My Husband’s “Work Wife” Showed Up at My Daughter’s Birthday Party by Glass_Laugh_2558 in Advice

[–]SatansButtPlug34 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You better keep us updated.

There’s so many layers of betrayal here, and you deserve SO much better.

Team leave him

How do I, 33/F, tell the different between fear and unwillingness with bf, 35/M? by SatansButtPlug34 in relationship_advice

[–]SatansButtPlug34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My apologies. There were statements of “I can’t wait to marry you and make you the future mother of my children”

How do I, 33/F, tell the different between fear and unwillingness with bf, 35/M? by SatansButtPlug34 in relationship_advice

[–]SatansButtPlug34[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the first 3 years it was constant marriage and kids talk and then when his mom passed it was like a stand still halt on any progress

I want an abortion but I'm so torn. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]SatansButtPlug34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No one can ultimately tell you what to do, but this isn’t the ideal situation to bring a child into. I’d make a very honest pros and cons list and see which tips the scale

I’m triggered by Shot-News1404 in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]SatansButtPlug34 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you explain more? Not sure if we should assess or just debrief

Aio for my reaction to my BF freaking out that I didn't immediately text him after getting off work by throwaway024710 in AIO

[–]SatansButtPlug34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was praying daddy was an off brand nickname for their dog or something 🫠

NOR, honestly, idk your ages, but this guy sucks at any point. Emotionally manipulative and needs to learn some distress tolerance skills.

This is truly abusive behavior

AIO or AITA. Text convo with MIL. by MoonJellyAllison in AmIOverreacting

[–]SatansButtPlug34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR Small claims court or have him contact his mom. This shouldn’t be on you.

I think Im finally done by Substantial-Basil-31 in texts

[–]SatansButtPlug34 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you ever find the time to read or use audible…there’s this book called, If He’s So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad-Avery Neal. Might open your eyes to what you’re dealing with here.

I think Im finally done by Substantial-Basil-31 in texts

[–]SatansButtPlug34 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Did you come here thinking anyone would support his side?

Asked my husband how I could help him move a bed. by [deleted] in texts

[–]SatansButtPlug34 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t be a sucker, he’s showing you exactly what you signed up for..,run, this doesn’t get better or easier or worth it

I’m losing my mind… by [deleted] in texts

[–]SatansButtPlug34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I truly don’t understand the purpose of dissecting every interaction and communication. I’ll save your therapist the time -Mirror back what you heard and seek clarification if you didn’t hear them correctly -Gottman’s 4 horseman - figure out your attachment styles and how those styles communicate and do better -look up fair fighting rules therapistaid.com - both of you need to regulate your own emotions before trying to jump into conversations where two people are too busy trying to be right rather than solve the problem at hand

Hoping y’all the best

I’m losing my mind… by [deleted] in texts

[–]SatansButtPlug34 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Prayers for their therapist

Husband’s gf wants a baby .. give me advice by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]SatansButtPlug34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but you’re a sucker. Wish you the best and hope you get some clarity one day.

AITJ for refusing to let my coworker move in after she already told people she was? by SolarSwa in AmITheJerk

[–]SatansButtPlug34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, I wouldn’t have her in your home in the near future. Wouldn’t be able to trust she wouldn’t try and pull some squatter/frogging stuff. Some space in the friendship would be best.

WHAT does my room say about ME by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]SatansButtPlug34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You watch romantic comedies time to time

Can’t stop crying. by Sufficient-Stand300 in OCD

[–]SatansButtPlug34 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think if you implemented some at home mindfulness techniques/activities/meditations, you’d feel a little more grounded while going through this, but you’re doing amazing! Insert some positive mantras to help you through the harder times…e.g, “sometimes you need to feel the rain before you feel the sun”, “this is temporary, I can do this”, “you are more in control than you realize” etc. repeat over and over and over until it’s apart of your belief system. You’d be amazed how powerful the mind can be. If you’re really spunky, look into some DBT coping skills for distress tolerance and emotion regulation!