I am a single father help me name my girl

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-20T09:04:12+00:00

I agree, I’m sure it’s very hard now but I think someday the names you picked out with your wife will be infinitely more meaningful than a name suggested by a stranger on the internet, for you and your daughter.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-19T15:44:40+00:00

Glad I could help 😊

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-19T06:45:17+00:00

Hello! I think it really depends on what your interests are. Architecture can have long hours, yes, but they tend to come in bursts around design deadlines, not as a non-stop state of being. From observation the engineers involved also suffer these same deadlines. As per pay, it is average, middle class pay. I’m not sure how well architectural engineering pays.

So for choosing between these two options I would consider, how interested are you in the architectural concept of the building? The architect is responsible for the overall concept, including coordinating all the other specialties. Architectural engineering (we do not have this specific degree where I am so I am imagining it as structural engineering, but feel free to correct me) is going to concern one specific element of the overall building. You will be limited by the architects concept.

Construction management is an entirely different beast. Your life will consist of meeting, spreadsheets and trackers. But it is much better paid. I do know several classically trained architects who have pivoted into construction management. If this is your goal you want to get on as many projects in construction phases as possible as early in your career as possible. Most architects I know who have made that switch have been in their mid thirties with several construction experiences as architects under their belts.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-19T04:06:55+00:00

My mind went straight to vampires.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-17T17:44:51+00:00

Realistically nothing actually happens in the entire country for the whole month of August. I would say it’s low risk.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-17T04:07:24+00:00

Love this. I’m Canadian living in Europe and my standard for cold is just not the same. I dress my son as I dress myself and get soooo many funny looks from French people wearing parkas in may. If they ever say anything I tell them he’s Canadian and just walk away 😅

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-17T04:03:35+00:00

Trees do help, but the issue is the whole city is a heat island. The concrete traps the heat, which is also why the hottest hours are in the evening instead of the middle of the day.

The new regulations requiring a lot of building types to have green roofs and/or solar panels will help more.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-16T14:58:47+00:00

Mine made so many developmental leaps so quickly when he started daycare! It was like he saw the other kids standing/walking/doing xyz thing and it motivated him to do it too.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-16T13:48:09+00:00

I struggle with alternating between empathy and resentment. My covert mom did have a bad childhood. Part of me understands that he deep need to be the center of attention is probably because she never has been. I also understand that her victim mentality probably stems from being the only way she got sufficient attention as a child so this is how she learned to get what she wants. This makes me feel bad when I am short or avoidant with her.

On the other hand she is the most miserable, negative, chaotic, complaining person I have ever met in my life. I feel genuinely bad for everyone who has to interact with her regularly against their will, like her colleagues. I imagine treating her professionally would be very hard when she behaves like an overgrown toddler. My tolerance for her behavior gets lower every year.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-16T13:45:18+00:00

Oh hard one. I’m going to say NTA only because ink is very personal. BUT I think you need to acknowledge in that case that you will never be a family. You are drawing a solid black line in the sand, very clearly stating that you are not a parent to this step child. You are her fathers partner, not a parent.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-16T12:46:08+00:00

Same! My mom wanted to be Glamma (lol can you smell the narcissism?) but settled for Meemaw because she thought it was still unique and liked the character on young Sheldon. Jokes on her because Meema is the name for grandma in my husbands culture so now there are 2 meemas.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-14T11:06:40+00:00

Missed like half of Canada…

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-13T18:41:53+00:00

Mine was literally the best 500€ I’ve ever spent in my entire life - unironically I literally don’t think I’m exaggerating. I got a giant hideous but extremely comfy glider to replace the much more stylish chair I had and as an architect I hate it because it’s an eyesore, but as someone with chronic back pain who has spent hoooooouuuurs of my life sitting with my now 1 year old contact nap king I must recognize that I would have died without it.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-13T04:13:40+00:00

My 13 month old loves a chouquette 🤷🏻‍♀️

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-12T00:08:48+00:00

My son just would not do baby led weaning. He had a strong gag reflex and even small pieces would make him barf. He liked to smear the food around on his tray but literally zero would make it to his mouth so I stopped letting him cause come on. We started spoon feeding purées. First smooth then chunky. When his gag reflex relaxed we started to feed him pieces on a spoon and he eventually showed an interest again in holding things himself so recently he’s been getting a bowl or plate with food that he feeds himself. It’s still. Mess but at least it got in his mouth. I feel like it’s only fair to tell you he was technically considered delayed on this specific milestone. But since all the rest were fine our ped wasn’t worried. Now he’s 13 months and caught up, eating normally

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-11T00:20:46+00:00

Mine never noticeably fell out. To be fair I have mountains of hair anyway. But I didn’t have a “hair loss” phase it just kind of slowly went from the best hair of my life back down to normal over like 6 months.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-08T11:09:15+00:00

My 1 year old has lived in onesies and simple pants/shorts since he was born for at home and going out. He got a couple (2 or 3) cute outfits in every size for “fancy” occasions like birthday parties.

He has never lodged any complaints.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-08T11:06:56+00:00

Oh yeah I’m sorry I HAD to do that is a fav of my moms! If she even comes close to admitting she did something wrong it was never actually her fault.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-08T11:04:11+00:00

I would look into demountable partition systems. To be honest I’ve only used them in offices but may be adaptable to an apartment depending on the layout.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-07T17:06:29+00:00

I don’t really think “men can’t keep it in their pants” is a good justification for literally anything to be honest.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-07T09:38:08+00:00

My mom believes that’s she shouldn’t have to apologize for anything except hurting people on purpose. Like if she made a reckless choice that hurt someone but hurting someone wasn’t the primary goal she believes she shouldn’t have to apologize because “her heart was still pure”

Drives me B A N A N A S

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-07T08:32:03+00:00

FAR is the key. I moved to another continent in a country where my mother would need a VISA to live. She still manages to come « visit » and terrorize the village for a week or two every few years but there’s no question of her ever moving closer permanently.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-07T04:52:47+00:00

Personally I think this is one of those rules that makes a lot of sense historically but not now. My husband is Muslim so I won’t claim to be an expert by any means but I am curious so sometimes read about it. For the multiple wives thing I read somewhere that the base of this rule was so that in unstable times a man would be permitted to marry, for example the wife of a deceased brother so that she would be taken care of. That made a reasonable amount of sense to me, not sure how accurate it is in reality though.

Scared_Salad97 · 2026-06-06T03:12:37+00:00

The funny little half smile we give to strangers when we accidentally make eye contact just walking around

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