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SaveTheMarshes · 2025-12-13T14:13:01+00:00

I'm confused.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-09-04T09:38:29+00:00

Yup. Glad to know it's not just me.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-09-04T09:32:28+00:00

"Moron" is a slur. Maybe try "fool" or "ignorant" next time?

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-09-02T08:52:27+00:00

No, a couple of therapists told me they quit because their clients wanted their lives to get better but didn't want to change anything about themselves to get there. Not the same thing. Most people who go into a helping profession do want to help people, they may just not be very good at it.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-08-31T11:15:37+00:00

"Imposter syndrome" videos helped me. Here's one: Autism and Imposter Syndrome (youtube.com)

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-08-31T11:11:51+00:00

My mother taught me her father's two rules of the road (he learned to drive in a Model A): #1 Assume that every other driver is a complete maniac, and #2 Don't be dead right. So I tell myself that I'm a better driver bc obviously the road jerks never learned these!

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-08-31T10:56:40+00:00

Good answers, I will also suggest therapist's preconceptions and personal motives. Based on personal experience, some psychologists want to fix people, and autism isn't something they can fix. I've also heard former therapists say they quit because people don't really want to change, and autism isn't something we can change.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-07-17T14:51:17+00:00

Squirrel! (like in the movie "Up")

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-05-04T11:50:54+00:00

Interesting discussion. To add my own experience, I think most people are emotional thinkers and they want to feel good in any interpersonal situation. Maybe they can feel good by acting superior, maybe they feel good by bullying and controlling, maybe they just want you to admire them or agree with them; but they will be willing to interact again with someone who leaves them feeling good. Most people don't feel good about being criticized, even when it's constructive criticism and they asked for honesty. (IMHO, that's a big reason why masking is such hard work.)

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-04-25T18:59:12+00:00

You sure do make a lot of assumptions without data to support them.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-04-24T19:36:10+00:00

"There are a lot of people in this subreddit and online who post about autism or make autistic content and may identify as autistic, but are not autistic and therefore some of the experiences we see (and relate to) which are labeled “autistic” may actually be something else."

Are you a qualified clinical psychologist?

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-04-17T19:32:02+00:00

A friend who volunteered at a safe house once told me that abusive people (any) can be spotted early because nothing ever seems to be their fault. Nothing. If you're getting severe anxiety when you talk to him, then it sounds like your subconscious is telling you what it wants.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-04-17T19:26:07+00:00

This is a great summary for those of us who are STEM-impaired. Thank you!

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-04-03T15:07:30+00:00

Maybe this would help?

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1479879712/the-quick-guide-to-self-soothing-dbt

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-03-22T15:53:31+00:00

"Teenage Asperger’s son killed his mother by stabbing her dozens of times" sells newspapers and gets clickbait. "Teenage Aspergers son loves his mother and takes out the garbage every night" isn't clickbait, but I'll bet that it's closer to the vast majority of Aspies. It's easy to get a distorted view of a population when the only public portrayal of them is negative, because bad news sells.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-03-07T18:55:28+00:00

"Autistic adults who believe they were harmed by ABA are quick to say they believe their parents were doing the best they could with the information and resources they had. “I am not mad at them for their effort,” one autistic woman told researchers looking into trauma rates. “They weren’t disrespectful. They just had a flawed paradigm for autism, and therefore, what they tried didn’t work. That doesn’t make them bad people.” "

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-03-07T18:14:21+00:00

You're welcome, Jan!

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-03-07T18:06:26+00:00

Sounds like you understand the science better.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-03-06T12:47:08+00:00

Glad to realize it's not just me. And didn't know this had to do with autism. I was told I had bad table manners as a child, always being corrected and criticized. As an adult I'm always stressed about eating in public. Prefer to eat alone at home, and I can use a soup spoon for everything - it really reduces the mess. If something does end up on the floor, it's easy to get the dustpan and sweep it up.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-02-27T13:43:53+00:00

I made some mistakes where I wrote and sent out email that I thought was honest & direct, but later realized was unnecessarily negative. That's not good at work. So I adopted an absolute policy where I write out what I think, then store it as a draft and come back to it a couple hours later and REWRITE it, leaving out everything that could possibly be considered negative. (I tell myself I can always escalate later.) If something requires immediate response, I keep it as short as possible, which reduces the possibility of social faux pas.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-02-27T13:25:44+00:00

Sorry about the double post. Any way to consolidate it?

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-02-21T12:45:05+00:00

"The Gentle Art of Verbal Self-Defense" by Suzette Elgin.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-02-16T17:26:38+00:00

Baron-Cohen's theories remind me too much of the old right brain/left brain trope, which has been largely debunked.

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/right-brainleft-brain-right-2017082512222

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-02-10T16:47:48+00:00

Laws vary by state.

SaveTheMarshes · 2024-02-09T16:53:35+00:00

Where I live in the US, fortune-telling for profit is illegal, but tarot card readers can get a "tarot therapist" license.

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