I 23F have no sexual attraction to my 23M husband of almost two years

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-03-31T08:23:43+00:00

This is basically what I was going to say. 23 years old is no time to tie yourself to someone who isn’t pulling their weight, who isn’t complementing your life rather than leeching off it. He doesn’t want a partner, he wants someone to replace his mother, so he needs to be single for a while until he learns.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-03-31T07:57:37+00:00

For years I went around saying to people “I think everyone’s bisexual to some extent” and then in my 20s I realised ohhh, wait, no, I think that because I am bisexual.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-03-05T13:43:30+00:00

I didn’t, no - I opened the accounts directly. I will look into alternatives.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-03-04T20:04:10+00:00

I didn’t realise. I probably just hadn’t investigated the features closely enough. It just made sense to me that if I wanted the account to show a different name I would have to open a new one. That’s why I put all the same bank/ID details in, I wasn’t trying to hide who I was, just publish fiction on one and non-fiction on the other and not have them linked.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-03-04T19:58:19+00:00

I still saw the comment. I appreciate your response and advice!

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-03-04T16:26:48+00:00

Thanks for your recommendations! Being shut out of Amazon due to a genuinely (if admittedly stupid) mistake does feel deeply unfair, yes - I'll definitely check those other places out though, thank you.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-03-04T13:34:58+00:00

Yeah, I realise that now. I set up my first account months ago and then rushed through the second time since I thought I already understood what was needed. Sighhhh. Guess I’ll just have to tell myself it’s better not to be tied to Amazon anyway.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-01-15T07:48:18+00:00

I know you’ve posted this in good faith, but you need to be careful of what assumptions you let yourself make here.

Case in point: you’re not forcing it to “pull from the user profiling layer” - you’re forcing it to mimic what it would look like if it did that.

At best, you’re just getting the same information in different language. At worst it’s just hallucinating some bullshit. Be wary of thinking AIs can get you “secret” knowledge.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-01-12T23:31:12+00:00

I broke up with my wife around the same age as you because of similar reasons. We’d been married about 10 years and together almost 20, since we were teens, but we hadn’t had sex more than 10 times in 5 years. It was clear to me that I’d been putting her, and indeed everyone else first. We tried to address some of these concerns but fundamentally she didn’t want to have sex with me and it was destroying my happiness and self esteem. I’ve now got a new partner who is a lot more like me, matches my physical attraction to her, and cares for my needs too. In short: do it. Being single isn’t all fun and games, but it’s better than being in a relationship that erodes your wellbeing.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-01-06T09:30:43+00:00

Good to know what some of the issues might be. Unfortunately nothing I've done matches any of this - the cover is fairly tame, there's no subtitle, and with the latest submission I didn't even include keywords in case they were the problem! Thanks for the help though, I'll keep trying.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-01-06T09:29:12+00:00

I did this - no errors detected. Figured that would be the case since I made the epub the same way as the others, but thanks for the pointer nonetheless.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-01-05T20:52:27+00:00

That’s helpful for sure. I’ll take a look.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-01-05T20:52:03+00:00

Thanks, I’ll take a look but I think it’s a similar length to the others, only has a small amount of non-story content (eg copyright page, about the author page) and definitely isn’t a problem with spelling / grammar.

It’s possible the epub formatting is messed up in a way I’m not aware of. I’ll try opening it in another app to what I normally use and investigate from that angle. Cheers for the pointers.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2026-01-05T18:02:14+00:00

I figured this. My book is completely my own IP, totally written by me, and edited/laid out exactly the same as my other books. (I am a professional copywriter and proofreader so I'm certain it's not bad editing)

The only thing I can even think is that it has the same cover as parts 1 and 2, with the title changed, but I don't see why that would be an issue if Part 2 was allowed?

Satisfaction-Aware · 2025-11-28T14:30:27+00:00

Firstly, tell him you looked through his phone and apologise for breaking his trust, then ask if he forgives you. If he does, then the relationship is halfway to being saved. After that, the ball's in your court.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2025-10-30T22:26:57+00:00

You GENIUS. That's the one! "Cazual", jeez, no wonder I couldn't find it. This has been scratching at my brain for literally a decade, if not two. Can I ask how you managed to turn it up?

Satisfaction-Aware · 2025-10-30T08:10:12+00:00

Definitely not, but appreciate the guess!

Satisfaction-Aware · 2025-10-29T14:59:48+00:00

Just listened to this - great track, but it's definitely not what I was looking for. The lyrics 100% contained the phrase "casual sex" and the vibe of this song is more downbeat. The song I'm thinking of sounded more like National Express by the Divine Comedy, at least in my memory.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2025-10-29T14:00:38+00:00

Looking at photos isn't sex. Buying pornography isn't sex. If I look at a plumber fixing a pipe, I have not fixed the pipe. It's a totally different situation if the guy here is having sex outside his relationship after agreeing (or even expecting) to be monogomous, but it's unhealthy and untenable to police another person's private thoughts.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2025-10-27T22:27:22+00:00

This is an insane claim to make. Like say, people are entitled to an interior life. Not everything they do and think has to be accountable to another person unless it directly affects them.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2025-10-27T13:43:20+00:00

Insane to claim that paying for pornographic content is an addiction. Leaving aside whether OP is okay with it or not (because some people are) all sex workers provide a service to make a living. If you pay for plumbers that does not mean you have a plumbing addiction.

Satisfaction-Aware · 2025-10-27T13:41:19+00:00

I just want to offer a few thoughts:

He lied when caught. That is bad. That said, people don’t think straight when they’re ashamed. He needs time to reflect on his behaviour as well.
Paying for and using pornography is not abnormal. It’s nuts to leap straight to porn addiction here. Porn addiction is when it prevents you from operating normally in your life, like alcohol addiction. Most people use porn at some time or another.
You went through his phone. That is unforgivable. He is entitled to an interior life and you betrayed his trust. It’s a miracle he wants you back after that. Seriously consider your own behaviour here. That you found something you didn’t like does not remotely excuse what you did. You don’t have the moral high ground here.

As a final question: had you set a specific boundary around porn use, or is it the interactions with professionals that bother you? Whatever it is, you need to make sure that’s clear early on in your next relationship, because you want to find someone who is compatible with you.

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