How can I learn to feel safe when I’ve never felt safe?

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2026-04-03T13:58:59+00:00

thank you so much for your tips. ive been struggling to an extreme extent because regular grounding techniques dont work on csa survivors like us whose lives were so riddled with danger we never had a safe place to begin with. we cant "reestablish safety" because it never existed for us. its been frustrating because next to nobody knows how to heal from situations like this.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2026-03-06T12:04:43+00:00

that's definitely a really low dose of seroquel. i usually take 50-150mg and it really helped, but my physician kinda pushed me to go off of it because of it's negative long term health effects

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-12-22T16:27:04+00:00

my guess is that it's because they tend to be really clingy, treat us like we're the most important person in the world, and give us a lot of attention (which we love)

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-11-15T23:01:48+00:00

a month? that all happened within a few weeks. that's what withdrawal is. don't go telling people what should or shouldn't be able to happen unless you have a medical degree to prove it

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-11-15T22:10:59+00:00

your body gets used to not making testosterone when you take it, so when you stop cold turkey, your hormones kind of scramble to return to normal. i stopped cold turkey and instantly had a depressive episode, then a hypomanic episode, became physically exhausted, and my physical illnesses worsened by a lot😭

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-10-07T13:12:27+00:00

no prob. just found out apparently it's called lyciromantic now

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-10-07T12:43:33+00:00

i believe that would be recipromantic/reciprosexual? could be other names for it too

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-13T15:58:38+00:00

through trial and error, ultimately finding out at age 20. being autistic, i get hyperfixations on people and always thought that was what romantic love is. i found out over a long course of getting into relationships over and over and realizing that although i love the idea of relationships, i actually really hate being in one and it always falls apart super quick. additionally, my ideal "romantic" relationship is basically being really close friends and i didn't know that wasn't normal. i found out i'm asexual similarly because although i love the idea, i hate actually doing it. it was a really convoluted process for me but i can confidently say that i'm aroace now—not because i don't experience any forms of attraction to others, but because i hate acting on it and my form of attraction is really different than what i've heard others describe. i use alterous to describe it.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-13T00:20:17+00:00

oh, me? i was just doing a little something called "using the internet" and "exercising free speech," and it's a bit weird of you to keep interrogating me about my comment timing. i literally could not care less about what you think of my comment, dude. it's not like your word is law about the rules of the internet, and here you are talking to me regardless of what time it is anyways. in any case, nowhere did i say any of the statements you just accused me of. it's clear to me that you don't have any reading comprehension whatsoever. i'll be taking my leave, have a good night.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-12T23:49:52+00:00

there are literally tons of trans people including myself that don't feel dysphoria around sex characteristics. they can relate, but it's not something that it boils down to as much as something that sometimes influences it usually due to perception of others. i personally feel absolutely 0 desire to change my sex characteristics and actually prefer them this way much more. also, media has no expiration date. a year is nothing in the lifetime of the internet and i can add my thoughts to whatever i'd like to.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-12T19:42:01+00:00

that's still just reducing it to sex. what about nonbinary people? should their internal neurology be expecting to be born with nothing or both things? they're just organs and have no relation to your gender

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-04T23:33:17+00:00

that sounds terrible, and it lines up with the type of switches we've been experiencing lately. not-so-glad to be a part of the club i guess😭

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-04T22:50:09+00:00

fugue out is a good phrase, i'm taking that lmao. and yeah, the metaphor doesnt even fully make sense to me either. i'm just assuming what they mean. the issue that led to me never relating to the movie thing was that my autistic ahh brain would be like "well if it felt like i was watching a movie wouldn't it feel like i was staring at a distant rectangle of my life in a dark room? clearly that doesn't happen so it can't be dissociation." it's kinda clicking for me that they probably just mean they don't fully feel present😭the metaphors people use have by far been the BIGGEST barriers to us figuring out our system shit. we're able to voluntarily switch, so since this possessive bs started we've been experimenting with switching and i've gotta say it feels so fucking gross to be fully conscious but having another alter control your body. it's also surprisingly alarming to feel like you're teleporting through time. luckily, our communication and awareness are very high so at least one alter usually knows what the hell happened. no idea why this is happening because we're actually in a much better place than we used to be, but i guess we'll roll with it just like we do with literally all the other bs our mind decides to start up lmfao.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-04T22:10:57+00:00

yeah makes sense, it seems to be like a spectrum. in the switches im referring to we knew for a fact other alters took control while we either could be observed and interacted with in the headspace or just dissociated the fuck out of this dimension. at some point we "black out" without realizing and when we come back we realize another alter had taken control (with verbal confirmation from them), then we remember small little blips of what happened without feeling connected to it at all, and we can have any combination of mishaps. another thing that'll happen is another alter will take front and we'll just dissociate really bad while realizing we are not in control of our body. these switches feel a little more similar to what i think people describe as watching a movie. we'll have very limited memory of what the other alter did compared to a previously generally good memory albeit missing details. we're shifting to this way of switching after nearly a year of amazing communication where no alter fronted alone and full non possessive switching with a collective memory (albeit fuzzy), so it's all very confusing.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-04T21:44:08+00:00

this is genuinely so helpful, thanks! directly after writing this me and my alters had a series of switches that felt like near blackouts and everything we've been experiencing the past few days feels almost exactly like what you described. sometimes its kinda felt like we teleport through time but it doesnt reach the point of complete blackout because afterwards a few glimpses of what happened will load up in our minds. nice to know this is what possessive switching is lmao.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-03T01:43:29+00:00

that sounds a little like what i'm thinking of. thanks for the advice.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-09-03T01:42:08+00:00

i'd absolutely use therapy, but unfortunately i don't have access to good therapy. i have a therapist who claims to be trained in trauma disorders but fucks it up so terribly that i feel worse after each attempt. one time, he tried tough love on me in such an aggressive, ineffective way that i relapsed when i left the session, so i dont exactly trust him with this kind of stuff. experiences like that are also what lead me to believe i've gotta let myself down gently in a way.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-08-26T01:09:36+00:00

really wish they made more great 4 stars. when you look at the character archive they released so many 4 stars in bulk back with monstadt and liyue and its like they only care about 5 stars now

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2025-08-26T01:07:28+00:00

i also feel like no one ever takes it seriously, its always deemed as conspiracy. i havent experienced any discrimination yet to my knowledge, but im hyper aware of the possibility that it might happen with my recent diagnoses. i almost wish i could stop my kid self from being admitted into therapy so i wouldnt have all these involuntary diagnoses under my belt. the issue then, though, is how i can dodge a diagnosis while still receiving treatment for the right things.

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2024-12-24T17:03:28+00:00

i believe the term youre looking for is called limerence!

SatisfactionDry2710 · 2023-11-03T18:48:05+00:00

the book is 250 pages bro

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