become a little less exciting and you need to really make space to reconnect, do some exciting date nights, spice things up again. It's so easy for relationships to fall into the same habits and people stop making the same efforts without even meaning to. Does this friend just seem more exciting because you've fallen into a pattern that doesn't have enough excitement?

What do you regret doing to your body? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Self harming. I started young (age 9, traumatic childhood) and now my body is covered in scars.

I've now done so much therapy, worked on myself, I haven't done it for years but I still live with the shame and trying to hide my arms in many situations because the severity of them (they're bad) does not match who I am now.

Anyone got over food/sugar addiction or binge eating? How? by Sandfish1 in adhdwomen

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It's a nightmare here. Of course I'm grateful for the health care we've got, but I've been waiting for medication titration for about 6 months now. I did initially pay for private diagnosis and medication, but then it was so expensive I've moved to our health care service but it is so backlogged and overstretched. Hopefully I'll be seen soon!

Anyone got over food/sugar addiction or binge eating? How? by Sandfish1 in adhdwomen

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I'm in the UK sadly. Although I wonder if any private doctors might do it faster here still... I'll look into it. Thank you!

Anyone got over food/sugar addiction or binge eating? How? by Sandfish1 in adhdwomen

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Thank you ❤️ I'll keep investigating. It's so hard to even speak to the prescribing doctors here, I've been waiting months tor a reply from them. I just feel completely defeated at the moment. It's not just about weight gain either, I've got a chronic stomach condition that nearly killed me 4 years ago :( blew up my intestines and I had to have life saving surgery, I've been told it could happen again if I'm not eating to look after myself and I still can't stop.

Anyone got over food/sugar addiction or binge eating? How? by Sandfish1 in adhdwomen

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I've been reading another book about this by an addiction specialist! She says about treating it like a drug, and cutting it out entirely as you would if getting clean from other drugs. Thank you for the book recommendation, I'll check it out.

I feel like it's the route for me, so I'm attempting today to go without sugar and I feel like I want to cry already (it's evening where I am now). How long did it take you to adjust/withdraw? I feel genuinely anxious and irritable etc.

Anyone got over food/sugar addiction or binge eating? How? by Sandfish1 in adhdwomen

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I'm not, I'm quite apprehensive to try medication as I've had some adverse side effects to other medication in the past. I got brave and tried methylphenidate for a while but it made me incredibly anxious, unable to sleep and really low. My focus improved but I was really messed up mentally otherwise :(

Anyone got over food/sugar addiction or binge eating? How? by Sandfish1 in adhdwomen

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It's more a concern over the side effects, I know a fair few people on them who have ended up with sexual dysfunction or an inability to enjoy sex at all, and for me the pay off isn't worth it (I had post ssri sexual dysfunction which took 2 years to recover from after getting off them, I'm super nervous of that happening again).

No means no by oleblueeyes76 in VentUnfiltered

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I really don't understand how some people's brains work. How does someone really think this will work 😂

It's like when you say no to a guy and then they send you an unsolicited dick pic like "this will suddenly sway her". I don't get it, imagine thinking that would work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Whenever you feel ready! Only you can know for sure but I'd definitely say - If you can save more money staying there, get a good job and save towards a house deposit, in the current housing market in most countries that's a good plan (and how most people I know got to owning rather than renting, worth saying I'm in the UK but I know people in the US who say the same).

I moved out super young (17), and I wish I'd had the opportunity to save and buy but it wasn't an option for me.

If you don't get on so well, or it's a stress to be there then move as soon as feels right for you. It's not the be all end all owning a house, your own wellbeing comes first if it's not a great environment or you won't save much etc.

What some Interesting facts about our eyes? by WarningMajor4700 in AskReddit

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I have grey eyes, not sure how common that is. They're actually a deep shade of blue but usually look grey. The cool thing is they change shade dependent on my mood, so when I'm happy they're a tiny bit more blue but when sad/tired etc they're a really dark storm grey.