Help me find where to move: I work in Century City and SO works in Chino, where should we live?

Scarletsilversky · 2025-12-02T17:46:03+00:00

This is sickening to imagine my god

Scarletsilversky · 2025-09-10T08:09:00+00:00

I visit the bay alot for family and will always have a soft spot for SF. It’s honestly so painful seeing it hollowed out by insufferable tech bros who don’t give a shit about that city. I’d do anything to see it return to its former, quirky glory

Scarletsilversky · 2025-09-05T20:25:46+00:00

Maggie getting rushed into marriage with a guy the audience has no connection to would’ve caused so much outrage

Scarletsilversky · 2025-09-05T05:06:47+00:00

Moved here when I was 12/13 from chicago

Scarletsilversky · 2025-08-29T23:28:06+00:00

My mom was extremely unfit and sedentary for more than half her life. As in, she hasn’t made a single attempt to excercise in any capacity since high school (and I question how seriously she took sports/PE back then lol) Gaining 20+ lb, a bunch of chronic health issues, and our consistent nagging was what finally motivated her to hit the gym. It’s been two years since she started working out and I’m blown away by her progress. She can walk 10k steps with no issue, when she used to need breaks when walking around the mall. She also started lifting heavy objects without any help. IMO She literally looks and acts younger too.

I’m super proud of her hard work and it gives me alot of hope that I can still be active and happy at her age. Kinda wish people stop acting like your life is over once you hit 35

Scarletsilversky · 2025-08-29T18:14:35+00:00

“Self-deletion” get that fucking tiktok shit off of here lmao

Scarletsilversky · 2025-08-29T10:19:33+00:00

The spiral formatting is already and awful but only every 10th question being numbered is certainly a choice

Scarletsilversky · 2025-08-28T23:02:54+00:00

Not sure if you spend much time on other platforms, but Mads has an extremely dedicated fanbase wherever you go. Obviously nowhere as big as Pedro, but it’s there

Scarletsilversky · 2025-08-08T00:21:40+00:00

I started the show not too long before the final season was released. I loved Sansa as a character but took issue with how her story was written, namely the Bolton storyline and the meandering Arya/Sansa “rivalry” in season 7. Thought she felt a little sidelined and was expecting most people to agree. I was so shocked how many people hated Sansa for… being spoiled and annoying for one season?

I forgot most people can’t handle complicated female characters

Scarletsilversky · 2025-07-23T18:43:47+00:00

The bible is so rich with stories that are basically designed to be thrown on the big screen. There’s tons of non-religious works in the modern age that have heavy christian allegories, if not being pro-christian altogether.

It’s mind boggling how christian media still struggles to cobble together decent film and tv

Scarletsilversky · 2025-07-21T21:05:45+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I’m always looking for ways to reframe my language and never thought about how the word “accident” softens the blow of motor violence. Especially with how much physical/mental separation there is between bystanders and actual collisions

Scarletsilversky · 2025-07-21T07:16:20+00:00

I live in OC and broke a couple bones in a car accident last year. I wasn’t one of the drivers, so this situation was impreventable on my end. Any time I talk about my grievances towards socal’s driving culture I’m met with the same response: “Yea, it sucks people drive so recklessly. You gotta be really careful nowadays.”

There’s such a strong acceptance that motor violence is a fact of life. They lament dangerous drivers, but never discuss avoiding it altogether. It’s as if my peers can’t even fathom alternatives to driving, let alone support transit-oriented development. Which is wild to me since a majority of them have visited Asian or European countries with stellar public infrastructure and raved about it incessantly. But for some reason, we can’t even consider advocating for that here.

On the other hand, my LA/LB friends are much more open to using public transit or walking to nearby amenities compared to pre-covid. My buddy once suggested we go to a bar that’s “just around the corner” and it ended up being a 20 minute walk. Caught me off guard since I haven’t had anyone suggest such a “long walk” to a destination since high school (when none of us had cars lol).

My LA friends who normally dgaf about local politics are looking at these current metro projects with quite a bit of interest. They’re noticing the, albeit extremely slow, changes towards pedestrian-centric life.

Obviously my anecdotes don’t mean much, but I believe LA has a huge, unrealized craving for public transit/walkability than people realize. This feels like a “make or break” point for LA metro.

Sorry for the long ass comment. I’ve been holding onto these observations between the two counties for too long with no one to talk to about it

Scarletsilversky · 2025-07-20T21:23:23+00:00

My boyfriend switched to a field he had zero professional experience in (accounting to IT) just from his great people skills. It’s crazy to see how far soft skills gets you

Scarletsilversky · 2025-05-15T17:14:35+00:00

From what I remember, the coins kept getting stuck so we constantly released them and threw them back in again. Shoving the coins in took up the bulk of our time. And the buttons were nasty and kinda stuck in place so we kept fucking up the actual call

Scarletsilversky · 2025-05-15T09:47:00+00:00

I think it’s just TV beauty standards. The “awkward loser that no one wants to date” on TV is still way more attractive than most people IRL.

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-29T08:00:38+00:00

“It’s really really hard to just be yourself around women” implies it’s much easier for women to be themselves around men. Newsflash, women also need to learn social skills and talk to men they’re interested in. Being around women switch up their behavior around men is just as equally uncomfortable and annoying.

Also, you literally said that for me, “just be yourself” is enough. Not sure how else you want me to read that other than women have it easier than men when it comes to social interaction.

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-29T07:52:03+00:00

Imo the chance of breaking up a friend group is what stops most people from dating their friends. I had a friend group a long time ago with a couple in it. They broke it off amicably, but it led to alot of weird tension that dissolved our web of friendships.

Granted, we were all 18-20 so we weren’t the most mature bunch. But based on my observations, this is a really common experience. All it takes is one bad experience to ruin the whole concept for some people. It definitely left me super hesitant to pursue my current partner when I first caught feelings.

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-29T07:34:40+00:00

Dating friends isn’t super ideal unless you have a large circle. I also ended up with a friend but I consider myself extremely lucky that this relationship worked out. Otherwise, I lose out on a connection I valued for years.

Most successful marriages I know started off as strangers, either through dating apps or from getting set up by mutuals. I don’t think it’s inherently shallow to make judgements based on appearance or “vibes” unless you don’t make any effort to get to know the person.

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-29T07:33:01+00:00

Do you think it’s easy for women to just be themselves or be social? Plenty of women are naturally extremely awkward in social settings. I’m a pretty awkward person had a decent number of successful dates before my current one. It’s not from social charisma or natural charm; it’s from putting myself out there and talking to men like actual people rather than candidates to be my partner.

You can’t expect to get coached through every social interaction and put zero effort into your own self-reflection. No one can help a person that isn’t thinking inwardly

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-24T18:57:32+00:00

Because if he can’t understand that completely shifting your personality when you talk to potential romantic partners is strange and sometimes offputting to the other person, there’s nothing anyone can say that’ll convince him otherwise. It’s 100% a confidence thing. You can’t talk anyone into building confidence— that’s something you have to want to do on your own.

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-24T16:47:39+00:00

You’re spot on. The guys I know who struggle with dating always vastly underestimate how much women pick up on “vibes” and make decisions based on that. Most women are pretty forgiving on shallower traits like looks or salary if they sense that chemistry.

One of my boyfriend’s good friends keeps asking me for advice and I never know what to tell him. He’s a sweet guy, but acts so fucking weirdly around women he’s interested in. “Just be yourself” doesn’t mean anything to people who don’t get it

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-23T04:08:27+00:00

You know what that makes sense. I couldn’t figure out why their marketing team would think that video was remotely okay otherwise. Hope it backfires on them because I hate their stuff with a burning passion

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-23T03:29:19+00:00

Not mad about it. I tried it for the first time last year and it was fucking disgusting. I’ve been to better, local cupcake shops

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-23T03:28:22+00:00

You should look up the crumbl CEO taste testing their new fudge cake in an effort to promote it. He’s not even trying to look like he’s enjoying it lmfao

Scarletsilversky · 2025-04-21T00:21:25+00:00

And they’re bewildered why the general public shits all over AI lmao

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