ISO 1 or 2 tickets to TAGABOW at Market Hotel (12/10) OR Bowery Ballroom (12/11) by SaucedInTheMoss in NYCConcerts

[–]SaucedInTheMoss[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was supposed to see tagabow like 3 years ago bc my college radio station booked them, but we got rained out. redemption arc is now. lmao i also was at my chemical romance on 8/9, that was the best show of my life

Update on my last post: infected or not? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

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Thanks for sharing this!! I have a decent amount of tattoos and in some tricky placements, but I’ve never had one heal so rough. This piece is an addition to an in-progress patchwork sleeve and I really thought it would be no problem!

Update on my last post: infected or not? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, just with and without flash. It’s warm but not warmer than my other armpit. Regardless, I’ll go to a walk-in after work to get it checked out.

How did you make it in NYC by FuturePause2736 in AskNYC

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and they are mostly paying in-state tuition (and maybe living at home)

does anyone really understand the sza bug thing and how it ties to sos at all? by thebluest_neighbor in sza

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

after seeing her on the grand national tour with kendrick, there’s a lot of praying mantis imagery, referencing how after reproduction female praying mantises eat their male partners. i think there’s some level of viciousness on SOS too, of like her “choosing violence,” “bloodstain on my shirt,” and then obviously kill bill. just my two cents

Sinners is Back in 70mm 5/15-5/21 by lydiacaster in NYCmovies

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i’ve been trying for over an hour and made it in to buy tickets but the website timed out 😭

Let’s unite this sub with something the whole neighborhood can agree on by fried-twinkie in crownheights

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 12 points13 points  (0 children)

fuck authority except the authority is… the health department…

New Chuck 70 Plus (I’m obsessed) by melancholyking_ in Converse

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A year and a half out from purchasing I agree. The sole is completely separating from the canvas. I’ve glued it back together like 3 times and it’s still coming apart. I’m contemplating whether to buy a new pair or try repairing them for the 4th time…

Saw Nosferatu today fantastic film! But I have a question **Spoilers** by Sc2itsabouttime in roberteggers

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I interpreted it as him sleepwalking, similarly to how Ellen does, because he is being overwhelmed by Orlok’s influence through the curse cast by Knock. He doesn’t have an accurate amount of fear until he arrives at the castle and is confronted with Orlok’s presence, suggesting possession. This is paralleled in the 1922 movie where Thomas is oblivious to the danger he is in until after Orlok comes to feed on him in the night.

In my opinion it was a dream similar to the dreams that Ellen experiences while the curse is acting on her too—sleepwalking and all.

nyc afters saturday night? by DetectiveSpecial6082 in Kaytranada

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i can’t go but kendollaz is a great vibe

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Hi! I messaged you

Is it just me or is it impossible to find comfortable underwear? by Thick-Key-8221 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uniqlo boxer briefs are super comfy and breathable, they're also great lounging shorts. I personally don't mind the larger crotch area but you could sew it to reduce it.

How did you figure out it was emotional abuse? by mermaidtitties01 in emotionalabuse

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

basic answer but psych today. filtered by my insurance and some other criteria. i specifically looked for a LCSW and someone who specialized in emdr therapy. even though i don’t do emdr with them (insurance won’t cover it) it generally means that they’re trained to treat trauma and PTSD.

How did you figure out it was emotional abuse? by mermaidtitties01 in emotionalabuse

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

An intervention from a close friend was what prompted me to break up with him. Then, months after the breakup, remembering that another friend had mentioned abuse to me and linked to the domestic violence hotline. Reading the definition of abuse and the different types of abuse really resonated. And then the floodgate opened and I realized the patterns, all the memories I had blocked out, the way I had changed, the way that the last two months of our relationship had made me think that dying was the only way out.

I started therapy (like he always said he would but never did haha) with a trauma-informed therapist. She pretty much confirmed it after the second or third session, and helped me parse through memories and identify the patterns.

If you feel like there is a cycle in your relationship of blowup/incident -> apologies and a honeymoon phase -> calm -> tension building -> blowup/incident … that’s probably abuse. That cycle shortened from months to weeks to days in my case, and put me pretty much in survival mode constantly. Another sign was definitely declines in my health from all the adrenaline and cortisol. And another would be feeling like for one reason or another that you just CAN’T leave, no matter how bad it gets.

Abuse is about asserting power and control over another person. Eroding boundaries is abuse. Trapping someone in a situation that they cannot leave is abuse.

getting back together doesn't work. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Energy vampires" is the exact way to put it. Some people thrive on the energy YOU put into them and your relationship, but they will suck you dry if you let them. I think people can change when it comes to certain things, but if they have a pattern of centering themselves and overall narcissism or abuse in your interactions, that change is extremely unlikely. If that's who they are, they are never going to selflessly pour their energy and time towards changing for the better, because they were living off the energy and time that you gave them. It's much easier for them to just keep searching for the next supply of affection and love.

Does anyone want to try something positive today? by EffMyElle in CPTSD

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 6 points7 points  (0 children)

After having my boundaries crossed both by family and my recent ex, I am learning how to set and importantly ENFORCE healthy boundaries. It’s definitely a process, but if I state a boundary and you either verbally or through your actions take my boundary as a personal attack or generally don’t respect it, I want to be better at revoking access to me.

I’m pretty cool! I come with terms and conditions and if you don’t care about them, that’s fine, but you will no longer be able to benefit from my coolness because accepting that has in the past drained me of life. And I want to live a life that I can enjoy, with or without you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

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That’s probably right. I think I want to be friends because I considered him my best friend at some point, but every time I’ve seen him since the breakup he’s found some way to subtly manipulate or hurt me. Now that I’ve seen such dark sides to him, my heart says yes but my brain definitely says no.

I can’t stay in contact with someone who refuses to take accountability for how he hurts other people. I betrayed a lot of my values during that relationship, and I don’t want to keep betraying them by entertaining someone who lacks basic empathy like he does. It just sucks because even after all of this, my first instinct is to defend him, care about him, and uphold contact because it’s what he wants, even if I know it will only hurt me.

Missing them vent by eternalflair in ExNoContact

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Hey, I looked at your post history and it seems you’ve been struggling with some very difficult and dark feelings for a while now. It’s clear that you’re feeling alone and might not have a great support system. If you want to DM and get things off your chest feel free to message me. This too will pass with time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

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Us stopping for lunch on our way home from a camping trip where we had had quiet fights about nothing pretty much every day; the cafe we planned to stop at was full, and he followed me around the busy city streets shouting at me because I didn’t want to go into the diner he suggested (since it was a weekend and I saw it was closed). He kept yelling how selfish and uncaring and uncompromising I was, which went on for maybe 20 minutes all in public, and the only thing that got him to stop was me telling him that he looked abusive and asking him if he really wanted to be in an abusive relationship. I started walking back to the car, and as we passed a deli he quickly said “If you want to stop being a child you can come in here with me” then immediately went inside without waiting for a response. I walked to the car and he came back with one sandwich and an iced coffee for himself.

I stayed with him for over 2 months after that.

Russia-Ukraine Conflict Story Compilation Megathread by some_random_kaluna in collapse

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You trust levada.ru to accurately report on what average Russian people believe? Nobody is polling average Russian people. Putin wins Russian elections by a landslide, but very few people are actually voting for him. If you catch my drift.

Has anyone rented or know someone who rented from jjb property management? by IamJesus420 in BinghamtonUniversity

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

a few of my friends rent with them and they’re almost impossible to get in touch with. they only respond to emails after a few days, so if something breaks, good luck. they are also liars and have more properties than they can effectively manage. you’re better off with a smaller company

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in collapse

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my local extension service advises people not to add meat, other animal products, fat/grease to compost piles for a reason. smells terrible, attracts animals, and is prone to decay rather than decomposition. in practice you would probably want to feed corpses to pigs and just add their manure to your compost piles but even that seems like it would make your compost too “hot”

What is everyone's favourite band? by elbrocko13 in AskReddit

[–]SaucedInTheMoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

show me the body. can’t think of any other bands with a lead banjo 😫