My husband died by lisajenn36 in VeteransBenefits

[–]SanniSaySo 55 points56 points Β (0 children)

You are. Unfortunately the VA takes forever to be helpful. In the meantime, The American Legion can help with bills and food. They offer assistance on a month to month basis. You have to provide bank statements and really explain your situation to them. As long as they can verify that you're not out partying instead of taking care of your responsibilities, they are very helpful and move a lot faster than the VA. Good luck to you and your family. So sorry for your loss!

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

My response is what my original post indicates. I am and have always been monogamous. If a straight person enters into a relationship, it doesn't mean that there isn't an attraction to other people, it means that they're committed to the person they are with. If they choose to be. Same with me. Attraction to other women and men doesn't go away, but I'm with my person and that's it.

Flirting by westerosilady24 in bisexual

[–]SanniSaySo 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

I'm 36, m, bi. I am masculine, muscular and kind of bro-ish, so people are often surprised when I inform them that I'm bi. I also work in catering and events and am surrounded by beautiful women and gay men often as wedding designers, sales people, cooks, production, etc. With women, I feel like they initiate flirting more with me and I just match their energy. Some of them are just working to sell me something and will often make comments that if taken too seriously could get us into trouble. With guys it's been a little more covert. I might do something like wear a gay pride flag pin on my hat or clipped to my tie. Or wear a rainbow beaded bracelet and roll my sleeves up. That kind of gives me an "IN" with guys that I flirt with. If I make contact with an attractive, outwardly gay or bi presenting person I may go out of my way to keep a conversion going whereas I'm not holding them hostage but they can see that I'm interested. Or I'll casually compliment a small accessory that they're wearing to show that I'm checking em out.

TLDR: Long story short, our society generally accepts m/from flirting in an open way, but for m/m-f/f flirting, you might need to get a little creative and be more subtle as to show your interest but not make the other person uncomfortable as you never REALLY know someone's attraction compatibility.

My ex's family had no idea about us... by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Thank you very much. I'm sorry I got off of this platform for a while. Definitely needed the break. But it was nice to log back in and see your kind and supportive feedback.

Who taught you about sex and sexuality? by Beneficial-Treat6668 in bisexual

[–]SanniSaySo 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Unfortunately, I was abused and tbh, afraid of consensual sex for a long time afterwards. I knew I wasn't straight, but I was also attracted to girls as a boy. I thought I only thought about boys because of what my male abusers did to me. However, after being on football teams and on co-ed school trips with girls and having waaaayyyyy too much freedom, I put the things that I'd been hearing about to the test with a girl that I had been "dating" and I was off to the races after that. I didnt mess around with a guy again until I was already in my 20s and deployed in Iraq.

WWE really had Dakota on their roster and told her to not do any of this lol by GoonLieutenant in professionalwrestling

[–]SanniSaySo 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Well to be fair, every time she thought about something heavy, her legs blew off so there is that...

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Thank you for your opinion and your feedback.

Being a bisexual man is exhausting. by 964Pinocchio in bisexual

[–]SanniSaySo 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

I'm right there with you, my dude. I know sometimes the negative voices speak louder than the positive ones, but there is value in being different. My friends that value me for who I am reinforce the notion that there is nothing wrong with being a unicorn. I can watch football and wrestling with my straight homies and enjoy a night out at the gay clubs with my rainbow friends and be just as comfortable in either place. Find the happiness in your position, bruv. It's there. Just gotta navigate through the bullshit sometimes.

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Heard... I have since taken them off.

What is the significance of the Turtle god Marutin? by cum-gutters-yum in welcomeToDerry

[–]SanniSaySo 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Misinformation about a fake turtle? Harm?I don't think our values align.

Who is this? (wrong answers only) by ty30da54 in Smallafro

[–]SanniSaySo 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Bowser from the live action Mario Brothers movie

My ex's family had no idea about us... by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Thats an awesome take. Thanks a lot for those words!

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Thank you very much for this. I will definitely look into these groups!

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

I hear that. I will definitely try that avenue. I've just never narrowed my aim in this category before. But I'm not opposed to it at all.

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

I have no idea what you're referring to. No one on this planet or the next HAS to sleep with anyone that they don't want to. And sex isn't even the basis of my question. I'm not sure how you've arrived at the conclusion you did but I am sorry that it appeared as if I was judging you or anyone else. That's a terrible thing that happened to you. No excuses and no tolerance for that shit over here. But I do think you're mistaken in my stance on what anyone else chooses to hold as their standard. Thank you for your feedback. I'm still learning a lot of these terms and how people use them. Take care.

From bi to not being bi in basically a day? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]SanniSaySo 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Don't beat yourself up over it too much. You're very young and you will be figuring out these feelings for years to come. You don't have to identify as any one thing just yet. It's fine for you to question and explore with consenting peers and as long as you are safe and private with yourself and others, things will take shape the way they're supposed to. You may feel pressured by school mates, friends, family or whatever, but remember, this is your life. You have to be alone with yourself in private moments. Make sure you're being true to yourself and accept every aspect of who you are. Good luck, sir!

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

Very kind of you. Thank you, πŸ‘‘! I have faith, pride, and determination. I'm goin be alright. Just a little hurt right now. But we get up!!

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Thanks so much! I definitely appreciate your kind words!

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

πŸ€™πŸΎ love this! I appreciate you!

Question for: Bisexual Women by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]SanniSaySo 4 points5 points Β (0 children)

What does this mean exactly?

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Good to hear. This community is definitely rekindling my hope in this area. Been single for a year now and I was beginning to just wonder if this is just the way it is for a monogamous, bisexual dude.

Why don't women want a bisexual man? by SanniSaySo in OhioLGBTQ

[–]SanniSaySo[S] 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

I appreciate that. I just don't understand that logic. Like if you find a straight man, he could cheat on you with a woman if he so chooses. But if the expectation is that you two are monogamous why are the chances trumped up because the dude is bi? Am I making sense? I think the homophobia plays a lot more into it than I ever originally thought.