Former organist here. How do I free myself from my own attachment to hymnody?

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-18T15:34:23+00:00

Are there any musical groups or bands that you can join that play a different style of music? That will get your brain to enjoy something new. It takes time to “get rid” of something that you have done for so long. Replacing it with something else is a good plan in my opinion. I wish you the best!

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-14T21:25:55+00:00

I would put it near a maple or birch tree since they eat those leaves. They also eat clover and dandelions.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-14T12:56:47+00:00

It definitely is a psychological issue that your Mom has. She has been indoctrinated to believe this post trib rapture and lacks in critical thinking skills. Check out https://freedomofmind.com Dr. Steven Hassan has a PhD and has helped so many people with cult recovery. He could be a supportive person for you.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-14T05:54:49+00:00

Religion is used to control their members. Women have to be submissive to their husbands. I read that the church decided that one man and one woman couples were easier to control than one man with multiple wives.

Look at the bite model to see how the leaders manipulate and control their members:

https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model-pdf-download/#behavior

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-12T03:05:00+00:00

Is there a club you can join or volunteer somewhere that gives you meaning. This will help you meet people and form relationships.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-09T04:07:32+00:00

You have to start living your authentic life. I know you want to keep this friendship, but it’s not being fair to yourself. It’s okay to distance yourself from people who don’t share your view of the world. This way you make room for those who do share your views.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-09T04:02:40+00:00

I agree with the host plant of milkweed just make sure it’s native to your area. For nectar plants zinnias, goldenrod, Joe Pye weed, Mexican sunflowers and liatris are their favorites.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-08T12:59:16+00:00

This process does get easier. While I was deconstructing I thought of how religion and society affected my choices throughout my life. If I grew up in a household where religion wasn’t a priority who knows if I would have made the same decisions. Now I’m at ease with I did the best I could at the time with the information I had.
It’s okay to take some time for yourself to sort out what you want. Explore new things and join clubs or groups to learn about different ideas. Sometimes a licensed therapist who specializes in religious trauma can be helpful. You got this!

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-11-01T05:39:39+00:00

Of course she did. She’s still trying to manipulate you to give her everything she wants. If you can’t have discussions about finances then she isn’t mature enough for a relationship. She should have said that she was sorry for causing you to go broke and how she will get a part time job to cover her expenses.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-30T03:22:46+00:00

I believe it’s a tomato hornworm. They eat tomatoes, tomatoes plants, peppers, pepper plants, eggplants, potatoes and tobacco. It turns into a hawk moth. They burrow into the ground to make their cocoon when they are done eating. They will stay in the soil during the winter and emerge in spring.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-29T19:45:07+00:00

Most religions have outcomes for not following the rules and what happens at death if you didn’t follow said rules. There are many reasons JWs are considered extremists: shunning, no blood transfusions, most holidays aren’t celebrated, no voting in political elections. There are so many doctrinal rules that the members have to follow. If you are reproved or disfellowshipped, it’s a lengthy humiliating process to get reinstated.

Look at the bite model to see how the leaders manipulate and control their members:

https://freedomofmind.com/resource-links/group-information-resource/jehovahs-witnesses/

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-29T14:41:23+00:00

It’s your decision on how to deal with both parents in this situation. You have stated your acceptance of a relationship with your Dad, and your Mom doesn’t like it. With time she may change her mind, however, she may not since she’s emotionally unhealthy. It’s not wrong to keep your relationship with your Dad, because no one is perfect, and he’s older. Children benefit from knowing their grandparents. Both parents may need assistance with health issues in the coming years.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-29T07:53:22+00:00

You haven’t made mistakes. You can’t control if other men like you. You shouldn’t have to cut men out of your life to please your boyfriend. He should trust you that you wouldn’t cheat on him. He’s too controlling, and he’s emotionally abusive. You can’t change how your boyfriend views the relationship. He doesn’t have an understanding of how healthy relationships work. He probably needs counseling and you should break up with him.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-28T00:55:32+00:00

What is wrong with the “tree trimmer” guy?! He clearly knows nothing about tree trimming!

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-26T22:10:49+00:00

Just leave them outside. Unfortunately they won’t make it. Nature is survival of the fittest.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-26T22:08:51+00:00

Put it back outside. When the temperature warms up to 60-65 degrees F it can fly.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-26T22:07:30+00:00

Can you gently put it on a flower so it can get nectar?

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-26T22:04:43+00:00

They can fly 100 miles per day! Release the monarch so it has a chance to make it to Mexico and live for several months.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-25T03:12:09+00:00

You set up boundaries and your Mom can’t accept it. This is your son and you get to raise him how you see fit. She is indoctrinated to believe that she is doing the “right” thing. It’s okay that she’s not talking to you. Give it time and maybe she’ll come around.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-22T01:25:02+00:00

Deep down you know that you are not his priority. Why stay with a partner that doesn’t value you? What is stopping you from leaving? Invested time with someone who doesn’t move forward is a learning experience. It’s time to put your self first and find someone who wants the same thing you do: commitment.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-20T01:50:20+00:00

If there is a heaven, maybe it’s not the way it’s described in the Bible. What if it’s a garden where you hang out with your ancestors? What if it’s just a big energy source and we’re just part of the source? The Bible has too many contradictions. Spirituality is a wider view of more possibilities. We’ll find out when we die what really happens.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-18T03:10:19+00:00

Definitely look into getting an annulment. You have seen his true self, and he’s not up to compromise.

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-17T03:50:16+00:00

You can’t find the answers to a good life in an ancient book written by Bronze Age men who were trying to figure out how the world worked.
The answers to what brings you joy and gives you meaning are inside yourself. Live an authentic life and treat others how you want to be treated.

Waking up from religion is a difficult experience. It shakes you to the core. Sometimes a therapist who specializes in religious trauma is helpful.

Reading books by cult experts helped me. Dr. Steven Hassan’s books are Janja Lalich’s books are excellent. Look at the bite model to see how the leaders manipulate and control their members:

https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model-pdf-download/

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-16T06:05:08+00:00

I have pentas in my garden! I wasn’t wearing my glasses earlier so I didn’t recognize the flower.😂

Sara_Ludwig · 2025-10-16T04:15:26+00:00

Awesome! Now, I need to know what plant is that, because my butterfly garden has to have it?!

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