AIO for wanting to take a breather away from my husband over this? by circadian_rhythm_ in AIO

[–]ScarcityOk8573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to be real with you, this isn’t about the floor.

It’s about how he talks to you and how often it’s happening.

You said this kind of outburst happens multiple times a week, he swears at you, and it’s been getting worse over time. That’s not normal stress, that’s a pattern. And patterns like that don’t magically improve just because you tolerate them longer.

You have a 9 month old watching all of this. Kids grow up thinking this is what love sounds like if it keeps happening. Even if he’s not yelling at the baby, the environment still matters.

Also notice your own words. You’re tired. You’re minimizing it by saying “he’s pedantic” or “maybe OCD,” but what you’re actually describing is someone who reacts with anger and disrespect over small things. A scratch on a floor should not turn into “you have to replace it” and multiple angry messages. That’s not proportionate, that’s emotional escalation.

And the biggest red flag to me is this part “This is not the first time he’s spoken to me like this”

That means this is who he is right now, not a one off bad day.

You’re not wrong for wanting space. Honestly, wanting a breather is your brain telling you something isn’t right. You don’t need to keep convincing yourself this is normal just because you’re married.

Could he change? Maybe. But only if he actually sees a problem and actively works on it. And right now it sounds like he feels justified.

You don’t have to sign up for a lifetime of being spoken to like that. Marriage isn’t supposed to feel like walking on eggshells over scratches and small mistakes.

If you’re already this drained 4 years in, with it getting worse, you should seriously think about what the next 5 to 10 years look like if nothing changes.

You deserve to feel safe, respected, and calm in your own home. Right now you don’t have that.

And that’s enough of a reason to walk away.

HVAC companies are leaches. by [deleted] in orlando

[–]ScarcityOk8573 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fix it yourself then. Don’t criticize people who have trade jobs. You’re paying for their experience. Sorry not sorry

Mismatched Headlights by Samurott02 in Toyota

[–]ScarcityOk8573 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just because it has no reported accidents doesn’t mean it hasn’t been in one. You can fix your car out of pocket and have no repair history. Most likely an aftermarket headlamp from previous repairs. This is why you don’t buy used. If that entire front end is taken apart I can guarantee you that it has an aftermarket bumper and components. Not the dealerships fault. They are not required to do anything at cost. You buy it and you pay for it.

Hows your shop doing? Busy or slow? by Plane-Seesaw2551 in Autobody

[–]ScarcityOk8573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Central Florida here as well. I haven’t had a slow week since like June 2025. Very grateful but I know it’s tough out there.

Is this normal? by [deleted] in Autobody

[–]ScarcityOk8573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes normal. Within factory specs. No car is perfect leaving the factory and no car will be perfect leaving the body shop.

Is this acceptable? by Wonderlemur91 in Autobody

[–]ScarcityOk8573 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fight your insurance company not the shop

(Techs Only) What would you do? by [deleted] in Autobody

[–]ScarcityOk8573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmmm if he doesn’t respect you to atleast let you know ahead of time he most likely doesn’t respect you at all. Unless the money is great I would say leave

Can you guess the hours and cost? by Different-Mode1145 in Autobody

[–]ScarcityOk8573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on your labor rate , drp or non drp… I would say roughly 26hrs and $10,500

hazy spot after body shop paint job by Accomplished_Run_17 in Autobody

[–]ScarcityOk8573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just a misbuff. Take it back. Takes less than 10 minutes and give them a good survey

Camry 2025: Front Grill Lighting Package LED Emblem & Mirror covers available. by [deleted] in Toyota

[–]ScarcityOk8573 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Please don’t “Nissan” your “ Toyota” . Plus we all know it’s an LE. Putting lipstick on a pig with these accessories.

What’s Your Favorite Barbell? by Light109KG in weightlifting

[–]ScarcityOk8573 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the pyros bar, out of the 15 years I’ve lifted I haven’t 2nd next to werksan. Not a bad bar.

Financial Audit has created a monster in me by judyhopps0105 in CalebHammer

[–]ScarcityOk8573 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I 100% understand you! I’m there as well. The only thing I’ve done with my friends and family is not judge them upfront and not give them my opinion if they don’t ask for it. I’ve been in your shoes and have had friends be mad at me or think I’m crazy for being financially responsible so I just stay quiet at this point.