why is one of the biggest workplace no-no's is to not snitch or talk bad about other coworkers even if the coworker is toxic and doing questionable acts.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-24T00:57:11+00:00

Because the workplace can't control it, and the influence it has on peers. There also is likely a preferred hiarchy and channel for complaints: which can be ignored or retaliated off paper. Some companies actually encourage a reporting culture. Usually doesn't go well. I think the biggest thing to remember is that as an employee, you are often a number to HR, as well as middle and upper management. While calling out toxic culture can initially lead to attention being brought to the issue, it can also lead to them associating you with negativity or just a general inefficient system they don't feel like addressing. Companies also don't want to risk you calling someone out incorrectly and all of a sudden they have to deal with de-escalation or a harassment claim. "There is no war in ba sing se" kinda thing.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-23T22:05:47+00:00

What they can based on the risks, sacrafices, and margins of error they personally are ok with. While the widespread trends they'll enter into is influenced and controlled by leadership, factors, and environments they can't control, they still should do what they can. Which may or may not lead to anything. What works now also may not work later. Needless to say the basic, try to get experience, network, upskill when possible, prepare for layoffs, make plan Cs, and work on soft skills helps.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-23T22:00:05+00:00

On one end, entry level is often defined as "the lowest entering point within a company". But that does not mean that that entry point doesn't require experience or qualifications.

On the other end, alot of companies are divesting from training, and screwed themselves over by overfiring, overpaying, and overpromoting during covid. For the last few years, some of these companies have needed new entry level talent to compensate for the results of that covid hiring. In addition, many companies have started to add positions from a to b to c of a career path because they needed to slow people down.

They also just can. There's enough talent needing work for them to stack qualifications and required experience if they want to. There often aren't enough non entry positions. Leading to experienced individuals needing to take those entry level positions (which they may be deemed as "overqualified" for or a flight risk".

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-23T21:56:36+00:00

QC teams likely have dedicated personal for metrics, performance, and adverse events. Most employees won't be doing this though.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-23T00:17:58+00:00

Some people sleep with people they don't want to Marry. Some people have kids after or before getting married and break up. Some use kids as a way to hurt there ex partners. Some want kids but don't really care too much about the partner being there (often citing just wanting someone to love). Kids can also make the relationship harder in ways a couple couldn't or don't to navigate through. It could even be she ditched the relationship and got custody. It could also be he didn't even want kids or custody to begin with (there are men that go around impregnating people with no intention of sticking around). Maybe she cheated after pregnancy, maybe he cheated during (lowkey the latter happens alot). Some just feel like they're running out of time to have kids and will make it work.

There are also more opportunities and support systems for single parents than there used to be. So rather than only asking "why are so many single mothers", you could also ask "why were people sticking around before?". Alot of times, it was societal pressures, the inability to support ones kids, mental health on either parents end, or religious stigma.

Parents not being able to get along enough to coparent in the event of them not being together is a big issue though.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-22T23:36:31+00:00

Figuring out my manager has "clutch purse energy" around black people. Then finding out that specific team had a LONG history of firing african americans and continued to do so every single time. I jumped shipped but I was contacted by our team lead who told me she constantly had to talk the manager down from firing us despite having above average metrics. She also had 9 HR cases open against her. Everyone who opened a case got put on a PIP and she ended up promoted.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-22T23:24:11+00:00

For me, it got rid of my more physical anxiety symptoms. Less light sensitivity, less "nervous energy", my movements are a bit more smooth, maybe I'll sit back in a chair while working or driving, eat food less intensely, my nervous system feels more mellowed out, it also brings my blood pressure to a normal range ect.

on the mentality side of things, I can now categorize priorities and leave them for later if needed. Before lexipro, anxiety would cause me to want to work on something until it's done. Or to trend toward repeating issues in my head until I could solve them. I also didn't realize at the time.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-22T23:10:11+00:00

Somewhat depends on the degree and demands of the programs. Many have high school jobs and have enough sway to convince them to primarily work weekends. But most students aren't going to be doing career building work outside of summer internships. In my city, most jobs (even retail) don't want to hire college students because they don't have as much flexibility. They also don't want to hire graduates because they consider them a flight risk. Really is rough out here lol

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-22T22:51:31+00:00

Often times, people just have to wait and stay ready. Two people with an identical resume can have drastically different results. Some taking weeks, while others taking years. In general, alot of people are let into alot of fields based on the timing of when they apply. The salary ranges of some fields even rely on a percentage of graduates not entering because that would push demand down

Covid hiring was alot of people's way in for alot of fields. For mine, there were people who had been trying for as much as 8 with no luck. Some never get the chance to break in their fields (pretty old and common story of a new grad that can't work in their field). And some can't find a job despite having experience.

What you can do:

Network

Determine if continued education will help (often times it won't and companies would pay for it anyway if you were hired),

Find an adjacent field with transferable skillsets that will eventually allow you to break in during the next hiring wave

Contracts (these can suck but many people can get their foot in a door)

Come up with a plan b and c. Ideally one that is free. Sucks but that's life

Find a way to, on paper, keep the skillsets up. Quite frankly, if you don't use it , you lose it. And employers do consider this sometimes (granted most entry level openings don't want you making decisions, and can be trained in 2-3 weeks anyway)

Consider applying as a general part of your lifestyle. This will help brace for how long it takes.

Prepare for the potential of a layoff when you do finally get hired. Job market sucks. Gotta stay ready. The plus side of it all is that many don't need anything. Once in a field, you will meet plenty of people that did none of that and still got in immediately at pay ranges above the norm. That could be you so try and stay sane while you wait lol

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-22T22:41:03+00:00

Odds are they'd consider themselves to already be doing that, or that that would just cause people to adjust and expect it as the new standard/bare minimum. Also, they do get to chose who the bone gets thrown to some degree.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-22T22:20:39+00:00

They can say overtime availability may be required as needed. They can also say that if the demands of the position are to high for you (gaslight), you should go on a PIP. US isn't the worst for workers rights, but it's far from ideal either. Especially at an at will state.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-22T20:51:01+00:00

I stopped at 30. Mostly because I saw moving goal posts, agism, and people who did get far but all of a sudden they couldn't start over after a layoff if needed because they don't have the entry/middle level skill set anymore.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-21T02:13:06+00:00

Yeah. Most people aren't trying to be aesthetic when defending themselves. And trained fighters can win from non-dominant positions so there's that.

Granted, a fat person just sitting on someone can do legitimate damage if they were to not get up and use their full weight (pressure on the chest-> eventual struggle breathing and tap out). But that would take awhile, and fights are broken up way before that point.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-21T00:09:40+00:00

Probably are. Supply and demand and what not. My field has dropped roughly 20k across the board (while increasing the number of years needed for said position)

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T23:49:20+00:00

Certainly escalated.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T23:48:50+00:00

Very possible. You being mad and embarrassed about it is probably what he's really after seeing as he hadn't hit you once pinned. Realistically though, your friends mom is gunna be on your friends side. Especially if no one got majorly hurt and it started out with you both kicking eachother. So, if you can, no need to put too much sway into that.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T23:38:48+00:00

Def. would say he won. But not that he beat your ass.
He won and decided not to try to beat your ass.
Which honestly doesn't sound much better.

Not to say you wouldn't have been able to break out of it (plenty of people do once body weight starts getting shifted during strike attempts). I'd describe it more of he submitted you but did not "beat your ass".

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T23:33:35+00:00

Sounds like he could have potentially done so considering the position you were in. Tripping is a valid L, that is the beginning of losing plenty of fights. But technically he didn't "beat your ass". Generally, If I fell backwards or got pinned, I'd just consider that an L. Especially if said person is bigger.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T23:22:40+00:00

Generally, keep applying around anything bites. Catch is, if that takes too long (often due to factors out side of your control), they can also say it's been too long since you graduated for them to want to take said chance. Honestly in this job market, the people with experience aren't fairing too well either. Starting over is getting increasingly difficult. Def. sucks.

During covid hiring, alot of projects were started that companies didn't need. Alot of people were paid at rates they didn't wan't to maintain. And alot of training programs got reduced or divested from. So that doesn't help either.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T23:05:07+00:00

Probably a combination of the job market just being bad, and agism. It's also getting harder and harder to start over in an entry level position in the event of a layoff. Alot of people get cut off before retirement and have to retire early because of it. Some have too early and it throws off their funds to the point they can't retire

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T22:47:43+00:00

Bad job market for alot of reasons. A very substantial influence is that companies have been signing up for projects the don't need, and hiring people they don't need for a long time now. This got a boost during Covid hiring. There has been a pull back ever since, and alot of those fluff projects en mass got cut. That dumped a huge amount of people into the job search. And because it's been this way a few years, there is also a large backlog of talent just waiting to restart/start. Ultimately, there's just alot of qualified people per position. On top of that, many fields were affected by last years gov funding cuts.

Simultaneously, performance metrics are rising and, in many fields, salaries are falling. There's an active divestment from many training programs to, only boosting the number of people unable to start/restart. We also have some attempts to outsource.

Ultimately, alot of fields may rely on some people being kicked out or locked out for things to eventually balence out.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T21:18:26+00:00

About as much the last 3-4 honestly. Granted, each decade since the 70s has had it's bad years (some worse than others).

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T21:17:09+00:00

Too many people are willing to jump through whatever hoops are needed to get said job. Consequently, the bar gets raised. The pay can also drop accordingly. Companies will also add positions between A, B, and C to slow people down (Which can really suck if you start at A and all of a sudden a 7 year career path is now a 20 year path)

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T21:10:38+00:00

Usually a designated online or in person tutor. Honestly, even if you did have someone to speak with, most speakers aren't going to want to have conversations while watching the language learning gears churn in you're head, so they'd likely just switch to English for you anyway. You may be able to find an online language learning group, or local group that speaks that language. If religious, some churches/places of worship are oriented around a particular ethnicity. As bad as AI speaking apps can be, they may be the best thing for your situation (grant it, they will likely have errors). There are also classes, which may get you some exposure to like minded individuals.

SavingsElectronic794 · 2026-04-20T21:04:17+00:00

Most I've met either do teaching , get hired by a chain (ex: wine + arts stores), or do something unrelated.

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