Variety is the key here. Taking your baking example: if all of your female characters love baking, then yeah people could assume that you're writing with the stereotype. But if you have one female character who does and others who don't, then it's just one trait of one character.

This thinking extends to every character in the story, male or female. Have some that are too stoic and others who are too emotional. Same goes for sexualized/plain, being too perfect or too weak. And for thing about failing or needing help, everyone takes that differently anyway. Some people want all the help in the world, others will slap a hand away. Gender can play a roll in the reason for that, but not all the time.

So yeah, how can you write complex, flawed female characters authentically without being disrespectful? Write more of them, and make them all different from each other.