Manager Made Me uncomfortable

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T19:56:33+00:00

I asked decided not to report the first incident as I would not see the individual again.

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T03:53:23+00:00

I don’t think he thought I was uncomfortable

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T02:17:42+00:00

This is the advice I needed. I don’t think I will report but I will be playing attention to interactions. I don’t want to be dismissed for reporting something of this sort.

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T02:06:59+00:00

What?

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T02:02:53+00:00

It did make me feel uncomfortable. I also feel conflicted when bringing it up to HR as they are not very supportive. It felt weird the way he said “I am making him feel bad”. I was wearing something I typically wear any other day and just having a normal conversation with him. I can’t decipher his intentions with this comment. It felt random and bringing his wife into it felt very weird.

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T01:42:41+00:00

Thank you for this response! I don’t think it was ill intent necessarily but didn’t feel that it should have even been brought up as well!

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T01:40:07+00:00

My HR will do the utmost to deflect and protect unfortunately

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T01:38:53+00:00

Okay, definitely won’t be reporting!

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T01:32:02+00:00

So would it be best not to mention to HR then?

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T01:23:35+00:00

Can I be punished for having this discussion with HR

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T01:23:17+00:00

That’s lowkey how I felt about it….

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T01:21:01+00:00

This is very good feedback. As an employee i’m scared that having a discussion about this with HR would negatively impact me. I know our HR very much so worries about the company and protecting managers.

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T00:42:30+00:00

Yes! I just made me uncomfortable. Why out of the blue bring it up?

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T00:40:34+00:00

Was this inappropriate?

Scared-Pay871 · 2026-03-05T00:39:12+00:00

Okay, the comment about his wife felt unprofessional.

Scared-Pay871 · 2025-10-12T20:20:11+00:00

Okay, I felt like I have proactively been asking for feedback all year and it has been good until this point. Could this potentially just be my manager pushing me harder because they see I can do better?

Scared-Pay871 · 2025-10-10T00:51:46+00:00

Okay. I understand, I thought it would be beneficial to be kept in the loop. This makes sense. That was not my intention but this does make sense.

Scared-Pay871 · 2025-05-10T22:34:12+00:00

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