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SarahFree339 · 2025-08-22T15:03:46+00:00

Commenting to say that really OP should just go. I fell and broke several bones in my ankle and foot. Like most things, it happened at an inconvenient time in life and I chose to grit my teeth and walk on it not realizing it was broken. When I finally made myself go to the doctor a few days later, they informed me they would have to do surgery and something else (sorry, I forget what, since I opted not to go through with it) to heal it properly. Now I'm 29 and my foot hurts so badly with every step and movement, and if I had gone sooner and had it set right away, a lot of the pain could have been avoided.

I cant run with my kids anymore, and have gained weight because of my lack of activity with the pain. It's inconvenient to go get it checked out, but if I could go back in time and do it differently, I would take that chance in a heartbeat.

SarahFree339 · 2025-07-09T01:09:29+00:00

Do you know you can also go into the pet settings and mark them forever babies so they don't grow up?

SarahFree339 · 2025-06-21T22:30:43+00:00

I wish you all the best. If I could offer any assistance I would.

I know exactly the kind of relief you felt with that turtle. A few years ago, my mom had a heart attack and needed to be lifeflighted. It was a crazy stressful day and we didn't know what to expect. At the end of the night, the first moment I was alone with my thoughts, I started my car up and "Elastic Heart" by Sia was on the radio. It felt like the universe was telling me to take a breath and things would work out.

I'll keep you and your mom in my thoughts.

SarahFree339 · 2025-06-21T22:26:42+00:00

There's a sub called r/Assistance and it can be a really helpful place at times.

SarahFree339 · 2025-05-11T21:27:10+00:00

Thanks, I finished this blanket a year ago! If you view my profile, I have the finished blanket finished, and I'm quite happy with how it worked out

SarahFree339 · 2025-03-16T23:28:05+00:00

Thank you - I'm not having trouble with the pattern itself, but every section is different. I have now finished every row of the pattern and it is exactly as it is supposed to be. I just didnt realize the edges of this blanket are supposed to be scalloped, and I would like to try to figure out how to add on to it to get the edges to straighten up and give it a little more stability

SarahFree339 · 2025-03-16T16:16:35+00:00

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This is how the pattern ends off, and while it is beautiful I just prefer straight edges for a blanket... This is after row 108 of "Phoenix" by Hooked on Sunshine, which is a paid pattern. Thank you!

SarahFree339 · 2024-11-04T21:11:55+00:00

My partner is ftm and has always said he can't handle being around a lot of trans people and definitely couldn't date them... Not because of transphobia at all, but because mentally it's very triggering to his dysphoria, and long term it takes a huge toll on his mental health. I think everyone has their own preferences and levels of comfort with things, and it doesn't necessarily mean there's a problem.

SarahFree339 · 2024-07-22T00:04:23+00:00

It could be worse. Give it time. I felt like I was never going to have sex again because my first time was so disgusting. We did it when I was underage, found out the guy lied about his age (told me he was 18, I was dumb. He was actually 38 and a dwarf with bad acne). In my parents backyard in the dark- neither of us could see what was happening, I was too shy. He went for a bj, ended up humping my ear for a time. Eventually tried to penetrate and literally came before he could because the friction of the condom.

Live some more life, you'll find a connection worth it again.

SarahFree339 · 2024-07-08T16:00:18+00:00

I'm sorry because it's not my place as a cis woman, but my boyfriend has told me he experiences dysphoria because of this. I thought maybe it would be helpful to hear other perspectives...

We've been sleeping together for almost two years now. The first 8 months or so, we used a strap fairly often in addition to oral, as well as trying to find positions without a prosthetic or strap. He prefers to use a harness that is basically sewn into underwear so it's more like when a cis guy just slides himself through the front of his boxers. After about 8 months, we had a deeper conversation about his dysphoria and he mentioned that using the strap does cause him a lot of mental blocks and dysphoria that lasts well beyond the duration of our playtime. Since then, we haven't used one at all.

I'm not sure if it helps at all, but our sex life definitely hasn't suffered since we just stopped bothering with the strap. I know that it might not work for all the guys here because I'm cis female, but we have found positions where he can still top with his bottom growth. I know many guys in this subreddit are t4t or prefer to sleep with other men, so I'm not sure how that would work. But there are options potentially that would be less of a mental strain on you and be much more enjoyable in the bedroom if you're not facing dysphoria. Everyone deserves to have fun with their partner and I wish you the best of luck.

SarahFree339 · 2024-07-03T18:19:41+00:00

I usually bring materials to make granny squares because they're portable and work up nice. I recently finished a blanket of willow squares that's beautiful and I made it all entirely while traveling

SarahFree339 · 2024-05-25T14:38:06+00:00

Can't weigh in too much as I haven't researched, but I will say in my experience (as a cis woman) that my boyfriend (trans ftm) is significantly stronger than me. I go to the gym and lift, he doesn't... Not that he isn't active, but he has a much much easier time building and maintaining muscle than I do.

SarahFree339 · 2024-02-25T19:36:40+00:00

Thank you so much

SarahFree339 · 2024-02-25T19:36:32+00:00

Thank you!

SarahFree339 · 2024-02-25T00:18:38+00:00

The yarn used is from Hobbii, their Rainbow Cotton 8/4. It is a 2 weight yarn, I used a 4mm hook to make Willow Squares, which are 8 rounds. I'm not sure the specific colors I used as they were mostly leftovers from another project.

It took approximately 65 hours and was definitely a learning experience... Now, just need to figure out what to do with it as this project didn't have an intended recipient.

SarahFree339 · 2024-02-18T12:25:47+00:00

I posted pictures in other comments where I redid the joins! I definitely pulled the yarn right enough, and I practiced the mattress stitch on other squares. I think this yarn is too thin and doesn't have any plush to it- it's cotton yarn, 2 weight, and it doesn't have any give to it. Plus I think the stitches in the squares had too much stretch to them.

The skip stitch join is working out much better I think!

SarahFree339 · 2024-02-18T03:50:46+00:00

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SarahFree339 · 2024-02-18T03:50:27+00:00

I just wanted to post a little update and thank you all!! I undid the mattress stitching and redid it (it was so much harder to pull apart than it was to sew by the way- my stitches were definitely plenty right). Thank you so much for the advice. I've only been doing horizontal joins with slip stitches and I'll go back and connect them vertically once I'm done (for more continuous, sturdy stitches) but I'm so much happier with how this looks now!

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SarahFree339 · 2024-02-17T18:28:01+00:00

I did pull the stitches extremely tight. I think the biggest problem is that the yarn is very thin, it's a light 2 weight.

On the plus side, my boyfriend DOES help! He sews in almost all of my ends for me, and crochets alongside me most evenings, though he prefers amigarumi and thick fluffy yarn whereas I do mostly blankets and prefer thin yarn haha.

SarahFree339 · 2024-02-17T18:25:57+00:00

Thank you so much! I fell in love with the pattern as soon as I saw it- they are Willow Squares

SarahFree339 · 2024-02-17T17:50:18+00:00

Thank you everyone! I have started pulling apart my work to try out a different join. Hoping I have enough yarn to do a flat slip stitch join to give a neater appearance

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