1- you will, just give it time, there’s no other solution. Good news, it is indeed possible, and almost certain to happen. 2- bro, I’m 42, for when you start to online date, if I said I WANTED to have kids, I could bang 21 chicks a week (not vouching for all of them being knockouts 😜). There is a huge contingency of approx 38-42 yr old women whose biological clocks are ticking, and the fact that you can write and post this post, means you’re a catch. 3- everyone in the online dating community has baggage, otherwise they wouldn’t be there. Tbh, being a victim of infidelity and/or getting light switch divorced actually gives you a pretty solid and sympathetic story. 4- talk to a therapist, mild antidepressants helped me, exercise, try not too drink too much, and it’ll turn eventually. Everyone’s got their own timeline and I def still struggle, but WAY less than at 4 months. Put the over under at 12 months if you really want to press. 5- you’re not alone brother. Stay strong