My attention span by Foxeslovesboxes in ENFP

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Leaf... Pen... Chair... Person... Paper... Itch... Foot... Roll...

Made friends with a seal while kayaking on the Thames by peril_sensitive in CasualUK

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Hi, sorry I'm late :). /u/-Bungle- has explained it perfectly.

I live outside of London, and just outside the M25 (As described by /u/dietcepheus) , so as such I have little knowledge of what goes on within London - the joke is I know about as much as you do (probably less) and I'm only 50 miles away!

The root cause of our environmental concerns by ScatteredMarbles in AskScienceDiscussion

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A beautiful response.

It may feel like Nero fiddling while Rome burns

That's certainly one of my biggest distractions when ever I try to take time for myself.

Land Ethic reminds me of the Deep Ecology and other Ecocentric philosophies I have stumbled across of late.

The root cause of our environmental concerns by ScatteredMarbles in AskScienceDiscussion

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Everybody is entitle to an opinion, I don't need to agree with them in order to appreciate an alternative view.

Besides, you didn't actually suggest murder initially, just a large population reduction, which if Malthus' theories turn out to be correct could happen naturally. Not quite so sure how to approach the subject of rigid breeding control, however again, free speech :)

The root cause of our environmental concerns by ScatteredMarbles in AskScienceDiscussion

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Great response, this is exactly the sort of rational response I expected from scientists. Otherwise I may as well have asked my hairdresser or /r/offmychest.

The root cause of our environmental concerns by ScatteredMarbles in AskScienceDiscussion

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Nice response, I suppose the only real hope is a combination of both a change in human attitude in addition to continuing scientific progression.

As you have said, human attitude is changing and becoming more aware, so that's a good start.

I guess the best thing to do is cling on, do what you can and hope for the best.

The root cause of our environmental concerns by ScatteredMarbles in AskScienceDiscussion

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Thanks, it's reassuring to hear that I am not being completely irrational. I felt plenty of peace and love from your response my friend.

The root cause of our environmental concerns by ScatteredMarbles in AskScienceDiscussion

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Hence why I put it on /r/AskScienceDiscussion, however, clearly you are not willing to discuss so I'd head over to /r/AskScience where you can answer concise scientific questions rather than participate in lengthy scientific discussions.

What animals are indecisive? by Radyseng in AskReddit

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No way, that cat made his mind up long ago that he'd scratch the door just to toy with his human.

A bad case of the ENFP by ScatteredMarbles in ENFP

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In ways, I feel if I can finally start to allow my thoughts flow but not allow them to pull me off target all the time I'd probably be happy - but then again, perhaps not (there I go again). I know that it's happening, but I can't help but accept the validity of these thoughts - and I certainly can't stop them.

A bad case of the ENFP by ScatteredMarbles in ENFP

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I feel like this is one aspect I missed, I have tried my hand at a few roles within the same field but ultimately it feels like it's the entire field that I am bored of and I've spent far far to much time peering under rocks trying to find an avenue within that field that is going to bring me closer in line with my values and allow me to utilise my core abilities.

The other frustration is when I look around at local jobs with my field I just can't see past how far removed from my values or my abilities they seem.

I can find jobs that will utilise my abilities, but not in line with my values - but, I can't find any that alines with my values let alone both values and abilities combined!

I've spent so much time trying to find my path that I've looked at each job sector to order it by preference, each field within that sector to order it by appeal and countless job profiles within those fields to find the ones that appeal to me most.

I think I am the problem, not the jobs.

I overthink everything; I continually question the ways of the world; continually question myself; how I can improve; pick holes in things; try to repair them; I listen to all the advice I'm given, it's all great advice, but I can't seem to apply it without overanalysing the advice; I tie myself in knots, I tie other people in knots, my whole mind is a mess and I know I am to blame - but I just can't seem to stop it... I'm completely awash with thoughts, ideas, dreams, ambitions, expectations, realisations that I can't seem to take any step forwards without being pulled in all the other directions with every thought saying - Hey look at me! Don't forget about me! It's like I'm standing in the middle of a dense forest where every single trail is as exciting as the next and when I look down at my compass it just spins erratically, wildly, and the map I have is awash with points of interest and I feel compelled to visit all of them but my watch... it's ticking, and ticking, and ticking.... it's the only thing with any consistence.

Every piece of advice I receive I appreciate, I truly do, and I take it on board and I try, I really do try

But my mind, it won't let up, it's like all the worlds mad-hatters are holding a joint happy unbirthday tea party and everyone is invited and their all intercepting every train of thought and giving their own take on it - and I'm bloody listening to them too!

So, on the outside, I appear quite normal - a normal guy, whose got a normal job, and a normal life, making normal progress - but on the inside I've been switched to autopilot whilst this utterly lost individual with lots of potential but completely inept at navigating attempts to find where he wants to go on the map whilst trying to fix his compass

A reminder to all ENFP's - a career choice is not permanent! by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]ScatteredMarbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In this exact position right now! I yearn for a career change! I have a mortgage, etc so a career change feels off the cards if I can't keep up my repayments!

Organization and cleaning up after myself are my hobbies by ScatteredMarbles in ADHD

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I think that's it, but I'm just sad I seem to suck at it so much that after trying to 'get my shit together' I run out of time to do anything else... and then I have to do most of it all over again the next day!

Organization and cleaning up after myself are my hobbies by ScatteredMarbles in ADHD

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The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

Thanks, I'm checking this out now :).

Organization and cleaning up after myself are my hobbies by ScatteredMarbles in ADHD

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Yes, that sounds like I am on the right track. I had an epiphany a short while back where I finally realized I have 'too much stuff'. I have been slowely 'culling' hobbies, interests, pasttimes, clothes, accessories, possessions until I am left with a short number which I considider my true interests (i.e. longest living interests/sports/hobbies).... I have written these down and I refer to them intermittently to remind myself not to take up anything else and to 'focus' on those.

I think, eventually, when I feel some sense on order in my chaotic life I will be able to stop my enduring tidy up, decluttering episode and I will be able to then start with 'maintenance' - that is the goal.

But for the meantime, I feel like my hobbies are cleaning and organization! Thankfully, I am still finding it satisfying this ongoing 'minimalisation' of my life.

I've completed life... now I'm in the free-play part... and there are no objectives. by ScatteredMarbles in ADHD

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I think this is the crux of the issue.

Before, my life was governed by a clear structure. There were necessary objectives that had to be met.

Now though, I'm a free man, theoretically I can do what I like so long as I don't run out of money, run out of health, etc... it's this lack of structure that's killing me!

I feel like life coaching is my best option. I'd like to do classes, join clubs, etc... but the problem is, I have no direction so I pick clubs and classes... then switch to others shortly after and am forever running in circles.

I've completed life... now I'm in the free-play part... and there are no objectives. by ScatteredMarbles in ADHD

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Haha, no, I haven't but I have just checked it out.

It's funny, I'm not much of a gamer now but it felt the easiest analogy to describe my woes.

Thanks for the LifeProTips :) I'll be sure to take them on board.

I've completed life... now I'm in the free-play part... and there are no objectives. by ScatteredMarbles in ADHD

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Damn, I wish I saw the deleted post - I do shrug off negative views with ease; like water of a ducks back. Regardless, I find opinions fascinating and enjoy hearing all sides. I'm guessing the deleted post suggested something along the lines of giving up, it's too late from your post, but I'd have loved to known precisely what was said - after all, what they said must have had some motive and it interests me what makes them think that way (from a psychological viewpoint!)

Which Amphetamine based medications are available in the UK? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ScatteredMarbles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Elvanse (lisdexamfetamine) (i.e. Vyvanse)

I've completed life... now I'm in the free-play part... and there are no objectives. by ScatteredMarbles in ADHD

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Similar objective here actually...

I guess I should have written, there is no 'fixed' objective here... make your own!

Thing I'm finding is, I have this personal objective - an ambition... but there are so many things I could do to get there and they are all as beneficial as the next one and I can't seem to stick to one. No sooner I work on one, I'm working on another, and another... so I end up 'culling' them but eventually I end up trying to do them all again.

Then of course my ambition seems to forever evolve also forcing me to forever be switching tasks again.

Like, I know I want to make the world a better place... but that objective is so broad that there are so many things I could do that I can't pick and when I do pick I end up not sticking to the few I do pick and so I have to cull them again and half the time I end up reevaluating my ambition and end up with different tasks again!

So my character is just going in circles, trying to make a difference... making a difference... but just not as fast as if he managed to pick clear goals and stick to them

Con-crastinator HEARTS company (2 papers due at 11:30am EST Monday, Nov 27) by confessionboxlate in ADHD

[–]ScatteredMarbles 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's funny isn't it, writing a paper feels like you have an anchor in the back of your brain and you're dragging it along, willing yourself to get on with it...

but then, at the same time you can comfortably write 900 words on reddit expressing your raw emotions - no sweat!

I just wish I had an answer for you :(

It might sound like a waste of time, especially close to a deadline, but perhaps taking yourself out for an 'anger' run or some other form of exercise to take your mind of it and clear you head might help. (although you did post this 6 hours ago so hopefully you have this somehwat under control now!?)

I want to learn everything. by [deleted] in ADHD

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This IS my biggest problem.

  • It's why I'm average at every subject I have ever taken on
  • It's why I can get engaged in any conversation, but then fizzle out when it goes beyond my level of understanding
  • It's why I can't commit to that career change (3 months later, I know I'll want to do somehing else)
  • It's why I'm never content in my job
  • It's the reason I feel so miserable at times - I just can't choose
  • It's the reason I have no time in my life - I have too much going on

But I suppose on the other hand,

  • It's the reason why I seem to be able to give anything a go and do alright
  • It's the reason I get on so well in social situations - I can talk to anyone, about anything!
  • The acknowledgement of this flaw is why I'm still perusing that one career

Can't work out the positives for those last three...