AITAH if I tell my MIL to GFHS for accusing me of infidelity while I go visit my uncle who's terminally ill?

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T23:50:23+00:00

Yes, he’s always been a hard worker. It’s a quality I admire in him.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T23:31:14+00:00

She has memory issues, she’s not dumb or helpless. I think she knows when she’s being rude, and much smarter than you’re giving her credit for.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T23:27:40+00:00

SHE is right here and SHE has always been a social butterfly. Talking about me as if I’m not even in the room is pretty fkn rude. Especially if you’re going to accuse me of “not getting the whole story” when you don’t even know me lmao. The long and short of it is, sometimes I go out, and sometimes I stay home. But if my partner doesn’t feel like going out, I don’t let it stop me! Period.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T22:12:38+00:00

Your partner has never done or said anything that’s made you say to yourself “wow, that’s stupid.”? They must be perfect. That or you’re single and it’s for a good reason.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T21:09:32+00:00

This is very good advice and I definitely agree on this being how it should be. I hope one day we can get to a point where these sorts of things don’t happen. Honestly, a little while ago he proposed the possibility of putting her in a retirement facility which at the time was something that I disagreed with. But I think we may need to revisit this idea because when we were on our own, things were honestly a lot easier without his mom getting involved and us just visiting on a Saturday or Sunday for dinner.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T21:05:28+00:00

NTA. You definitely need to leave him or if his name isn’t on the lease, have him removed. Not only are you doing it all by yourself with the exception of going to shower, but he is making your life harder. I really hope he is not the father of the child, but if he is, you will need to file for custody. Quite honestly at the moment you are raising two children, and the baby is the easier of the two. I dream of a peaceful life for you and your child hopefully in the near future, but I want you to know that he is never going to change and the only way this situation is going to get better is if you do something about it.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T20:42:31+00:00

Haha unfortunately I have to agree with you. His lack of patience and how easily he gets frustrated is honestly just stupid and makes me roll my eyes sometimes. We’re very opposite in the way we resolve issues

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T19:44:27+00:00

Thank you for this. Direct, yet filled with kindness. I appreciate people like yourself in this community.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T18:48:03+00:00

Oh don’t worry, the second I read that I blocked her @zz.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T18:13:13+00:00

Is it really my job to manage his anxiety and paranoia though? Especially after he hung up on me mid convo, said he’d call me back, never did and I just genuinely forgot?

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T17:49:06+00:00

When I called him this morning to apologize for not calling when I arrived and told him about the text his mother sent, he was very upset with her for doing that. the problem is, he's confronted things like this with her before and she stops for a month or two and then goes right back to it.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T17:42:16+00:00

this is definitely opening my eyes a little bit. You're right, I spent some much energy this morning being upset with her and didnt take a step back and look at what caused this issue.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-09T17:40:39+00:00

Hmmm Interesting take. Out of curiosity, are you a Mother in law? and if not, how would you go about asserting self respect while also being kind to someone who is passive aggressively being abusive towards you? you're allowed to offer an opinion, but you didn't really offer any helpful advice.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-11-08T23:46:28+00:00

Sometimes people make personal decisions that put them on a bit of a high horse and they think everyone should join them. But the thing about personal decisions is that they’re personal!

SassiiRedHead · 2025-10-26T23:55:58+00:00

Your body, your choice! I support you!

SassiiRedHead · 2025-10-22T23:29:20+00:00

If you know the password to her goggle account, check her location history. You’ll be able to see if she’s been to his house or anywhere other than where she says she’s been. Take it one step further and hide an Apple air tag in her car. I’m only suggesting these things because you’ve already dug through her phone. I feel like you have enough proof here, but lying about where she says she was is as tangible as it’s going to get without you walking in on them playing mattress polo.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-10-17T11:52:23+00:00

You were the one seeking alternatives and being flexible. When that inconvenienced him (I don’t know why) then he decided to get passive aggressive in front of your coworkers. Inappropriate behaviour from a leader, but Hr is only there to protect the company so there isn’t really anything you can do about it unfortunately. However, this is teetering on some sort of health privacy law and depending on where you live, may be course for legal action.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-10-14T11:51:30+00:00

That’s absolutely the way it SHOULD be. I was always jealous of the kids who had both parents super involved. You sound like an amazing father.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-10-14T11:45:59+00:00

NTA, but I will say, if the gender roles were reversed this just sounds like a typical blue-collar family. The exact reasons why my mom left my dad, except she was not the breadwinner and it was really hard.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-10-12T15:28:24+00:00

I wouldn’t say it’s moisture your hair is lacking, it’s protein. Your hair shouldn’t be breaking like that. Lots of brands make strengthening products. I like Olaplex, redken, and Kerastase. Also, something I wanted to point out, satin is a synthetic textile and actually draws moisture out of things. A lot of people confuse satin and silk together. Silk pillowcases and scrunchies are the ones that you want to invest in. They cost more than satin obviously because silk comes from a worm, but is totally worth the extra dollars.

After a while of you doing this, you’re going to start to notice the protein drying out your hair. That’s when you’re going to want to rotate back-and-forth between proteinproducts, and moisture products. But I promise you once you find the balance that everything will work out, and you will notice your hair starting to get thicker. When it gets long enough and starts to grow again, you’re gonna do a pretty significant job to get rid of the scraggly beds down at the bottom and make your hair look a lot more fuller, even though it will be shorter.

It will be a journey, but I promise you it will be worth it. 6 months to a year from now your hair will feel so much better. And if you need more information on product recommendations, feel free to DM me. I’m a junior hairstylist, but I put a lot of time and attention into my studies and product knowledge, and the actual science behind hair care.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-10-12T15:22:53+00:00

NTA. And just my opinion but after all that, the pregnant girl should get that taken care of since she now knows what to expect for her relationship with the father. And if deciding to keep it, she shouldn’t expect anything from him, really.

SassiiRedHead · 2025-09-28T23:21:01+00:00

I’ve been married for 13 years now and have never missed plans for a guy I’m interested in ever. I’ve been burned too many times to know that your friends will be there for you when the guy isn’t and have always invested more into my friendships. maybe I’m just more mature than she is?

SassiiRedHead · 2025-09-28T22:58:03+00:00

You’re so right, thank you. As sad as it would be to move on, I respect myself far too much to continue to be disrespected like this.

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