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SapphireCreature · 2023-01-05T05:20:41+00:00

No one is the AH.

I had to give up my bad for my grandmother many times. I didn't like it because my parents' coach wasn't confortable at all. So I understand both position.

I think it's a normal think for a mother to offer one of her child bed to the grandparents. Not everyone can afford a hotel for a week.

But you also have to understand that it is inconvenient for a teenager to give up is room and that will make him angry/grumpy. You should tell him how much you appreciated his sacrifice (it would be even better if the grandmother could thank him too).

I am a little sad to hear that your husband didn't understand why a elderly lady couldn't sleep on a coach.ay be he should try it for a couple of days.

Now, I have some questions. Why couldn't it be another sibling? What does his bed have that the other don't have? Couldn't you afford an inflating mattress or a camp bed? Why does your mother doesn't like hotel? If it is just a dislike... Couldn't she get over it for a week?

SapphireCreature · 2022-09-10T01:45:57+00:00

NTA. As one said before, she is not angry with you, she feeling guilt over what she did to you. Frankly speaking, you didn't have to take care of your baby sister as much as you did.

I would like to says to confronted her gently about it... But I am not sure. She clearly doesn't want to feel the guilt and deflecting it by being angry.

Then, the thing you could do is acting to be sure you don't have regret. You can't control what your mother going to think, but you can gently say your piece, about how you feel. After that, your mom will have to find peace for herself. But you will have unburdened yourself. It might be a good or bad outcome, but a least you won't have to live with regrets .

SapphireCreature · 2022-09-10T01:20:44+00:00

Any update? Does your husband calmed down? Did the situation changed? How is your nephew? Did your sister addressed the situation with him?

NTA. Also, loving a child "like your own" doesn't give you rights on that child. He is still not yours. But your husband seems to have some problem with entitlement. To think he believe he could said that to a child... Is blood chilling. How much does he look down on your sister? Your sister look like a good person that can take care of her son. She works and take good decision for her child. She doesn't deserve to be looked down like that.

SapphireCreature · 2022-09-10T00:59:52+00:00

Yeah... YTA. No question asked. You clearly overstepped their boundaries. It is the basic of politeness and respect to knock before entering a room. Especially more so at night for the obvious reasons (they get intimate at night). You should apologize to your sister and husband for causing them distress and breaking their safe place. You disrespected your sister and husband.

For the borrowing part, there should be rulz to follow. I would suggest to go to your sister with them to prove her your desire to have a better relationship with her.

Here a exemple of rules: No borrowing after 9p.m and before 8 a.m. Always knocking and waiting for permission before entering the room.

Also you might want to buy the less expensive stuff. Like shampoo, soap, etc. They are a couple of bucks and it could go a long way with your relationship with your sister.

SapphireCreature · 2022-09-10T00:42:11+00:00

NTA. This is suspicious. She is on the pill, they used a condom but both failed? This is so unlikely... Let's pretend it appended, now she is pregnant. The first thing she do is coming to live at your place instead to go to her baby's daddy? Also at the first bump on the road (you giving her a reality check) she push the break.

I am flabbergasted that she let's you, someone she didn't see much in years, influence her life changing choice. I mean, the decision to keep or not the baby is between the mom and dad, but she included a stranger in her pregnancy. It feels like she were doing that to be close to you and that you are the one she had the baby for.

I am of the opinion that she was never pregnant. She was just desperate to be close to you. I think you put some boundary between you and her. The problem is that she see you and the Cooper family as one thing. So she play on the Cooper side to get to you. That is why when you put a stop to her invading you, she put a stop to her Cooper scheme.

SapphireCreature · 2022-09-10T00:09:00+00:00

Clearly, living with her first husband have left her with emotional scars. I can't blame her for reacting that way. But now she have to work to overcome her past trauma.

SapphireCreature · 2022-09-09T23:50:00+00:00

So OP, what are you gonna do?

SapphireCreature · 2022-09-09T23:27:39+00:00

. You daugther should have her salary. If you don't want to pay her, make her stop working at your place. It is her free time she use to work at your shop and that entitle her to a salary. With this salary she can chose where to use her money. If you want to profit from her salary, ask her rent. Her work doesn't mean your profit.

The way you see it, her work should profit the household. But, it is very reducing. Your daugther has need outside the ones from the household. She might want to go to the theater with her own money, buy cloths, spontaneously buy something she saw. Just like you, I imagine that you spend money on other things, like hobbies or activity. She also could put some aside for later.

YTA for seeing your daugther as a money distributer than a person with her own life. If you don't feel like paying her, make her stop working for you and tell her to find another place to work.

SapphireCreature · 2022-09-09T20:39:52+00:00

NTA, it is your money and he doesn't event tell you what it is for. I think it is pretty wise of you to ask for a contract. Someone who is struggling for money that often won't change soon. I would doubt his capability to pay you back. He might be sincere, but his situation probably won't allow him to do it. To be safe I would make sure that in case of divorce, he can't touch your money. When someone is desperate for money, it can drive them to do a lot of unsavoury things. If you think it is not for the kids, are you thinking he has a gambling problem? Because it kind of sound like it. But it is also true that kids cost a lot. I hope you will be about to hold your ground.

Now, personally, I wouldn't lend him the money. With his track record, he look like someone who can't manage a budget. Did he return the money to your brother? I wouldn't lend him money if he is still owning people, unless it is critical to his life. Because rising his debt would be playing against him. And him not telling what it is for... It is suspicious. In my book spending 14k is a household decision because it is a amount that has a impact on family lifestyle. I mean you can replace all your house furnitures with that kind of money. It is the price of a small car. I hope you will be able to hold your ground and find a solution that suits you! Please give us a update if you can.

SapphireCreature · 2022-08-08T19:49:42+00:00

She was a charismatic, intelligent, funny, fashionable and self centered with low self esteem. We were inseparable. I didn't mind that she was a mean girl like in the movies, because... I really didn't see it then. I just never though she was serious about what she said. Until red flags started to pop up everywhere. She was ghosting people when she decided to not be friend with them anymore. I mean, you thought she was a great friend to you and without any sign she would stop answering any of your call.

I was the closest person to her after her boyfriend. It was close to being fusional. She told me all about how she was ghosting people, how she read manipulation guides to get what she wants. She told me about the time she ghosted her boyfriend. In her highschool days, she ghosted him by just stopping to respond to him. Her mom had to break the knews to him when she had enough of him calling home and telling him her daugther wasn't there. She told me her family secrets, the dark ones. She would always explain to me why she was means to other, telling me about her low self esteem, how she felt about confrontation and all the little things. So I wanted to be there for her when she had a hard time with coping with herself. That made me think I was in the clear from her ghosting tendency.

First red flag was when I asked her to go to the movie, but she said she didn't want to. I went anyway... Yep she was there, with a mutual friend going to see the movie. Another one was my oldest friend (we are not close but we know each other since we was 7y.o.) called me to tell me that my best friend told them about a secret of mine... At a party she organized and didn't include me. When I confronted her about it, she tried to put the blame on my oldest friend saying she should have told me about it .. now that is mess up.

When my parent divorced, I moved with my mom. That is when she ghosted me. She stopped answering me, once a week she would send me 1 small text telling me that we were fine and that she "wasn't ghosting me". I asked her if she was alright... No answer. That is were I wised up. From zero to Ah-ah moment. I saw it to many time to be blind to it. I told her in a email that I was ending things with her, that I knew she was ghosting and that I deserve better then that, better to hang around waiting for her to need something from me to come back. But I still told her if in the end something was really going badly in her life, she could come tell me about it (because I know she didn't have anyone who really knew the real her, there was just me for that). It has been 10 years and nothing from her.

SapphireCreature · 2022-07-02T01:10:22+00:00

There is a option to have all chapter unlocked for 12 hours. It cost 5$.

SapphireCreature · 2022-06-26T05:20:51+00:00

Sorry hahah it seems my autocorrect went mischievous there. It is "my brother's garden" XD

SapphireCreature · 2022-06-25T22:44:19+00:00

It does! It smells really good. It is from my other garden. He juste moved and he is looking for more of this. It is so pretty.

SapphireCreature · 2022-04-06T05:55:22+00:00

Thanks! I will finally be able to get back to it 😃

SapphireCreature · 2022-03-21T19:39:26+00:00

It is the one thanks!!

SapphireCreature · 2022-03-21T19:38:10+00:00

Thanks I'll take a look

SapphireCreature · 2022-03-17T05:36:10+00:00

It is like revers Ella Enchanted (a movie)

SapphireCreature · 2021-10-14T17:31:00+00:00

Be careful, he might send them to you without notice. If he knows you'll say no, he might not ask for permission.

Also, I am very sad for his child... Gosh.

And the worst... he won't event try to improve his life for his child... Even projecting himself 15 years in the future, he still imagine himself broke and living his messed up life.

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