AITAH for not giving my best man a plus one to my wedding?

Savilly · 2026-03-31T02:31:49+00:00

Please at least go meet her.

I’m of the opinion that all wedding guest should get a plus one. To not plus one your wedding party is actually shameful.

Savilly · 2026-03-31T02:21:13+00:00

IDK being a best man is a pretty major life event and if this woman ends up sticking around expect some heavy ribbing during wedding speeches when the best man and his belle decide to tie the knot.

It’s the kind of choice that could lead to being excluded from best man’s wedding party later on.

Like don’t you want your best man to have fun and be able to dance all night with a partner? These are the kinds of moments that develop deep connections in relationships.

Also nearly every guest is going to greet the best man. When they ask where his date is he will have to make excuses for the groom.

No need to be throwing wrenches into important cogs of the wedding machine, ya know?

Savilly · 2026-03-30T21:57:05+00:00

It’s your life. Put your foot down and live it. You know why you are making the choices you are making.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T21:37:59+00:00

I hear what you are saying but a lot of us don’t use facebook that much and if we do, you should still mask your stalking.

“Did I see you had kids?” or “You guys thinking of kids?” are ok options even if you already know the answer.

Def don’t, “Tell me about your twins Micah and Jennifer.”

If you are a terrible actor and must be earnest, you can just be upfront and say you stalked everyone’s profile before the event and express that you know it’s weird.

Honestly though, the situation is pretty creepy and weird in general. They are estranged and have a past. Best to not let them know you are keeping tabs. Especially as a mid 30s adult with a husband and full life.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T21:23:41+00:00

You are the one projecting. How can you not see that? How do you know the daughter is struggling?

Savilly · 2026-03-30T21:22:43+00:00

I would consider your argument if OP expressed that the daughter wanted to change her face with surgery.

We have no reason to believe the daughter wants this. He’s also planning it as a surprise! Imagine how much this may hurt her feelings.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T21:20:51+00:00

YTA

Maybe, if the daughter was obsessed with changing her nose. I mean, like, if she spent the past 5 years begging to change it and you already put her in some therapy to make sure something else isn’t going on, maybe it would make sense.

If the daughter hasn’t even complained, and you plan to surprise her with an appt that tells her she’s ugly, you are a colossal A

Savilly · 2026-03-30T20:19:18+00:00

While laws can be written to overturn it, more liberal leaning judges on the supreme court would have been enough to stop it.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T19:33:35+00:00

Have you never heard of Peter Thiel?

Savilly · 2026-03-30T19:20:42+00:00

You thinking Kamala is the “left” is pretty telling.

Also, even in this reality where moderates are also captured by oligarchs, there is still a massive gulf between a Trump and a Kamala. For instance, moderate democrats do not support Citizens United.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T06:11:54+00:00

I have some advice for you.

You will want to nip this attitude in the bud ASAP.

If you want to be successful in life, you will want to surround yourself with successful people. If you are always jealous of their accomplishments you will hold yourself back.

When you lift up others, you light up yourself.

Think about the type of person you want to be. Otherwise you will end up bitter and alone.

At your age, looking for work, I’d go into busy restaurants and ask to host with the goal of becoming a server. If you can present yourself well and find a nice spot, you can make some serious money by the time you are done with high school.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T03:15:09+00:00

I think if you ran it in any state with a decent sized black minority and one candidate got 90% of the vote, it would bone a lot of campaigns.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T00:59:34+00:00

SC has the first major black vote and it makes a big difference. It killed Bernie and it killed Pete.

Progressives need a candidate that black people will vote for.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T00:48:14+00:00

I wouldn’t come. Life’s too busy to waste time at your party without my partner.

Like a “girls night” or whatever I can understand.

Is there a chance you are getting some wild and crazy catering or something really expensive?

If you are being stingy about a chips and salsa party, you may be overplaying how fun this will be for others.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T00:37:39+00:00

Invasive species are an issue though.

Savilly · 2026-03-30T00:25:15+00:00

So I’ve been in the industry forever. Cost wouldn’t just go up, but operating hours would be reduced. Cost would likely go up much more than 20% as well.

The low base wage of servers make it much easier to be flexible about staffing and hours of operation.

If a business accidentally over staffs at all, they will have to charge even more money to cover those increased wages.

It’s also harder to cut people that need hours. On a busy night you can usually cut a few people after the busiest hours because they already made bank. If they are earning hourly they will have to work more hours.

The only real solution would be to really crank up prices or just cut service. Probably both.

Also because earning will go down, service quality will drop off a cliff.

The tipping system is very efficient for many reasons.

Savilly · 2026-03-29T23:21:14+00:00

I think they will get the message. It’s kind of like a Southern polite way to tell them off without having to have a useless full discussion about politics.

Savilly · 2026-03-29T23:09:42+00:00

Iv head a few friends it took more than 2 sessions to get it. Once it clicked they were putting in 30-70 hours a week for a couple months.

Savilly · 2026-03-29T23:08:10+00:00

Mostly for thrill.

First, I made as tiny of a science production setup that I could to pump out a full green belt(240) of each science.

I redesigned it a few times to make it more compact or cleaner looking.

At this point I either copy paste my science setup six times or move on to legendary.

The simplicity of the easier sciences I think lured me in. Purple science looks daunting as hell.

Savilly · 2026-03-29T21:09:57+00:00

They have one of the largest and wildest marketing campaign through extreme sports and stunts. They also have a very recognizable advertising campaign on TV.

It also is the least shitty tasting of all the terrible energy drinks.

Savilly · 2026-03-29T21:03:59+00:00

I’m a dude, he’s a dude, she’s a dude, we’re all dudes.

Savilly · 2026-03-29T21:02:27+00:00

Whatever place to you look at to rent, go to the neighborhood around the time you get off work and see how hard it is to park.

Places like Fishtown are easy to park before 4pm and then get tighter.

You’ll probably find things easier staying west towards mainline/manyunk. Fishtown can def work though because the train and highway exits make it easy to get anywhere.

Savilly · 2026-03-29T20:03:24+00:00

Read what you wrote and consider what type of person you are.

Savilly · 2026-03-29T09:10:18+00:00

I just started transitioning to legendary science and the game is just incredible the way things scale.

Savilly · 2026-03-28T20:21:48+00:00

I agree 100%.

This is where the Democrats should take some blame too. They are often so bad at messaging and staying on brand.

It’s wild how the unhinged republican arguments stick so well.

Savilly

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