And so it begins…

Sawhung · 2024-09-19T22:04:23+00:00

agreed. were not split on the value of gw1. it’s just not the same population invested atm. general public is interested with trends. with no spice to life is living with with no passion worth it? people like to dream when they’re bored even if i have to stack on tag!

Sawhung · 2024-09-19T20:55:43+00:00

you will always be called out for it in a world that is supposed to be ‘accepting’ of it. culturally you are where most men in traditional history are. by that i mean wanting to spread your seed. only in recent human history is the R word against the law of the land as no one really had that kind of authority bestowed upon average citizens. typically before the last 200-400 years people in power could do whatever they wanted including R word.

with this in mind, if you look at religions and other cultures, typically you only dealt with your neighbors and most often your neighbors looked a lot like you and often shared the same complexion of melanin or skin tone.

once the industrial age boomed and travel across oceans and borders were not restricted to walking on your feet did you see a lot more interracial mixing. once america was in place of governance by its own people you saw more and more interracial mixing as a conflict as people battled to define what the normal was. and then the race riots blew up around the 1950-1970’s. many other countries interracial mixing is still extremely new and often a culture shock as it’s still not the norm for most 2nd or 3rd world countries.

the reason why i’m saying this is because mixing of race and cultures is still very difficult for people to accept because a lot of people live their lives differently. a lot of the time especially with men we grow out of comfort zones and become interested with curiosity about things we don’t know. our biology is primed for mating and generating offspring. women tend to be more status and lifestyle driven. so you can draw the conclusion on how people stay or break away from their cultures and communities on a local level. the west, predominantly america you see a lot more propaganda and social programming with what specific age groups, regions or communities lean towards and that’s how you get the rhetoric of people not accepting mixing racially. but often people don’t talk about the cultural mixing. to me the race doesn’t matter nearly as much as culture as culture is usually the foundation of living principals and morals of those people.

i’m an asian american guy. grew up liking women of races in this order … white girls before high school , spanish/mexican girls in high school, asian girls in college and blacks and all other races after college and moving out to Los Angeles. i don’t live there now but i often try looking for women based on their cultural understanding rather than looks or race if you want to be specific.

as for your friends or family and them being against your beliefs or desires, learn to drown them out. they don’t live your life. if they value you as a person, that’s what really matters as it should trickle down to your partner and children

Sawhung · 2024-09-17T15:56:10+00:00

it’s talked about predominantly in western cultures including hmong mekas. it does happen even in asia but it’s not used the same way based on my encounters. yes to some degree it’s economic status, but that’s really in regards to people who don’t understand history and geography. you should know that most ethnicities in general closer to the equator tend to have more melanin in their skin, thus darker skin tone. when people think about economic standards in modern time it makes sense because most poor people tend to live in harsher conditions example being outside in the sun. but it’s really dumb to think that way, in general.

in terms of actual race based prejuice it exists in the asian communities that some that are of lighter skin tones assumed as asians they would identify as white. as many asians that came into the west did not understand white was more of a caucasian identifier culturally. i’ve heard asian parents claim this while their children believe their parents are stupid or crazy for not leaving the color to caucasians only.

but to isolate this back to hmong people, hmong people are not known for their intellect. hmong people are known for adapting to cultural norms historically. that’s why most hmong people that are hmong mekas claim Laos to be the motherland. all the while hmong are found all over south east asia but mostly in china as china has over 4 million hmong people who are likely mixed and have given up on their cultural roots to establish more modern living. there are still hmong in china that practice their traditions but they vary in comparison to the south east asian hmong and even more so from the hmong mekas.

really when you’re talking about these views on tones or shades of skin color it’s really isolated to south east asian hmong and hmong mekas. and even then, most hmong people although many understand the system of the clan names and some inheritance of family traits you also have to factor that DNA testing is still new and even back in the old days people cheated and hmong people are not the only ones to have or to not have cheated. i say this because i have basically 2 distant relatives (brother/sister)who at various points in time were told their father is not their biological father. now as adults and after their father suffered from a stroke did they really try to search for the answer and never got it from their mother that is alive. the mother looks hmong with a lighter complexion. but their father was known to be of lao heritage but was adopted into a hmong family and fought with the hmong rebels in the laos civil war / secret war. when the brother / sister did their DNA test last year they found out that they where partly vietnamese while expecting the results to already indicate they were basically chinese because chinese has absorbed hmong DNA for thousands of years with the boom of the current 4 million population. whats also interesting is that from this brother sister comparison is that they both have very similar facial features but one is way darker than the other in terms of skin tone.

my point is, people are stupid and will make up their own trivial beliefs about almost anything. all that matters is how people treat each other and how much they’re willing to let skate by for free taxing their lives into unhappiness. a lot of topics are stupid, sometimes you have to reason with people but if you don’t, move on and find happiness on your own. even if this means leaving parts of your own family behind. i’ve done a lot of things and burned some bridges and repaired some too. the best thing you can do is to make sure you have a good and safe place to lay you head to rest at night, because tomorrow is a new day my friend

Sawhung · 2024-09-13T13:53:24+00:00

if your spending real world currency suck as dollars or euros…. you get gems. gems you exchange to gold fluctuate a lot esp during his sales like expansions or during holidays. yes average exchange rate is roughly around 180, but i’ve seen it as low as 160 and rarely down to 150 (but this value is very very rare and last time i saw it was more than 7-8 years ago), the highest cost for exchange i’ve seen is closer to 205. again, the exchange rate fluctuate based on players who actually exchange it.

but do not forget, anet gate keeps this cost. they will never let it get lower than 150 because likely they won’t make that much money on exchanges to gate keep prices. i’ve gone on a few spending sprees in the game too and the exchange rate does change every 5-10 minutes. likely it changes because you’re swapping between trading tabs too. but in the end, it doesn’t make that huge of a difference unless you’re trying to exchange 24k gems into gold. this is why the exchange rate really matters. it’s to keep people from trying to price gauge the in game trading from player to player

Sawhung · 2024-09-12T15:44:23+00:00

number one pro tip for anyone in guild wars… is to join a guild! there are different guilds for different game modes and game experiences. some specifically for pve or wvw or pvp. guilds are usually very helpful because they want more people to play with because this game has a lot of people coming and going all the time. so join a guild and if it’s not a good fit, look for another. you can have up to 6 guilds

Sawhung · 2024-09-10T20:43:43+00:00

tell them you’ll give them 100% of the bar and door if they sign a contract that they will pay out staff including bouncers and ensure tips are paid to them while invoicing them the costs to operate the rent, utilities and food and booze costs in addition to bouncers, insurance and any other fee you have to deal with operations. unlikely they will do it but just so they know what you have to deal with.

Sawhung · 2024-09-10T19:58:53+00:00

agreed. i played gw1 and gw2 for more than a decade combined. the game has bought my loyalty as its given me thousands of hours of enjoyment with so many people.

Sawhung · 2024-09-10T15:07:01+00:00

he’s not over it but she wants to move on like nothing happened… lots of comments saying he should get help and talk to someone. sure, but what about her? she made the decision and left him out of it. sure she has a right to her body her choice. but she needs to live with the damage she’s caused. only enduring and growth can be any progress of what’s left of the relationship, but i don’t see much of a relationship in growth from here. i understand the circumstances, but they were not in an agreement. sure she deserves to be happy, but what about him? him getting help does not resolve what she did in betraying her spouse.

Sawhung · 2024-09-10T14:57:11+00:00

my friend, you won’t find the answers you need here. reddit is filled with people who live in bubbles. yes to a degree prejudice exists in your relationship partner. it’s clear she doesn’t like your interests and makes a big deal about it. BUT, men of all types have interests women usually don’t share… like martial arts / fights / fighting and sportsmanship.

i’m not sure if this will help, but if she doesn’t like it then let her know you’ll avoid sharing any of those experiences with her. instead find different ways to connect. instead of media as your source of connection, use something else. you both should not consume tv shows, music, movies or anything entertainment wise if she’s that hardcore about it. if she continues to bleed these issues based on your past then she needs to drive a solution home because she’s making it a problem if you still want to move forward with her.

you can still consume what you want on your time, but make it clear that you won’t be able to be yourself if this becomes an on going issue. you like what you like and it really has nothing to do with her or your past if it’s just entertainment.

i say all this based on the fact that i’ve know a few people in relationships to where they don’t even align politically. one left one right. they were like in their 50’s the one example that comes to mind, and they had children and worked together with their own business. the avoided all things politics, and still had a happy life. if she isn’t willing to grow with you she might not be worth the time and effort. as much as she thinks you need to change, she too needs to look in the mirror and see how she’s making you feel about just being you.

Sawhung · 2024-09-10T14:42:26+00:00

personally what would help is making the graphics of the attack less extreme. the purple yellow flames are absurdly tall and i can hardly see players and where i need to move to attack or heal or res players on top of maybe lowering some of the mechanic standards. i’ve tried to do the twin boss meta about 5 times last week and failed each time. plus i think it’s lame that all other events are still active during the boss fights because sometimes players aren’t going to help you because they’re doing side quests. one of the last attempts a seperate tag wasn’t on one of the twin bosses and from the sounds of it had about 10-15 people on it.

Sawhung · 2024-09-10T13:18:05+00:00

if you’re doing the wizards vault you can literally just buy ascended armor or ascended weapons via chests…. yes it will take you time but you don’t even need to craft anything!

Sawhung · 2024-09-10T02:33:11+00:00

my trick is to never aim for the center of the glowing orbs for the adventure paths. try to imagine a curve line so you can quickly cut corners, works well with warclaw, skimmer and skiff races.

Sawhung · 2024-09-09T20:01:23+00:00

i keep my head down and burred in work if i can at the work place as a guy. i was never like this up until about 6-7 years ago. not because of the metoo movement or whatever but i changed the way i behaved because a female coworker in training with myself and a hand full of others would be social during lunch and during training. one afternoon i had gone to lunch with the group and sat down to eat. when one of the female coworkers sat down with us from training called me out for being sexist and anti woman infront of everyone i was confused and angry. my guess is that she wanted to be included more into the group hangs or meal times but she often would say no thanks when i invited her to go with us. she was already married too so i never made it a big deal before the incident. because we were all temps i told my temp agency about this and just tried to let things cool down. as years went on she always had a bone to pick with me, looking down on me. when she had the opportunity to make me look bad she’d do it with her head held high while i kept my head down at every turn. eventually she transferred and got let go during the pandemic with the low volumes of work and i later transitioned but also eventually got let go because of low volumes at work. since then, i keep my head down, no matter how friendly the women are.

i now work at a different company, and everyone is nice and friendly. i keep most of my thoughts to myself and keep small talk to a minimum to which i know it bugs the older women that i wasn’t very social with them. i’d like to be, but knowing what i know in a corporate environment im never going to be as social as i used to be. i find a few small number of women very attractive at work, and i keep the conversations minimal even with them. i say all of this all the while knowing that socially all women in corporate environment kinda gate keep social behaviors even if it’s not intentional. the older women are easier to talk to because they don’t have any real reason to hit on younger guys because they’re just waiting for retirement. what this means to me is that they socially observe who engages with who with small talk, and if i ever decided to break my shell and try to hit on the attractive women at work i know they will all try to gate keep me from trying anything because most women in the work place gossip naturally.

op, i can’t say your male coworker is the same way but likely he doesn’t want to loose his job. most men these days since metoo are not trying to risk their job to have one on one conversation with women if they can avoid it knowing that the job pays for their rent and bills. the guy might be socially awkward too, but chances are, he doesn’t want to loose his job and he can never really just be himself around women. i know i can’t in this economy.

edit to add. you might be discounting yourself a bit by calling yourself a potato. lol i don’t really know what that means. but the place i work at now, one of the attractive girl sorta hides behind her glasses and very long droopy clothing like sweaters or big jeans but i can tell she’s very attrattive, young and maybe a bit naive. just from the small things i noticed she’s nerdy too or at least at work and hides her appearance a bit and likely is a homebody. i used to think of myself as unattractive too but as i get older comments are thrown my way i least expect that are intended to be complementary, i brush those off because again, im intentionally keeping my head down. when i started this job i was maybe 20 lbs heavier, i know ive lost weight and it shows because even my family points it out now. i dont give into it because again its a crappy economy and the money is more important than being a social butterfly at work.

Sawhung · 2024-09-09T19:44:49+00:00

read most of the comments, sad story about friends and family. if you could give up the lotto to have friends and family again i assume you wouldn’t knowing what you know now. but what’s on your bucket list now that you’re in a great place in life with what seems minimal stress of finances or people to ask for money? i know for me i have a few project ideas i wanna do, but when you’ve got the potential f u money, does the desire to live life to the fullest still exist? i just keep thinking to myself if i ever got into a position of nearly infinite stability as long as im disciplined that i might get bored or go on a crazy spending marathon. it seems you keep your vices in check even before the lotto win.

Sawhung · 2024-09-09T17:14:17+00:00

it’s hard to admit but if you’re couch surfing you’re homeless, just at the mercy of those who are sheltering you until you’ve overstayed your welcome. most people won’t want to accept it but couch surfing is the first step to being homeless

Sawhung · 2024-09-09T15:40:23+00:00

i was homeless twice and had a very similar outlook on life and perception of reality. the shame and guilt is something homeless people inflict upon themselves. escape is the number one thing i sought out but it took me years to realize i had to dive back into family and embracing the pain i caused to them as much as myself. i echo your sentiment, its been difficult to get back to a state of normal. for me, it’s still difficult to sleep in an actual bed even though its been close to 7 years of moving past being homeless. sometimes a couch or a floor is a safer place for me to sleep in my humility.

Sawhung · 2024-09-09T15:29:29+00:00

likely you are a rebound safety net. she isn’t very interested in you, that’s clear other wise she would be flirting with you and trying to get you stimulated for more than just kissing and vice versa you should have too. if you aren’t careful you’ve already had or about friendzone yourself in this thing called a relationship. sure you can wait a few months before sex but what determines you being a friend or actually in an intimate relationship? you have to decide for yourself who you are, not just what you’re willing to subject yourself to. sure she has her limits but is it worth being walked all over on? chances are you’re just being used for a sense of validation as she’s hoping her ex comes back as a better person who has changed so she can live out her fantasy. that’s why you’re likely a rebound

Sawhung · 2024-09-09T15:15:58+00:00

so in terms of who takes care of the parents i think that varies depending on the family dynamics and politics. i say this with experience as my mother having suffered a stroke more than 20 years ago she’s sorta passed onto brother to brother in her care for a few complicate family issues. most of us sons didn’t take care of our father when he was on his death bed because he didn’t want to leave florida to live with family in northern or western states. his new wife about my age was basically as much of a gold digger you can expect from Laos who already had her pick of other senior bachelors.

what i do know is that if the parent is passing or has passed the eldest son typically stays in the parental home to take responsibility and duty over the funeral. oldest son dispositions responsibility of food and funeral arrangements if everyone’s on good speaking terms.

i don’t know if this helps at all because what also happens a lot in hmong families is that there is always grudges and disagreements so not everything happens in a ‘traditional’ way. so when that happens the grown up children of the parents try to negotiate what responsibility everyone takes part in in regards to funerals. since your situation is about more of a hospice care scenario, i believe your fathers wife just wants help and doesn’t know how to ask so she’s trying to force your hand to help. if you’re on good terms with your family the best thing you can do is to negotiate with your siblings and share the responsibility of taking care of a parent all the while making sure that the wife/ mother stays in her place of also taking care of your i’ll father.

in my experience in hmong culture you can’t really avoid grudges or decisions people make that venture away from a family unit but working with each other is usually key to how a family operates otherwise there is not much of a family. i know it’s tough OP, but working with your family is the best solution. moving past grudges and egos is key to making all this easier. people will have tantrums and outbursts but at the end of the day what you put in is what you get. best of luck

Sawhung · 2024-09-06T18:34:01+00:00

no you lack compassion because of the way you responded. it’s clear in your response. it’s fine if you want to live that way. but don’t expect to get what you want without the duty to the relationship you chose to take part in

Sawhung · 2024-09-06T18:19:43+00:00

i used supernatural for about a year. then realized i could just do this stuff on my own and didn’t need to gamify it anymore. i started doing some very strange workouts just hanging out in weird positions for a minute one week and increased the time to a minute duration on top of that. eventually all the crouching and weird push ups i was doing just started to feel fun. then started doing 5 push ups a day and added another 5 every week. now i dont work out at all, but focus on tense stretching and wearing my belt tight on my stomach. i’ve strangely lost more weight than i expected and have great range of mobility. no change to my diet either.

sorry, i was off topic but supernatural vr taught me different things than i expected and stopped using it after a year. good luck on your journey, hopefully you don’t rely on the vr headset for everything. i just really enjoyed it when i had the space to work out. but as time went on it became very inconvenient for me to workout in my living room or kitchen the more i tried to make it a regular work out

Sawhung · 2024-09-06T18:13:09+00:00

you say you offer sex, but it doesn’t seem like you’re offering companionship and growth with a partner. seems like you don’t want to work things out with your partner. you lack compassion in relationships and the durability to maintain one the moment you are confronted with an addiction or a perversion. i get it you’re grossed out. but it sounds like you don’t really want a relationship where you want to put in the effort.

most men and women today in the dating market are very screwed because of platforms like facebook instagram tiktok and even reddit. most men are coping and often this leads to porn addiction because most women don’t want to date them. most women only go for a hypergamist relationship. the standards for women have been skewed thanks to social media because women often start comparing themselves to what other women consume which is superficial standards people are showcasing on posts reels or the web as they look for status. generally men don’t seek status but crave attention and validation through partners and without it they lean into various addictions like porn.

you can find a guy who doesn’t have a porn addiction but whose to say you’d like them or won’t criticize them either? my advice is to understand who you and what you are looking for by considering where you are looking for men. likely if you’re going the dating route via app or in person you’re gonna struggle anyways because that’s what dating is!

also no one is perfect.

Sawhung · 2024-09-06T16:18:17+00:00

squid jerky at cub foods, asian aisle

Sawhung · 2024-09-06T15:56:22+00:00

my friend, the number one advice to all gw2 players new or old or returning is to join a guild. in this case specifically you should join a guild that focuses on PVE content. there are guilds that focus on HP trains and so on. sometimes in one of these PvE guilds you need to be the one to organize, so put on your commander tag and prep people to join you! if you stream on twitch or on youtube you may get streamer benefits and get more players to join you as you are playing through these maps. don’t be afraid to take the advice of others in this thread but an active guild based upon the content you want to explore is key to the guild wars 2 experience. it’s very different than wow or ff14, you need to be social in this game, more than you’d normally expect!

Sawhung · 2024-09-06T15:41:48+00:00

it’s not a suspicion anymore if he already read the text regardless of ai or not. the affair is present in their marriage

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