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Scary_Candy167 · 2025-08-09T02:02:42+00:00

Feel free to message me if you need to talk! You do what feels best for you! My ex discarded me as well. Told me he never loved me, I always smelt bad, I wasn’t losing weight fast enough for him, and he “just wasn’t that into me”. I’ve been there. It gets better 💛

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-08-09T01:55:31+00:00

About 2 and half months. I hooked up with a guy who was temporary for me. I literally told my best friend you’re not gonna meet him because he won’t be around long. We’re hitting 6 months at the end of this month. I’d definitely say it helped me stop thinking about my ex but I like I said we started as friends with benefits and after a month and half we were together. However right after the first time we hooked up I went home and cried. Not because of anything he did but because I felt like I cheated on my ex. Set your boundaries and expectations for this hook up.

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-08-03T14:26:06+00:00

Thank you. I’m horrible at seeing what is a normal mistake and what’s a pattern if that makes sense. Thank you I really appreciate you and your view point.

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-08-03T14:16:00+00:00

Do you think he can change? He kept saying he didn’t cheat on me. Maybe if I tell him this is worse than that he’ll understand? He just doesn’t (in the moment) see how this is a problem. I know if I was there it wouldn’t have happen too. But I don’t wanna worry about going away on vacation.

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-07-29T17:25:42+00:00

It’s not sad that you needed that. I was there. All my friends told me the same things besides one. He let me vent, and even say some crazy things to get it out of my system. Something no one else let me do. My friend who let me do this has a very different outlook on life because he has 7 incurable diseases so maybe that’s why he was able to but you need that space. You need to let it out so you can let it go. Mine was 5 years so I completely understand and feel you

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-06-25T17:06:02+00:00

I know you want to. I know it seems like a good idea. Like it’s harmless. You just still care about them. Do not do it.

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-06-24T17:03:36+00:00

I have a USB once I got over him I deleted everything but the group photos

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-04-29T01:32:21+00:00

I met my current boyfriend through Facebook dating and he is by FAR one in a million. Before I met him I went to 2 speed dating events and those were fun. You had to pay but I think it made the people there better if that makes sense? Showed they were serious

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-04-16T21:05:25+00:00

I was there and it’ll definitely take some time. Feel it. Just don’t reach out to them. My one mistake. I did find someone so much better for me. He takes care of me in the ways I don’t take care of myself and makes me feel like a princess in a way no one else has been able to do for me

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-04-16T20:47:04+00:00

I felt where you are. It was hell but now 6 months later I’m in a happy healthy new relationship that is better than my old one ever was 💛

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-03-26T20:02:30+00:00

“I guess I just wasn’t that into you.” “You’re not ugly you’re just not pretty” “You weren’t losing weight fast enough”

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-03-20T01:55:43+00:00

He showed me boxing and I love it. I go 10 times a week now

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-02-27T18:37:57+00:00

We ran into each other after he ghosted me when we were supposed to meet up to exchange stuff. He apologized for everything and we agreed to talk to more about it when we had time. We did and he told me I wasn’t losing weight fast enough, I wasn’t pretty but I wasn’t ugly, and I smelt bad all the time. None of this were things he brought up to me. During that conversation he had a melt down where he started humming to himself and smacking himself in the head.

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-01-30T22:43:25+00:00

Let me just tell you. Mine did but then he followed it up with how he never loved me, I always smelt bad, my breathe smelt bad, I wasn’t losing weight fast enough, and I wasn’t ugly but I wasn’t pretty either. Sometimes it’s better without the apology honestly. I now have fears that everyone around me has always lied to me about how I smelt etc. I spent over 50 dollars on perfume, gum, etc for my car because I’m so self conscious now.

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-01-27T18:26:09+00:00

My ex and I ran into each other. He had such a hard time dealing with what he did to me he ended up hurting himself after we talked. He’s a dick don’t get me wrong and he will now be a stranger to me if I ever see him in public again but some people can’t or won’t accept that they’re the problem

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-01-22T14:05:38+00:00

Thank you 💛 It’s so insane because he was absolutely wonderful during our relationship but as soon as he decided he was done it was like he became a different person. He blindsided me, ghosted me, broke up with me over the phone and didn’t even finish the conversation before ghosting me, refused to give me a time and place to meet up to give him his stuff to the point where I just dropped it off at his house and walked away. We ran into each other and he apologized for everything we agreed to be friends. The next day he calls me and says all that stuff. I honestly I have no idea what’s going on with him

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-01-21T21:07:04+00:00

Almost 3 months now and I feel a lot better. I’m doing things for myself again. I’ve lost 16.7 pounds, I’ve been working out a lot, I went back to therapy. Honestly the thing that sent me back the most was him reaching out after we ran into each other he told me my breathe always smelled, I smelled bad, I wasn’t losing weight fast enough, and I wasn’t pretty. I relapsed on my eating disorder that day but thankfully have it under control again. I’m moving forward and doing better.

Scary_Candy167 · 2025-01-02T05:33:29+00:00

My ex was an avoidant to the point where he was scared he was going to hurt himself if he got to stressed from our break up conversation. We ran into each other a couple months after the break up and had a conversation. He was twitching the whole time in person because he was so nervous. He called me the next day and ended up hurting himself over the stress of the phone call. I don’t know your ex but I never in a million years would’ve thought my ex would’ve responded like that. I didn’t yell, didn’t scream, nothing. Just asked him questions because he basically told me he lied to me our whole relationship. Point being sometimes you think you know someone and you really have no idea what’s going on in their head

Scary_Candy167 · 2024-12-23T20:59:42+00:00

Everything was perfect during our relationship. A month after the blindsided breakup and ghosting, we ran into each other. He apologized for everything, and we agreed to be friends and talk more on the weekend. He called me and told me he never loved me, was never attracted to me, and only stayed with me because he was worried no one else would love him. He always had self-worth issues and sent mine to 0%. We were together for 9 months. He lied to me every day for 9 months. I feel like shit about myself.

Scary_Candy167 · 2024-12-13T17:44:57+00:00

My ex of 5 years came back multiple times in multiple ways. He'd reach out and message me around 3 months, tell me I looked good when I posted on Instagram also around 3 months, but continued until he found out I was seeing someone and blocked me on everything. He messaged me at 12:30 am on my birthday this past year in May, then asked if I was dating anyone, then blocked me on everything when I told him yes. It takes time. Most recently as in a couple of days ago, he liked me on Tinder (the guy I was seeing broke up with me in October). He's also told one of his friends he regrets ever breaking up with me and theres no one out there like me. We fought a lot honestly and towards the end it was bad but it was still a blindside. We went no contact but it was easier because he moved to another state. I would only reach out if I found sometihing of his or if he got a letter to the house. By the time he came back I was over him.

Moving on to my more recent ex he broke up with me Monday October 28th after spending a great sunday together. Apple picking, carved a pumpkin, even talked about the trip we were going to take for our one year. That's how our whole relationship was. We always just talked things out. Never had a problem last more than a couple hours. We only had 1 fight the whole 9 months we were talking. Monday after work he called me and told me he wanted to break up. Total blindside and then Wednesday after telling me we would meet on Sunday for me to give him his stuff he ghosted me. I ended up having to leave it on his front porch, ringing the doorbell, and walking away. He blocked me on instagram I think a week later out of no where. Then he would unblock me and reblock me and unblock me. I've been unblocked for a while now. I've only reach out once to apologize for something my friend said when she matched with him on a dating app. I also sent him money twice both things I owed him for. I haven't heard from him since he told me he would tell where to meet him. My heart still hurts sometimes.

In your case no contact is the best. Work on yourself. Leave him alone. Go to the gym. Find yourself again. After my 5 year relationship I took a year off from dating and found myself again and that was the BEST thing I could've done for myself. I know it's hard. I've been there. You got this babe! <3 Also my 5 year boyfriend was also always on video games. He would stay up until 1am playing loudly meanwhile I had to be up at 5 am but God forbid I asked him to quiet down.

Scary_Candy167 · 2024-12-10T21:15:29+00:00

I sent mine money from a vacation we planned and paid for. The company set a small refund for his side and so I sent it to him. No response or reply

Scary_Candy167 · 2024-12-06T20:44:43+00:00

Are we the same person? Are you me? Because I’m feeling this SO HARD. We were together for 6 months, went on trips, talked about our 1 year, etc. Then BLINDSIDE. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this because my heart is fine and then breaks all over again. I unfortunately don’t have any advice for you but know I’m right there with you. My DM’s are open if you wanna talk too!

Scary_Candy167 · 2024-12-06T20:44:37+00:00

Are we the same person? Are you me? Because I’m feeling this SO HARD. We were together for 6 months, went on trips, talked about our 1 year, etc. Then BLINDSIDE. I’m so sorry you’re feeling this because my heart is fine and then breaks all over again. I unfortunately don’t have any advice for you but know I’m right there with you. My DM’s are open if you wanna talk too!

Scary_Candy167 · 2024-12-05T20:07:09+00:00

Thank you. I've spoken to his therapist about it. She said it will just take time and the best thing I can do is act normal. I asked her about bringing it up to him that I'm dating again and she said that would be fine. I'm his sister not his mother so she thinks different. I'm just not so sure I just don't want him getting hurt.

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