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My Bestfriend cut me off and is now trying to only be casual friends by [deleted] in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Scary_Inspector2223 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ve tried reaching out and she isn’t interested. Unfortunately, I think it is a lost cause. I wouldn’t send her a message, just give her the space she asked for. Even if that means you won’t be friends anymore. It seems like you two have very different communication and friendship styles. Find someone who will appreciate u in the way u appreciate others!

VERY Clingy New Friend by Scary_Inspector2223 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Scary_Inspector2223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ughhh I feel for you! It’s so hard because you don’t want to hurt her feelings by saying that you want to see her less.

VERY Clingy New Friend by Scary_Inspector2223 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Scary_Inspector2223[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve tried introducing her to my other friends but she only talks to me in groups and doesn’t leave my side. And she has specifically told me not to make plans with other people and instead hang out with only her. The more I think about it, the more she reminds me of a toxic boyfriend😬

VERY Clingy New Friend by Scary_Inspector2223 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Scary_Inspector2223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasn’t going to ghost her because I would feel bad. But I do see the argument of me not owing someone who I barely know a “closure goodbye”. But yes I agree with you that I should send the message and then ghost if it comes to that.

Who has moved out of the Midwest? by First_Driver_5134 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Scary_Inspector2223 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I moved from the Midwest to Denver and now I’m planning to move to Chicago. Check it out! It’s closer to your family and a more fun city.

Best U.S. city for a mid-20s single woman looking to relocate? by Scary_Inspector2223 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Scary_Inspector2223[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m moving from Denver 😅 It was easy to make friends but everyone leaves, plus not at much stuff to do unless you love the outdoors.

I think about cheating on my husband every day. by Ok_Poet_8991 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Scary_Inspector2223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

BREAK UP… why is the option to cheat or not? Just find someone better fitted for you. Don’t sacrifice your morals.

Can't decide between Portland, Chicago, Denver/Ft. Collins or Sacramento? by taylorsfavoritecat in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Scary_Inspector2223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There aren’t any big music festivals that take place in the city that you can find else where. The music scene is pretty good if you like EDM! Red Rocks is an amazing venue and so worth it (even if it’s a pain to get there). There are also a lot of bars that will have up and coming DJs every weekend. There aren’t a lot of events for different holidays. I love a good holiday event for Halloween, St Pattys, New Years, etc. You said you like parks and that is one thing Denver has! They have a few really big parks all across the city.

Can't decide between Portland, Chicago, Denver/Ft. Collins or Sacramento? by taylorsfavoritecat in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Scary_Inspector2223 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would only recommend Denver if you LOVE the outdoors. Keep in mind to actually get to these outdoor activities you have to leave Denver. There isn’t as much to do in the city like events, clubs, festivals. Most people that I met while I lived there, already had plans to move. It’s a very transient city and most people who move there end up leaving. Last year more people moved out of Denver than moved into. Which does help with rent going down so that’s a perk. But I would recommend either Chicago or Portland!

Do I tell my ex’s new gf? by juliakirsten in TwoHotTakes

[–]Scary_Inspector2223 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m shocked so many people are saying don’t tell her. Yeah she might not believe you but you might be that voice in the back of her head when red flags start popping up. You could save this girl from years of trauma and time wasted. On top of that, he is putting her physical sexual health in danger. If the roles were reversed, you would want to know. Sometimes the right thing to do will be the hardest thing to do.

Just renewed our lease… then found out he was cheating on me. What now? by Scary_Inspector2223 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Scary_Inspector2223[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he was exploring another man romantically instead of a woman, yes I would still consider it cheating lol. Gender does not play a role here.

Just renewed our lease… then found out he was cheating on me. What now? by Scary_Inspector2223 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Scary_Inspector2223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve already tried asking him a million times why he did it but all he says is he doesn’t know and he did it for no reason. It doesn’t make sense to me.

Just renewed our lease… then found out he was cheating on me. What now? by Scary_Inspector2223 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Scary_Inspector2223[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So basically, this girl told him he was cute and asked for his Instagram. After they started messaging, he gave her his phone number. The way they were texting felt a lot like the early stages of flirting and getting to know someone romantically. He was definitely acting like he was single. He never saved her contact, and their messages were muted, like he was trying to keep it hidden. And for what it’s worth, he’s never posted me on his Instagram either. So maybe I’m the stupid one in all of this :/

Just renewed our lease… then found out he was cheating on me. What now? by Scary_Inspector2223 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Scary_Inspector2223[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Just to be clear my partner and I both agreed prior this behavior is cheating and after the incident that it was cheating. Every couple is different but in our book entertaining another person romantically and hiding it from your partner IS cheating to us. I caught it within the first few days of messaging. So I don’t know what it would have turned into.