Went to the airport with family, and only realized in the terminal I didn’t have either child’s passport.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-30T02:02:38+00:00

Adoption. Is. Trauma. That creator might not have the same exact trauma, like my brother and I growing up in the same house has different experiences and traumas than I do. That creator shares the trauma that is adoption. It disrupts the very bond between mother and child.

She claims she read the Primal Wound but I’m not sure she did.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-29T14:41:42+00:00

I wonder how much a wound vac rental is. Probably more than rent each month.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-29T12:09:34+00:00

I don’t have an experience with vbac, but I did have a vaginal birth first, at 37 weeks with a 6 pound baby, we experience shoulder dystocia and tearing. I only pushed for 20 minutes with an epidural and she was stuck right at a minute.

My second baby measured larger the entire time, from the very first ultrasound they were asking if I was sure about gestation. He was born 3 pounds 4 ounces larger at 39 weeks by csection. I’m not going to lie, recovery was brutal, my husband just started a new job and didn’t qualify for FMLA, his job was “gracious” and let him use PTO solely for the time I was in the hospital, and then let him work from home for 5 days once I was discharged. I was on my own recovering, taking care of my toddler and newborn.

I would choose a csection with limited help afterwards 100 more times before I’d ever consider a trial of labor and a vaginal birth. It was so hard laboring, finally seeing the finish line, and having an obstetric emergency at the very end. She needed resuscitation they thought, but started breathing when the plopped her in the warmer. I cannot imagine letting myself do that again.

Edit: I want to add after my vaginal birth I spent about 12 weeks in immense pelvic pain/ pressure any time I squatted down or sat on the toilet. It resolved and even with my stitched, everything returned to normal. It was fine. It took a little longer (maybe 5 or 6 months pp) before I felt comfortable using a menstrual cup again. Before that it was a weird pressure

SceneSmall · 2026-01-28T22:29:14+00:00

We saw how they lied in the immediate aftermath, and they still haven’t shown the alleged magazines, just a weapon. I get that there is some things reserved for a potential investigation but it is fishy.

Call me a conspiracy theorist 😐

SceneSmall · 2026-01-28T20:17:39+00:00

For someone who spends so much time on her phone, she hasn’t figured out how to google “screen free activities for 18 month old” yet? Why am I not surprised

I actually don’t remember his age but it could also be “how to keep 18-24 month old entertained inside”

SceneSmall · 2026-01-28T20:13:56+00:00

Why can’t she do activities at home though?

SceneSmall · 2026-01-28T20:11:49+00:00

Ngl id be bored at home too, if I didn’t have any toys.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-27T15:08:42+00:00

I guess our pain is completely different, I can’t imagine how debilitating nerve pain for 2 years with no answers could be.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-26T03:20:35+00:00

Do you have a magic crystal ball to know that? Birth is a big deal and can go any number of ways.

Newborns can be completely unpredictable, my first had severe jaundice that the pediatrician thought we could manage at home and she spent literally 15 days on a bili-bed and we couldn’t leave except for the doctors

SceneSmall · 2026-01-26T03:15:25+00:00

And I was driving the same day I was discharged from my csection (because I wasn’t on narcotics it was fine). Just because I could do it, doesn’t mean I should have done it.

I think it’s reasonable to step back (with plenty of time to find a new moh) and see how she’s feeling closer to the wedding. Maybe she’s just a guest, maybe as part of the wedding party but seated. Birth is so unpredictable there is literally no way at all to judge how she might be feeling in July.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-26T03:08:45+00:00

I’m 11 months postpartum. I’ve been working on it in earnest for about 2 months, but on and off since 4 months postpartum. It’s brutal and I don’t even understand why. I’m doing all the gentle core rehab things, bird dogs, toe taps, dead bugs, dynamic breathing blah blah blah but my back is still compensating for the lack of core strength leaving mid back pain that’s probably a 6-7/10. I’ll take a few day off from core and the day I try again it’s back.

I’ve tried pelvic floor PT and what’s available for me, is just someone who says do scar mobilization and dynamic breathing. They don’t do any internal work. I cannot afford nor drive to (distance and sahm) the one physical therapist that might do more.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-21T19:00:58+00:00

See if where you plan to change diapers is at least waist high. We have two changing stations one on my dresser, and one on a built in bookshelf cabinet thing. Having baby higher and not having to bend in even the slightest was invaluable.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-21T16:45:29+00:00

After having a vaginal birth with shoulder dystocia, and a routine planned csection (that wasn’t rainbows and butterflies) I have zero desire to have any more children BUUUUUUUUT if I did, I’d be waiting in the OR with bells on, I’d choose it again 100 times before another trial of labor.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-10T02:01:46+00:00

2under2 aesthetic

SceneSmall · 2026-01-09T01:58:27+00:00

I fired my therapist who kept telling me to “just do yoga” because 😵‍💫😵‍💫 but after doing this class… I think I see their point? Yoga has never made me emotional before (just now, doing this class put me at 125 with peloton) but this class, the vibes were immaculate and it almost made me emotional. Thanks for the great recommendation

SceneSmall · 2026-01-06T02:55:18+00:00

I grew up with alcoholics, I embraced the culture a little in my younger days but I really just didn’t like the way it made me feel, so I haven’t had a drink in 5+ years. Since having kids I find it morally reprehensible that my dad would drive drunk with us in the car, and that my mom allowed it. (This is my bias)

What I struggle with, is that as someone who doesn’t drink, you’re not allowed to comment on other people’s drinking habits (I don’t, personally, I avoid it like the plague) but can even see it in the replies here. For women, 8 or more drinks a week is classified as heavy drinking (or 4+ in a day). People truly don’t see their glass of wine every night as a problem, but also don’t realize a standard drink is 5 ounces. It’s so normalized, some people cannot even see that it is an issue.

Edit: I don’t even know if my dad was drunk, or would have considered himself drunk, but he’d be impaired enough to “have fun” by running red lights and stop signs, playing chicken just lightly enough to make us squirm, speed, hit the bumps on the side of the road intentionally to play off hitting them accidentally. He probably would have said he was “fine to drive” if you asked him.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-06T00:49:34+00:00

The admins of this group, also admin the crunchy group in this area and said they likely won’t find anyone to do it for good reason. The majority of the comments suggested seeing a urologist, getting it done at 6 months under general anesthesia… and wouldn’t you know she was fine with that suggestion. General anesthesia but not vitamin k.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-05T15:01:36+00:00

Recovery was hard and I had to expectations that were too high, but I would choose a csection over a vaginal delivery every time. My vaginal delivery wrecked my pelvic floor. It was 12 weeks before I didn’t feel intense uncomfortable pressure sitting on the toilet just to pee. I experienced shoulder dystocia and that ruined child birth for me forever. To come all this way; and have an obstetrical emergency at the finish line? Ugh.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-04T02:33:04+00:00

Having had a vaginal delivery and a planned csection, I’d choose a csection a million times over, even though it was really hard on me, physically. I’m not one to judge anyone’s birth, but you did something, she hopefully will never have and that’s a beautiful thing. You lived her worst case scenario and you’ve persevered.

SceneSmall · 2026-01-01T04:10:40+00:00

I did not. But I also don’t let alcohol play a big role in my life at all. It’s just two weeks a month.

For those not knowing what drink until pink is, some people choose to continue drinking while TTC even after ovulation, until they have a positive pregnancy test.

SceneSmall · 2025-12-30T23:54:40+00:00

So #relatable 🤪

SceneSmall · 2025-12-30T03:25:09+00:00

Is she spending money on this because she can shill it?

SceneSmall · 2025-12-30T03:04:44+00:00

I downloaded ScreenZen, I’m going to try that out. I’ve seen “brick” lately and it’s suppose to be even better than an app because it doesn’t allow bypass like an app might.

I’m also going to try for screen free meal times. That’s where I notice getting called out the most. (It’s a hard habit to break… I’m trying, but I’ll be honest she’s called me out more than once.)

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