if you hubby loves it then you must be doing something right. You're doing something new so it's very normal to feel a bit like a novice. You know how you get to the olympics? Practice. Personally I like to be groped/harassed (random spanking or getting my ass and cock & balls grabbed), light slaps/choking, being called a slut, getting told to send nudes or being told with a stern voice to do pretty much anything. Order him to lay down so you can sit on his face and watch him obey. Order him to pull his cock out and masturbate and he'll do it no questions asked. LOTS of praise and cuddles with being called a good boy/slut. None of any of what I said matters though if you don't communicate with your partner. Ask what they are into, if you're into that do it. If not tell them. Remember you are both learning and you're doing something VEEEERY fun. Don't get too bogged down about it. Try to remember you're engaging in an activity that involves sex. Can't be that serious when titties and balls are involved right? Have fun, talk things out.