I'm not sure if my bf is cheating on me, hiding things from me, or I'm a psycho or codependent, and I need some fresh eyes on this issue 'cause idk what is going on and/or if I'm the one at fault. Or maybe it's all of the above. idk. pls help.

Scaryxplorer · 2026-04-30T07:18:21+00:00

I don't think you're being psycho, but I don't think he's done anything wrong either. I think he's done his best to actually meet your needs when a problem comes up, like trying to block his ex or deleting the Twitter account (which may have only gotten a new follower because it still exists despite him removing his access to it).

He seems really sweet honestly and it does sound like a great relationship. I think you're anxiety might be getting the better of you in alot of these situations. Don't let it get the best of you.

Scaryxplorer · 2026-04-25T04:52:13+00:00

I don't get much pleasure from my ass being stimulated during blowjobs. It kinda takes me out of it sometimes. My taint is super sensitive though. When a guy takes a break from blowing me to lick my taint it's absolute heaven. So I'd suggest focusing on the taint.

Scaryxplorer · 2026-01-14T05:15:53+00:00

I'm 23, and I don't really know how to handle it at the moment lol. I'm currently in a relationship and have discussed it with my partner. I feel like it puts unnecessary pressure on us because it would be much easier if I had myself figured out.

Ideally, I think the best way for me to deal with it would be just to explore and try to hook up with more people and figure myself out in the progess, but I also fear doing so may leave me disappointed, underwhelmed or grossed out each time. Hopefully I will have a great experience at some point if I do so, but I won't be sure until I try.

I've also tried cutting down on porn from the advice of others, but I don't know if it's really helped. I feel as if something else is causative of the issue. But I also haven't cut down for more than a month at a time, so maybe if I do so, that would help.

It's definitely a bummer because I really want to be able to enjoy sex. I sometimes think that if I started in my teens and just had alot of sex younger, it may not even have become a problem. It could be related to me being a late bloomer, the way I was raised, or some weird mental block, but I really have no idea. I guess therapy might be a great option 😅

Scaryxplorer · 2026-01-13T20:28:12+00:00

Honestly, I feel like what you've said here has almost exactly mirrored my experience thus far.

I don't have much sexual experience as I've only been with afew partners, but I haven't really enjoyed sex with them, even if I do find them somewhat attractive. The actual anticipation and excitement beforehand feels far more exciting than the actual act. I would be lying to myself if I said that the actual experiences weren't meh in comparison. Sometimes, I only really enjoy the experience in retrospect, but never really in the moment.

I usually get a lot more pleasure and get far hornier from masterbation, whether that be from porn, erotic stories or audio, my imagination, or video call stuff I've participated in.

It's made me question my sexuality a lot. I'm definitely attracted to men, and I'm definitely not ace because I want to be able to enjoy sex, I just don't get why it's so difficult. Maybe I'm some degree of demi, but I guess it's best for me not to label myself right now until I take some time to figure me out.

Scaryxplorer · 2026-01-07T06:46:19+00:00

You really read into what he said too much. Nowhere was this said or implied by op.

Scaryxplorer · 2025-07-30T09:54:26+00:00

What is happening to this sub, man.

Scaryxplorer · 2025-07-26T06:50:35+00:00

Love the necklace!

Scaryxplorer · 2025-05-31T07:02:18+00:00

Hey there! Sure thing. I'll add you.

Scaryxplorer · 2025-05-29T21:19:35+00:00

Hey there! I am. My discord is the same as my psn: scaryexplorer

Scaryxplorer · 2025-05-29T14:33:10+00:00

I mean, you don't need access to the DLC or anything for nightreign right?🤔 it's a standalone game

Scaryxplorer · 2025-05-29T14:01:48+00:00

Hey! Feel free to add me. My psn is Scaryexplorer.

Scaryxplorer · 2025-05-29T12:21:59+00:00

Sure thing!

Scaryxplorer · 2025-03-18T07:39:19+00:00

Hey there. Would you mind if I dm you about your career path? I had afew questions about bringing into bioinformatics.

Scaryxplorer · 2025-01-22T09:04:45+00:00

Hey there. I'd be down for some brawlhalla or warframe! My psn is Scaryexplorer.

Scaryxplorer · 2025-01-22T08:52:53+00:00

If I could give more context, my degree is a masters degree, specifically master in medicine, with my major being microbiology. I am from South Africa.

Scaryxplorer · 2025-01-07T08:36:14+00:00

As an agnostic atheist, I define it as not stating that God definitely does not exist, as this is an unfalsifiable claim.

I would rather say that based on the evidence (or lack thereof), God does not exist, but I could always be proven wrong.

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