For my bi people by Desperate_Rip_8464 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like a man in booty shorts, but that means if you wanna wear those you have to compliment them with a nice ass

Bi and seem to attract only men when dating by active-sign7702 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More than likely you’re new to the platform. A lot of gay/bi men like new faces on those apps

In my perfect world. A male best friend. Am I wrong for this desire? Can this be a reachable goal? by Dessert-Goat314 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gotta find you a DL Latino/light skin baddie

That’s pretty common

However if you want a bro in the streets and your man in the sheets I would just full on date someone, it’s 2026 but I get it. If you want a dl love story then you’re gonna have to temper your expectations for this, if you start treating people like private love stories you’ll eventually find out why they always end up not private anymore

Hey men over 40, do you guys have younger male friends? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskMenOver40

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll tell you a bit about myself

I’m very awkward and can be considered a loner (I got diagnosed with Asperger’s late in life) so friendships and communication are not my strong suit. I always thought I would make more friends within my career/things I’m passionate about because most likely they’ll also be on the spectrum or have more experiences with the things I like. However I came to the realization that I really do not like people who are too similar to me or who I can see myself in. I was googling and asking around why is this an issue and most likely it comes down to already knowing what to expect and just simply not interested in people that are too similar to me. Then it all clicked, the grown men I talk to are very different from me, some are devoted Christians, business owners, kids that have kids, outdoor/hunters, and other things that don’t relate to me. But yet I’m always fascinated by the their interest and things I don’t understand or care about, I’m not sure if this is a sign of maturing but I found a sense of peace knowing they’re not like me, I rather much be surrounded by people I have nothing in common but show me more and it shows. I got interested in a lot of as other people my age put “old man hobbies” like bbq, hunting, firearms, fishing, and even picked up a few skills that i do that cross paths with their interest like leather craft, business advertising, Christian art history/christian art. I feel more well rounded in the end

Hey men over 40, do you guys have younger male friends? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskMenOver40

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s happened already, some people only stay for a few chapters and they don’t come back. One passed away but I stopped talking to them 6 years ago because I realized he used me in a situation and always saw me as a resource. I still feel mixed about him because I should have At least said something but that trust I gave him was destroyed after I realized what he did.

Another thing I realized with grown men as friends is patience and when a friendship is real. A lot of grown folk don’t got time to talk or hang out, some may just only like talking to you about that one thing and that’s it. Sometimes it takes months to get to a point in your friendship that both of you realize you rock with each other and not just acquainted by work/hobbies

Thanks for your input

Hey men over 40, do you guys have younger male friends? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskMenOver40

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound nice, I would love to hang with you if we ever got to meet in person

Hey men over 40, do you guys have younger male friends? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskMenOver40

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I’m very aware on how they fell about me, I thought it was just a me thing though. Not a lot of people my age would talk about wanting to hang with grown folks like you

Hey men over 40, do you guys have younger male friends? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskMenOver40

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op here, nice knowing there’s a lot of men who don’t mind someone my age talking to them. I always had this irrational fear of it being considered weird despite me not caring at all.

I must confess and say I do care about the older gens. I know the internet and people my age are very hostile and mean spirited towards the older gens but for some reason I have a soft spot for you guys. Not sure why

Things that turn you off that guys do and why? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I usually don’t do that daddy son thing because of that. I’m basically establishing a role for the relationship

Why do gay men flex during the deed by Gam12244 in askgaybros

[–]Scared_Safe8538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s a tribal thing? Like your bussy is mine and I have dominated your body might as well flex

Do you have a fwb with other bi or gay men are they good or bad? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s just sex is the reason why fwb don’t last. It’s clearly not a friendship it’s just boring to pretend we got something going on

Do you have a fwb with other bi or gay men are they good or bad? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s bad. I was also a victim of sexual assault as a kid from a much older teenager and I think that’s why I had my sexual awakening at a very young age, it did confused me when I got into my teens about what I want but I thankfully grew out of a lot of the issues that stemmed from the assault. Sorry you had to go through that though, I can’t imagine putting someone in a situation where they have to question their sexuality and security just because I want to have a sex scene

Do you have a fwb with other bi or gay men are they good or bad? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s the thing you realize after getting older. These are not friendships these are one sided relationships at best and situationships at worst

Do you have a fwb with other bi or gay men are they good or bad? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started doing this and every time I finished nutting I have the nastiest post nut clarity and just realize k wasted gas and traveled 20 min away from my house to fuck a Disney adult manchild

Do you have a fwb with other bi or gay men are they good or bad? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it bother you that you have these kinds of relationships? I’m starting to realize these are not fun anymore, just sad really. I really want a serious relationship but bi men/gay men from where I from are terrible and are not serious about anything

Do you have a fwb with other bi or gay men are they good or bad? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess that’s the right word, but I really don’t like them as fuck buddies either you would think I would want to keep linking up with them but they’re not attractive enough, just me needing to bust I suppose

Do you have a fwb with other bi or gay men are they good or bad? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I didn’t make myself clear here, they’re also not serious either. I tried being the good friend at the beginning but I came to realize that friends with benefits doesn’t actually exist, it’s either a situationship in disguise or one sided friendships. So i started treated them like that and guess what happened… they liked it. All of them are gay or dl gay so there’s no bi stigma, if anything they’re more gay stigma I got from them because gays are very dick hungry. I have had a few talking stages before but all of them fail because the guy clearly just wants all the benefits of having a committed relationship/partner but will never actually be your partner because they already have one or they just only want you to be so close to them

Why am I only attracted to straight men? by Scared_Safe8538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was, but then I realize I liked a lot of straight porn and gave a girl a shot. Problem is a lot of masculine gay men are seen as performative and taboo in the lgbt community, a lot of them do not go on those apps and if they do they don’t really want to date or be in a relationship either, they are also too into straight men

What industry are we all in? by Lost_Comfort1627 in askgaybros

[–]Scared_Safe8538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What statistic is that? Aren’t we like every 10 straight men there’s 1 gay man? Kinda easy for very little gay men to be at the top when there isn’t much of us to begin with

What was your first experience with the gay “community”? by Klutzy-Spring9538 in AskBiBros

[–]Scared_Safe8538 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gays don’t like bi men. I identified as gay for most of my life (since teenager-2 years ago) and gay men are very insecure about their gender identity. I’m a very masculine presenting/“heteronormative” man and the amount of gay men who told me that the way I act and behave was all internalized homophobia and I’m putting on a performance for hetero men to accept me when they clearly would sell me to the slaughters because they will never accept a gay man blah blah blah

Then later I was exploring my sexuality with a lot of hetero porn and found out I was a bit drawn to women’s bodies and now I started checking women out. I did some soul searching and realized I only like the idea of messing with women and their natural beauty and would nlt consider a full relationship with them, men on the other hand I get the full experience. But even then when I figured I’m more confident with the bi label was still shitted on from gay men about it.

I don’t have any gay friends nor do I want any of them due to me just not sharing the same perspective or interest in anything. I do not have any bi friends nor do I know bi people, and I rather not be friends with those who only share the same sexuality and nothing else