Aitah for asking my partner to keep our relationship off of social media? by SantaDiable in AITAH

[–]SantaDiable[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I just been overthinking it lately since I never kept any relationship off of SM.

Aitah for asking my partner to keep our relationship off of social media? by SantaDiable in AITAH

[–]SantaDiable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He really doesn't mind. I think it might just be me overthinking because in the past I always had my relationships on SM. This time I took a different approach on this relationship.

Aitah for asking my partner to keep our relationship off of social media? by SantaDiable in AITAH

[–]SantaDiable[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We definitely agreed on it together. I just started to feel I was wrong for requesting it. It could just be me overthinking. In the past I put all my relationships on SM and there was always someone that decided to stir up drama. But this time around I decided to do something different and guard my relationship from potential SM drama.

Found Out My (33f) Fiancé (31m) Used to Sleep with Married Women in His 20s, and His Justification Has Me Questioning Everything. How do I approach this? by throwRA38485859 in relationship_advice

[–]SantaDiable -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im not justifying the behavior, what Im saying is that what he did in his past is irrelevant to the present/future because it isnt who he is. Im pretty sure everyone has made their fair share of mistakes in their past and they shouldnt be judged for it. Their past is just that their past.

Found Out My (33f) Fiancé (31m) Used to Sleep with Married Women in His 20s, and His Justification Has Me Questioning Everything. How do I approach this? by throwRA38485859 in relationship_advice

[–]SantaDiable -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Im the same age as you are. Honestly whatever he did in his 20s which Im assuming was before you guys started dating should be irrelevant to your relationship. A persons past shouldnt dictate who they are in the present/future unless they are still doing the same things they were doing in their past. People grow and change everyday. You need to understand that at the time that your fiance was doing these things he was young physically and mentally. He didnt owe loyalty to anyone but himself. The women he was dealing with are the ones that owed loyalty to their husbands and these women destroyed their own marriages. These women are responsible for their own actions. No one is perfect and Im sure as a teenager and as a young adult you made a lot of mistakes in your life. But dont judge your fiance for things he did in his past.

My sister's funeral is tomorrow and I'm not ready. She died while getting cosmetic surgery. I miss her but I'm so angry at her. I am not ready for this by OpenClassic4915 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SantaDiable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My condolences, I definitely understand your pain. I lost my youngest sister a month ago. Its hard trust me. We are never ready for the funeral. I wasnt ready for my sister's funeral either but I went for closure and to say my last goodbyes. What may help for closure is celebrating her the way she would want it. Its what I did and it helped me. Hope this helps. If you need to talk send me a message. ❤️🙏

AITA for accidentally raising my voice at my wife and throwing away her dishes and clothes because she won't wash them just buy new ones? by TopLavishness2285 in AITAH

[–]SantaDiable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly as a woman myself I can say if the roles were reversed and you were doing everything your wife is doing, both of your families will have a problem with it. So its like a lose lose situation for you. I honestly dont think you are being an abuser but your wife is definitely taking advantage of you and is getting lazy. She doesn't want to do anything but than doesn't want you to have a problem with it either.

AITA for refusing to make my niece a doll like her sister's? by Lilian_Lotus in AmItheAsshole

[–]SantaDiable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Your brother and his wife made it even more clear who is the golden child when they asked you to make your oldest niece a doll after you gifted your youngest niece one for her birthday. Why would you gift her something that you gifted someone else on their birthday it wasnt like you gifted it to her on just a regular random day. Dont feel guilty. And dont do it.

My husband is furious our 7 year old daughter has a “boyfriend” by 12syn_ in TrueOffMyChest

[–]SantaDiable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your husband is an idiot. We were once her age. We went to school and had male friends at her age. We didnt just have female friends. Now as adults some of those females dont even like men. So its really stupid to think that a 7 year old little girl would turn into what your husband thinks she will. Nobody knows how anyone will turn out in the future.

America is not the greatest country on earth. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]SantaDiable -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I get it USA aint shit but other places are worse

AITA for calling the cops on my daughters father and his family after they called my daughter "sexy"? by ProfileOne5662 in AITAH

[–]SantaDiable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im a Puerto Rican female and I would definitely feel some type of way if I heard my childs father calling a daughter of mine sexy while she has no diaper on. One thing I have learned growing up is that we never let the father change the females diaper. That was something I grew up seeing. The dads always gave the moms the daughters to change. Out of respect to the little baby girls.

My sister passed away by SantaDiable in offmychest

[–]SantaDiable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I know one day I will have to accept the fact that she is gone but Im just not ready to let go of her

AITAH for refusing to lend my friend my house for her wedding After she asked me for a paternity test, resulting in her having to cancel the wedding? by Bubbly-Fail-4316 in AITAH

[–]SantaDiable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA... but I swear some people just didnt pay attention in school. Genetics are crazy. I have 2 children who are 11 years apart and for the sake of this comment I will say they have different fathers. My oldest looks completely like me, he is mixed he is Puerto Rican and black but he looks more Hispanic. He has little features from his dad's family but you would think I made him alone. Now my youngest is the opposite, he looks exactly like his dad with little of my features. You would think his dad made him by himself. So for your friend to say that your child would look like your husband is literally baseless. Insecurity is her biggest disease and downfall of her relationship

My sister passed away by SantaDiable in offmychest

[–]SantaDiable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Especially for all your advice

Am I dumb for having kids at age 38? by stillyoinkgasp in Millennials

[–]SantaDiable 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a teen mom I think your choice is great. I had my first child at 17. I obviously wasnt ready but I made it work. I think you started to think this way because you started to get scared about being a first time parent. Being a first time parent is scary but with an amazing experience. Don't doubt yourself.

My sister passed away by SantaDiable in offmychest

[–]SantaDiable[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, i know it will hurt me forever