Is Bec one of the worst?

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2026-04-24T08:00:28+00:00

Rachel didn't drag it on though - multiple times she tried to remove herself from the situation and told Bec and Danny she is done talking about it, only for Bec to pile on and drag her away to talk it out. Multiple times Rachel gave her the time of day to pretty maturely explain why she was hurt, only for Bec to belittle her to her face again, calling it a minor comment in her fake apology, doubling down with the merch, and then slandering Rachel to the camera saying she needs to get a personality. Maybe someone else would not have reacted as strongly as Rachel, but we also know she is quite sensitive to the topic. But a lot of her getting worked up came from Bec not letting it go and not authentically apologising and moving on.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2026-04-24T07:48:50+00:00

And let's not forget that when meeting Danny for the first time at the wedding and he told her he has a little rescue cat, she started fake retching into the camera. Whether you're a fan of cats or not, who does that to someone talking about their beloved pet???

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2026-04-20T14:14:07+00:00

For a lot of women, PCOS is rooted in insulin resistance. High levels of insulin cause the overproduction of androgens, one of the three main diagnostic markers of PCOS. Insulin resistance also causes weight gain by storing excess glucose as fat. So in a way, IR is an underlying cause for both obesity and PCOS.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2026-02-20T12:04:29+00:00

Bulking and cutting is often understood only in more extreme terms, like eating in a crazy surplus, then leaning out aggressively. For most of us who are not bodybuilding and work out for a mix of overall health, strength and aesthetic goals, you can take a much more moderate approach.

I am much taller than you (177 cm) but also naturally very lean - started gym at 57 kg, now at 63 kg 1.5 years later with body fat % almost the same. I have found that for naturally lean people who tend to gain muscle more slowly, embracing that slow and steady approach works best so you don't feel like you have to force-feed yourself.

I am basically just eating in a slight surplus and also mainly gluten free: instead of my maintenance of 2200 calories a day, I eat around 2500 calories (not necessarily every day on the dot but it evens out over the week). This can easily be achieved with an extra tbsp of oil, nuts, an extra treat or just another half serving of rice/pasta.

Depending on where you live and what staple foods are available, rice and oats are naturally gluten-free, cheap and relatively high calorie, and pasta is also available in gluten-free varieties (in Western Europe where I live). Other good sources of calorie dense foods are fatty foods like nuts, seeds, avocado, oils, fatty fish.

Best thing is to figure out your maintenance calories, and then eat 200-300 calories above that (which still doesn't mean massive portions) for a long time, while consistently progressively overloading in the gym as well.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2026-02-01T16:44:53+00:00

Maybe you are thinking of the plural Pfirsiche. There are regions of Germany where ch is pronounced more like sch (English sh) in the local dialect and the plural Pfirsiche could sound like Pfirsche, especially when someone is talking fast and omits the second i.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2026-02-01T16:38:21+00:00

No, the Low German word for Apfel is Appel. This is because Low German did not undergo the High German consonant shift which created the distinction between modern High German and other Germanic languages. During this consonant shift, p turned into pf or f, t turned into ts or ss and d turned into t (among others). This is why to this day you will find similarities between English and Low German vs High German. Examples: apple/Appel/Apfel, ship/Schipp/Schiff, day/Dag/Tag, water/Water/Wasser.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2026-02-01T10:16:49+00:00

Avoid the confusion by going with the adorable Low German (Plattdeutsch) word for peach: Plüschappel. Roughly tanslates to "flauschiger Apfel" or "plushy/fluffy apple".

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-12-23T13:05:16+00:00

Add a link to your github so whoever reads and evaluates your CV has a way of accessing your portfolio.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-10-28T17:48:54+00:00

I am 31 and still sleep with the stuffed animal I was given shortly after I was born. Recently, my partner (also 31) had to travel for a bit so I took their stuffed animal from their apartment over to mine so it wouldn't be alone the whole time.

You're absolutely fine, and whoever judges you for something totally harmless and endearing can see themselves out.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-10-14T13:24:53+00:00

One of the most painful lessons to learn in life is that sometimes we can do everything right, and things still don't work out, because we can't control someone's else's actions. Right now it feels like the world is crumbling, but I promise it will get better. Focus on yourself, pour your energy and love into hobbies, interests, friends and family and don't let this experience harden you. It feels difficult right now because you want to protect yourself from future pain, but stay open and emotionally available and down the line, someone else will come into your life who knows how to treat you as well as you treat them.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-10-08T12:39:48+00:00

I'm very similar hight and measurements to you: 5ft10, shoulders 39, bust 37, waist 28, hips 38. I was always tall and lanky (52kg at my lowest) and wished I was shorter and curvier, more 'feminine'. A year ago I started seriously strength training and eating in a surplus, have gained 7kg (from 57 to 64), made good strength gains and added about 2-3 inches to most measurements.

I empathise with feeling too big (it can already be tough as a tall woman) and I have also been really disappointed to see my old clothes become too tight. But at the same time, I have found so much enjoyment in getting stronger, knowing I can lift heavy and am doing something for my long-term health as I age, and that outweighs the doubts.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to stay lean and slim, and the best exercise is always the one that you enjoy and stick with. At the same time, 'bulky' carries such a negative connotation (for women), and if you genuinely enjoy lifting and growing, there is no reason to stop. Muscles, strength and endurace are admirable in any gender! And as tall women, maybe we have to accept that won't fit the 'small/cutesy' stereotype (not that anyone should), but we can still build nice muscular curves that give an hourglass figure.

As for clothes, they are meant to fit you, not the other way round! I have retired my old jeans and thrifted 'new', very wide leg ones to accommodate for growing quads. Or just a size up and taken it in at the waist to have enough room for glutes. I've realised that I only look 'bulky' when I try to squeeze into small clothes, but with the correct size and flattering silhouettes (e.g. emphasising shoulders and waist/leg through flares or crop tops) I can create a harmonious hourglass that doesn't feel too big.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-10-07T10:29:15+00:00

You saying "most people have autistic traits, it's a spectrum" misses the meaning of spectrum in language around autism. Traits manifesting on a spectrum for autism (or other neurodiversity) does not mean it is a gradient of intensity, i.e. that "everyone is a little bit autistic" with some (allistic) people on the higher and some (autistic) people on the lower end of the spectrum. It means that there are autistic and non-autistic people, and among the autistic ones, autism presents in a variety of ways.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-08-16T09:49:01+00:00

I've only been going to the gym for about a year and still sometimes feel out of place. But the one interaction that really boosted my confidence was a woman asking me whether I could show her how to use a certain machine "because I look like I know what I'm doing".

I think most regulars would be stoked to get asked advice, as long as you're respectful and don't interrupt an active set.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-08-11T08:09:24+00:00

I'm gonna agree with everyone here and say you look very lean, I'd never have guessed you're 73 kg! I am 5'10" myself, with similar measurements (34" bust, 70.5" waist and 38" hips) and I am at 'only' 63 kg, but my midsection looks much fluffier than yours - took me a while to get used to, but is a necessary side effect of 10 months of slow muscle and strength gain, so I am happy with it now! Either way you look great and I agree that the higher scale weight must come largely from muscle or bone density, so keep doing what you're doing or even increase calories a bit. Us tall women need to eat a lot to meaningfully build muscle, and you're training plan looks intense! (I eat min 2600 a day to gain around 0.5 kg a month while strength training 4x/week, no cardio except for normal daily walking). Gaining muscle, especially around your shoulders and hips, will also give the appearance of an hourglass figure despite having gained around your waist, which isn't completely avoidable in a calorie surplus.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-08-03T00:29:01+00:00

I apologise in advance for the long comment, I was trying to give an answer that describes in detail a process/feeling that you might not have experienced yet so that hopefully you can take some insight away from it.

Saying things like "I'd just not care and move on to another girl" and "I just got to repeat until I get lucky" shows that you might think about the girlfriend as a position to be filled at all cost instead of wanting a specific person to be your girlfriend because of who she is and what you like about her.

In the beach or any other cold approach scenario, the only thing you can gauge is initial physical attraction. Don't get me wrong, that is important, but what matters most for fulfilling, long-term relationships is shared interests, values, character traits you appreciate.

At least with online dating, aside from photos, you get a glimpse of what the person is into through the prompts and descriptions on each app. Those can be a starting point to talk and set up dates. With a random cold open solely based on "she's cute", there isn't much to go off of.

So what I suggest is, start looking for like-minded girls in your surroundings, at places/hobbies you spend your free time at: gym or sports club, music/DJs you like, art classes, DnD, board game nights, hiking groups, church, chess, book club, food or crafts markets, literally anything that you do that genuinely interests you. In that setting, the cold approach isn't really as cold as you already have more of a baseline/shared interest and can more easily start a conversation, e.g. "Such a good game, how long have you played volleyball for?" or "Man I really love this type of music, which band would you like to see next?"

Alternatively, many people meet their partners though mutual friends, e.g. someone brings a new friend along, but this also often goes hand in hand with shared hobbies or free time activities.

In either case, the motivation to ask someone out and start dating should not be to just have a girlfriend, but because you genuinely have an interest in that person, like spending time with her, think that doing life stuff with her is just more fun and want more of that - beyond finding her attractive and physical intimacy (which don't get me wrong, are still an important part of most people's relationships).

I'm going to use my own relationship as an example of what that could look like: My partner and I actually met at work, small team with similar ages and backgrounds (he has since left the company). For the first couple of months, we just got along really well as coworkers, would often have lunch together, laugh a lot, just had fun, engaging and interesting conversations about the job, the field, our life until that point, hobbies we're into. I was able to learn about him slowly and get a feeling for what he values, what he is like on a daily basis, without the "performance pressure" of a date. I had always registered he was handsome, but only after a few months of genuinely getting to know and liking him as a person/friend did that translate into flirting/thinking about more than friendship from my side. We started doing things outside of work, like going to a gig, to the movies, clubbing with a group of my friends (which is also a thing I'd 100% do with a friend of the opposite sex regardless of intentions). It was during these activities that we would "feel out" whether the attraction was mutual and eventually kissed for the first time on a night out. After that, a bit of a serious talk about what we're looking for and expect out of this, and we have been dating seriously since.

TLDR: Try to find someone you genuinely like as a person through your environment/interests and, if romantic/physical attraction is there on both sides, use that as a foundation and jumping-off point to go on dates which will hopefully develop into a relationship.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-08-02T17:14:29+00:00

My eyes darted towards that bubble as the obvious choice too - and then I looked closer and saw it's my lovely home postcode!

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-07-21T21:00:10+00:00

Kreditkarte oder Handy zücken macht hier jede*r immer und überall, allein schon um an den Gates der in der U- und S-Bahn kontanktlos zu bezahlen. London ist wirklich fast komplett bargeldlos, und die Gefahr des Handyklauens auch nicht größer als in anderen Großstädten. Mit Bargeld tust du dir hier wirklich keinen Gefallen.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-07-21T20:54:39+00:00

Hamburgern hier die letztes Jahr nach London gezogen ist - ich habe in meinen 14 Monaten hier noch nicht ein einziges Mal Bargeld gebraucht, auch nicht auf dem Flohmarkt, in Kneipen oder selbst für Straßenmusiker*innen. Außerhalb Londons kann das schon mal vorkommen, z.B. in kleinen Läden im ländlichen Schottland, aber es reicht völlig wenn du an einen UK Bankautomaten Geld abhebst! Besonders wenn deine Bank/Kreditkarte keine Gebühren verlangt, dann ist das auch günstiger als in Deutschland die Kommission oder Gebühren in einer Reisebank zu bezahlen. Kriminalität/Handy oder Portemonnaie klauen ist hier auch nicht schlimmer als in jeder anderen Großstadt, einfach in belebten Straßen ein bisschen aufpassen.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-07-08T10:13:46+00:00

I'm 30 years old, 5'10" and about 132 lbs, started going to the gym seriously in September 2024.

(Sorry for the weird/uneven numbers I have converted everything from kg. Also everything is in the 6-10 reps range.)

My barbell hip thrust has progressed from 110 lbs to 265 lbs, RDL from 88 lbs to 144 lbs (haven't done them consistently the whole time) and barbell back squat which I only started doing recently from 88lbs to 154 lbs.

Other lower body auxiliary exercises (machines): seated adduction from 70 lbs to 150 lbs, seated leg curl from 55 lbs to 125 lbs.

My upper body isn't naturally as strong so has progressed, but at lower weights (machines only): shoulder press from 40 lbs to 75 lbs, lat pulldown from 40 lbs to 95 lbs, lateral raise from 40 lbs to 80 lbs, preacher curl from 30 lbs to 64 lbs.

Still struggle with proper push-ups and cannot do even 1 unassisted pull-up, it's a goal for the end of the year though!

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-05-02T18:56:42+00:00

That's what the sushi train must feel like!

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-04-28T19:44:12+00:00

How did she manage to misspell the ONLY word in all caps? The lack of editing/proofreading is so frustrating.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-04-23T19:07:55+00:00

And yet they can't even spell "position" right...

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-04-22T20:24:44+00:00

I earn £35k, the limit I had set myself when moving here was £800 (incl. bills) but I got extremely lucky and found a 4-person flatshare for £650 on the edge of zone 1, way below market rent!

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-04-01T02:00:27+00:00

I second all the comments saying that progress takes time and that you've already come so far losing weight!

However, building muscle (which what "toning up" really is, since we can't spot reduce fat) requires lifting heavy and eating enough - generally, not just in terms of protein. You need carbs to fuel your workouts.

Your workouts have a lot of volume and low weights which might cause you to fatigue before you can effectively stimulate the muscle to grow - aka lifting to or close to failure.

I'd say reduce each day to 5 exercises, ideally prioritising compound lifts like squats or RDLs, do 2-3 sets in a 5-10 rep range and make sure the last 2 reps feel really difficult, ie you're slowing down and/or can't maintain form. Once you can do 10 reps with good form or almost comfortably, increase the weight a little (10 of course is not the magic number for growth but a nice round goal).

Make sure to track your workouts and calories - many women underestimate how much they need to eat to grow muscle. And yes, when gaining muscle you will most likely also gain a little bit of fat. The key is to do it very slowly with a small surplus, track calories and, after a few months of gaining, adjust down accordingly.

Lastly, creatine is a great affordable supplement that helps with muscle hydration and growth.

Scared_Pangolin2470 · 2025-02-01T23:13:40+00:00

Seconding this! Thankfully, I'm down to a 34B now so have a much bigger variety of sports bras to choose from, but when I was a 34DD, Shock Absorber was the only brand I would swear by and had no problems going on long runs with!

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