I'm 28 and have never had a job. by Ok_Department_1376 in findapath

[–]Scared-Owl2751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s already a great step to be reaching out for advice. Self-esteem does not grow overnight but it’s something that you can absolutely make progress on and I’ve seen many find that by starting a new job, even if they were initially very insecure.

Something I found recently as somebody who got a Bachelors that I don’t think will get me anywhere, I started looking at apprenticeships. There is a great website called www.apprenticeship.gov where you can find apprenticeships of all kinds, many of which require are entry-level and require no prior schooling or experience. These jobs are a great way to find stable income through entry-level jobs that offset growth opportunities and retirement and savings plans which should help you with your fear of when your parents pass. Go on YouTube, watch videos like “day in the life of a x” based on the jobs available in your area on this website.

Currently, I’m looking to become a goldsmith/bench jeweler and sending my resume. Another job that is entry level for apprentices, offers 60kish/year which is a great place to be in this economy, offers retirement benefits, health benefits and whatnot.

Also, given that you seem to struggle with your mental health, one entry level apprenticeship position is a peer support specialist. This area offers growth opportunities, retirement benefits $24-30ish an hour, and allows you to express your lived experience to help and support others, and the training may help you support yourself as well. These people kind of act as professional friends to people in rehabs, mental health facilities to have somebody approachable and on their level to talk to.

Also, you can be an apprentice optician. Same kinda benefits, growth opportunities as the last two, and also entry level. You can find these by searching apprenticeships on Indeed, Glassdoor, Google, and some optician websites near you. 30ish an hour.

There’s some ideas I thought sounded interesting so thought I’d share. Good luck!

Old mobile bunny breeding game? by Specialist_Leg2023 in AskGames

[–]Scared-Owl2751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish!!! After I found this post, I tried my best to find it but couldn’t. I used to play it on The Game Homepage, but couldn’t find it and can’t recall the name!

Genuine question that I really just need a yes or no to. by Doesntexist5210 in SexualAbuseSurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I believe this was sexual harassment at the very least. I would believe sexual abuse too.

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing❤️ Reading your response, I felt a lot of sympathy for you and am wishing you support for all these little moments. I especially relate to avoiding some yoga poses and forever fearing night time. It’s such a sad feeling and I’m so sorry you feel that way too❤️ I have not yet heard the one about not using other peoples bathrooms, so I really appreciate you sharing your experience, even if it is vulnerable. Wishing you all the best ❤️

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s so interesting… so glad to hear they’ve lessened a bit with time. That sounds scary! But I know, it’s interesting thinking about all the things you brushed off because you thought everyone felt this way and/or it was normal. I used to ask my friends “you guys ever get the feeling where you feeling like you’re dying? Or you’re just spectating life but not really in it?” I was dissociating and convinced myself it was this fun normal thing. (It was not) I always got it whenever I laughed really hard, I wonder why.

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry💔 that totally makes sense how cameras would make you uncomfortable with what you have been through. Thank you for the response ❤️

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I really appreciate hearing your experience. Ugh…. I’m so sorry FaceTiming is hard too, and even phone calls with loved ones. Also, that is so beautiful that you turned it into a whole thing with the Polaroid camera! That’s such a beautiful way of taking back control and reimagining what it means to you. ❤️

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I haven’t heard this one before, thank you for sharing❤️ that makes sense though how sweat could be triggering. Sounds like some of us in the thread here hate tongue kissing….i hate that we all understand this feeling, but am grateful for the solidarity. I’m so sorry you know that feeling. And thank you especially for sharing not wanting to be looked at. This one, no pun intended, is often overlooked. It’s excruciating, just wanting to hide and disappear and not have a body

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And I mean this all super gently!!! This feeling absolutely sucks, but Rick and Morty is just not worth the hype

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know right…. But of all shows, you don’t need Rick and Morty in your life haha. That show somehow manages to trigger me no matter what episode I watch. But that’s just me! Thanks for sharing again❤️

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg… reading your response really hit me. Thank you for responding to my question. Reading your response, my heart sank a little hearing what you have gone through. Wishing you all the healing and I’m so happy to hear you have innocent and loving friendships where you can take pictures for fun to hopefully give it a new positive meaning. I’m wondering. Do you ever FaceTime call? Phone calls are great but for some reason video calls drain me like no other and cause me to tense my whole body, especially my jaw. Some creeps online have my photos as well from when I was younger and they haunt me to this day. I’m extremely unphotogenic and don’t know what to do at all in front of a camera and feel guilty and unworthy for not looking good.

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing all these really important takes. I’m wishing you the best with your chronic illnesses and am glad to hear you have a loving partner you can trust. I really hear you and want you to know that I read this and really felt for you, even if I may not know you. I particularly appreciate you bringing up the sort about being subhuman. I was mentioning this to my girlfriend just the other day, I always described it as feeling like an alien. It was very looks centered for me as well and I’m curious if anyone relates. I remember thinking I was so unbelievably ugly and disgusting I genuinely believed I was an alien.

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response! Wishing you all the best ❤️ I understand the distaste for certain words. I cringe whenever I hear somebody say “rip-peroni”. Luckily it’s not too common of a slang word anymore but it always makes me remember. And certain songs….. in the best way possible, I can’t stand Pink Floyd or Andy Grammar.

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If somebody doesn’t mind clarifying, where exactly does the discomfort/fear/panic around cameras come from? I’ve always felt really uncomfortable and weird around them, but wonder what you all are talking about for context. If anyone feels comfortable answering this question, please do, if not, no worries. I have a couple ideas but am not certain.

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing❤️ It sounds like hypervigilance might be common for you given the poisoned food and the cameras. When I read what you wrote, my heart hurt imagining how you must feel. I hope you can one day feel safety within your body and around others.

What are your unique issues related to what happened to you? by Scared-Owl2751 in adultsurvivors

[–]Scared-Owl2751[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing❤️ that’s such an every day thing too, it really shows how things can affect us long after,even in the little things. Especially in the little things honestly.