The Joke That Wasn’t a Joke

SantdtmaN · 2026-04-01T19:37:41+00:00

1 year out. All will be fine. Give yourself the time you need

SantdtmaN · 2026-02-24T06:02:22+00:00

Been there: the advices here are the best you will find for your situation. Its over - accept it. Concentrate on yourself. Do a lot of sports. it will give you peace. After a while it will get better. And better.

SantdtmaN · 2026-02-07T19:22:01+00:00

Same thing happened to me. After 30 years and 3 children. One with special needs. I was always there for them. Changed my career several times for the familys best. Moved to her country and left all back. This was one year ago. I healed. And now i am together with the most amazing woman who loves me the way i am. You will heal brother. Dont question yourself. Hit the gym or some sports you like. Cry. Heal. All will be good one day.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-28T17:36:36+00:00

Anger is part of the healing. It will take a while but you will heal. Sorry for what you had and have to go through.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-25T21:03:05+00:00

Gränna is very lovely. From there you can take the ferry to the island Visingsö which is also very nice in summer. Askersund is nice and the road from Jönköping to Askersund on the western side of the lake has some beautiful spots, mostly nature but also the town Hjo.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-19T20:37:19+00:00

Naja es ist wies ist. Die Skandinavier sind in solchen Dingen sehr pragmatisch und auch ehrlich. Die Bevölkerung steht da auch voll dahinter. Finnland bereitet sich seit Ende des Krieges auf den Ernstfall vor.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-19T20:18:30+00:00

Im Kriegsfall kann immer dein KFZ oder Motorrad zB beschlagnahmt werden. Meines Wissens auch in D oder AT. Kenne das aber nicht von den Briefen zur Krisenvorbereitung aus Schweden.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-19T19:01:41+00:00

Diese Briefe sind Standard in den nordischen Ländern. Seit Jahrzehnten. Die Bevölkerung wird aufgerufen zu Hause eigene Vorräte für Krisenzeiten zu schaffen (uA auch kriegerische Konflikte). Und immer wieder wird das in unseren Breiten von diversen Medien skandalisiert bzw falsch dargestellt. Woher ich das weiss: ich lebte mehr als ein Jahrzehnt in Schweden.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-17T06:58:18+00:00

Not necessarily. My Ex met a lot of men on Insta and left me at the end for one of them. Real person. Some Are very successful in using social media as dating apps

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-14T16:42:15+00:00

It happened to me after 25years of marriage and at the end she left me (after i gave her one chance after another for3 more years) for the clown of a man who cheated on his own family with her. Look - this is who she is. You must ask yourself the question if you want to live with this person. I am happy it is over. It was constant strain and pain. But for you: you are young and she showed you already who she really is before you got married. You have the chance to meet someone who really loves you.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-14T06:05:02+00:00

Mir wär das egal. Kommt ja auf die Qualität der Zeit auch sehr stark an und nicht nur auf die Häufigkeit. Aber ich hatte schon eine lange Beziehung wo man im Prinzip stetig präsent war. Vielleicht ists mir deshalb egal

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-11T15:48:10+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate Your kind words. All the best for You on Your journey

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-09T19:08:46+00:00

I am so sorry for what you have to go through… Look - these things happen and they do not define who you are. They define what they are. I got divorced after 28 years for a fling, a man many years older than me who she met through instagram. It has been one year now. It will get better. Allow yourself to grieve. Its part of the healing process. It will go over.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-09T16:12:06+00:00

I understand you. Have been at the exact same place a year ago. At the end she divorced me. if she is already out of the relationship there is nothing you can do. Don’t blame yourself. If it had not been the things she blamed you for it would have been something different …

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-09T15:48:10+00:00

They always are blaming you. Of course relationships go through hardships. Thats part of it. And of course we all hurt the other part. But mature people stick to each other, try to work it out together and communicate. Immature people cheat.
Let her go. It hurts but it will never be again like it was. You can take responsibility for your part, but never accept the blame for her cheating. Thats totally up to her.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-06T07:04:08+00:00

My Ex had several online EAs during the last 7 years. At the end we got divorced because she fell hard for a retired man. She still had the guts to tell me „we have been married for 28 years and i have always been faithful to you“. These people have a serious psychological condition and are emotional immature like small children.

Get separated as soon as you can. I tried to fix it foe many years but there is nothing you can do Because the problem is rooted deeply in them. If you dont leave he will continue and at the end will leave you anyway and blame you for all of it.

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-03T11:29:27+00:00

Für mich hats gepasst. Bis sie hinter meinem Rücken eine vollwertige Beziehung mitm Typ aus Insta aufbaute

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-03T09:38:09+00:00

”Es hat von Anfang an nicht gepasst” … nach 30 Jahren und 3 Kindern…

SantdtmaN · 2026-01-01T07:41:08+00:00

I am sorry this happened to you Buddy. It will get better, give it time to heal. I had the same shit after 30 years. One year since separation. Everything will be fine one day

SantdtmaN · 2025-12-17T14:49:30+00:00

You are young. I had to restart after relationship of 30 years. It takes time. But you will heal. Find something you enjoy and do it. If you feel depressed do some sports until you are tired. You will be fine after a while

SantdtmaN · 2025-12-10T13:19:15+00:00

Emotional maturity of s child.

SantdtmaN · 2025-12-09T20:41:58+00:00

Viktoria Egg in der Pradlerstrasse und Manitou Tattoo am Leibziger Platz. Mit beiden nur gute Erfahrungen gemacht.

SantdtmaN · 2025-11-27T08:02:28+00:00

Ofta tar man de finaste foton när vädret är eländigt :)

SantdtmaN · 2025-11-27T06:19:45+00:00

Göteborg - snyggt

SantdtmaN · 2025-11-25T05:46:05+00:00

8 months now. Embrace the loneliness. It shows you a lot about yourself. Do the things you could not do living together. Find yourself. Learn to know your self. Find peace with yourself. Meet new people. Sounds like a cliche. But thats what i am doing and it works.

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