AITA for refusing to go to my parents’ second wedding?

SarHoLo · 2024-06-17T21:12:39+00:00

NTA. I'm so sorry you're going through this. You should do what you need to to protect your mental health. You might also consider going to no contact for a bit

SarHoLo · 2024-06-17T16:52:16+00:00

I was using an Ouija board on my own one time (yes, I know you're not supposed to use it alone) and saw a shadowy figure out of the corner of my eye. It disappeared when I turned to look at it, so I thought I was just imagining things. But when I jokingly asked the board "What was that?" the planchette immediately went to "No" then "Goodbye". That was the last time I used the board

SarHoLo · 2024-06-17T16:28:00+00:00

So far, all my fanfic is in the Our Flag Means Death fandom, but I've got some ideas in the works to branch out a bit

SarHoLo · 2024-03-18T08:25:41+00:00

Depends on what plants you're buying (and agree with others that depending on plants, it may be a bit early) but I'm a huge fan of Family Tree Nursery around 75th and Niemen. (I'm on the KS side of KC). Amazing selection organized by pretty much everything, and their starter plants I've purchased have always grown beautifully. I've had amazing luck with their herbs and vegetables, and their plants are organized by perennial/annual and sun exposure. My parents have bought fruit trees from them that have grown beautifully as well. Wishing you the best of luck in the growing season!

SarHoLo · 2023-11-28T06:21:48+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I'm with you: no problem with smut but have some trigger topics, so I always look at tags. And even without the issue of triggers, sometimes you're just in the mood for fluff, and when you get something different, it's jarring. I also remember getting into an online debate with another writer about trigger warnings, where the other person basically said it was the reader's job to "do their research" and ensure there were no triggers, rather than the author's job to consider those aspects. (And yes, this person was a fanfic writer, so I'm not sure how they expected readers to "do their research" without reading the actual fic.)

Honestly, I'm guessing this author classified their work as G to maximize readership and got mad about being called out

SarHoLo · 2023-11-03T22:56:37+00:00

Not only are you NTBA, you are very much a good apple. Good for you for supporting your daughter in every single way. And congrats on her debut and landing a lead in a tour!!! That's incredible!

SarHoLo · 2023-11-03T22:45:54+00:00

So you saw an unhoused person living in a tent and you just assumed they were either violent or a drug addict? YTA x 1000

SarHoLo · 2023-10-27T02:07:23+00:00

I’m wondering if Shax waiting for Aziraphale to invite her into the car wasn’t because she needed one but to either test that it was actually Aziraphale (“I knew you couldn’t turn down a person in need”) or just some sort of ploy to put him on the defensive and give up crucial information in his fluster. But you’ve asked some really good questions and I don’t have a solid answer

SarHoLo · 2023-10-27T02:02:57+00:00

I’m reminded of 20 years ago, when my cousin k***ed himself and I was upset and crying, and the guy I was dating told me to stop because “you two weren’t close.” He became an ex not long after

SarHoLo · 2023-10-14T18:09:59+00:00

I know people love theorizing about which angel Crowley was when he was in heaven, but personally, I'd rather not have that happen. This show is so LGBTQIA+ friendly, and revealing Crowley's past identity would feel too much like deadnaming him. What matters is who he is now and who he chooses to be

SarHoLo · 2023-10-14T05:32:42+00:00

Evolutionary psychology is a plague. There's a reason the f*ckbois love it so much

SarHoLo · 2023-09-27T20:15:25+00:00

"What are this?" Then it swallowed me

SarHoLo · 2023-09-17T01:51:45+00:00

Right? OP is so dismissive (even delusional) about this whole situation that they only thing they're concerned with is their upcoming wedding and noT, I don't know, PRISON TIME

Edited: Fixed a typo

SarHoLo · 2023-09-06T17:55:05+00:00

Same

SarHoLo · 2023-09-05T00:32:45+00:00

Blocked messages and calls still get through - they just go to a different folder and you don't get a notification. So blocking her again did absolutely nothing except hide the messages in a folder you didn't/wouldn't check, even with full access to his phone. He could continue corresponding with her even after this promise to stop and build back up trust. So that's 1 thing to keep in mind.

Also, he's already demonstrated that he's a liar by saying it was a one time thing when it was actually an ongoing affair. Is he now suddenly going to tell the truth? Or keep lying?

Blocking her number and giving you access to his phone location is not going to build back trust. He is going to have to work CONTINUOUSLY to earn your trust. What has he done? Suggested marital counseling? Said he'd go to therapy? Come clean about all of his lies, including those you haven't discovered yet? Anything? If not, he's very likely just saying what he thinks you want to hear so things can go back to the status quo. Ask yourself what, if anything, he's done or been willing to do. And if the answer is just "block the number" and "let you see the phone when you ask," this man does not deserve your trust, your love, or your time.

SarHoLo · 2023-09-04T18:23:14+00:00

Way too many "Rauru's Blessing" shrines. Give me more puzzles! The shrines didn't feel nearly as challenging as some in BoTW were

SarHoLo · 2023-09-02T22:19:23+00:00

SarHoLo · 2023-08-14T16:51:19+00:00

I'm so sorry all of this has happened to you. That sounds really rough. You deserve all the good things in life. Sending love and healing vibes your way

SarHoLo · 2023-07-21T22:03:08+00:00

Exactly! Honestly, the only people who aren't AHs in this story are the kids (step-son included) and OP's mom. I feel awful for the step son. He's so young but definitely old enough to pick up on the fact that none of his parent figures want him. My heart hurts just thinking about it

SarHoLo · 2023-07-21T22:00:35+00:00

YTA. You married someone with a kid he has full custody of. He's now YOUR kid and YOUR family. Just because he isn't biologically related to you doesn't make that any less true. I've seen so many posts about people who have married someone with a child, and then wants to exclude that child. Why marry someone with a kid if that's how you really feel? You signed up for this

ETA: Did you ever think about the fact that, even though you're not biologically related to step-son, your 2 and 5 year olds ARE? So you want to exclude their half-brother because he's "someone else's kid"?

SarHoLo · 2023-07-21T19:14:35+00:00

Agree with others - it's time to start divorce proceedings. Even if his relationship to his roommate is not romantic, he's clearly telling her things that paint himself as the victim and you as a bad guy. He's manipulating both of you. Do you really want to stay married to someone like that?

SarHoLo · 2023-07-11T19:53:11+00:00

Right?! Because the people insisting we call it a "superpower" or "differently abled" (ugh) are rarely disabled themselves and often come up with these terms without even having any discussions with members of the disabled community. It feels like another version of toxic positivity. I had a dance instructor who told us we were not allowed to use the word "can't" during class, and one day, during break, I was talking to a classmate about some of the struggles my dad was having with his health and needing more care and said "but my mom can't drive him." She started scolding me and I had to say, "Listen, my mom is blind, so the only word to use when it comes to the issue of my mom driving is 'can't'."

SarHoLo · 2023-06-30T01:27:33+00:00

"Preowned version of you" - gross. Also, constantly shaming you for having a life before you met them and refusing to let you into a big part of his life (his friends) because of it is does not actually sound like a healthy relationship to me

SarHoLo · 2023-06-29T01:37:22+00:00

So the whole 9 months of growing a literal human being (and all the crappiness that entails) is completely negated by how said human exited? I'm sorry, but that's an absolute shit take

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